Need advice from relationship gurus: possible bisexual girlfriend

[MikeH]

I think that you should look at WHY you think you can't be with a bisexual girl. If you love her, and I assume you are pretty close at least if you are thinking of moving in together, then you really should be able to accept her for who she is. I think that if you can work out why you have a problem with it you might find out it's not actually a problem anymore.

The other thing to realise is that it's you that has the problem here. It's not fair to punish her for your hangups. After all if she's just into men then she's going to find other men attractive, does that bother you? You say it makes your heart wrench to think about her being attracted to women but what thoughts are going through your head at that time? That will give you a clue to what the problem is, even though it might be a bit embarassing to post what those thoughts are here.

Despite that, all girls comment on how attractive other girls are all the time and Amsterdam uni did some research that showed that straight and lesbian women all got turned on by the same degree by both lesbian and straight porn so I think you are reading too much into it.

[Zoid]

Monkspider, I don´t really understand. What´s the prob, dude? I had a relationship with a bisexual girl a few years ago. That worked out fine (well we did break up after 8 months, but that had nothing to do with her bisexuality...)

The question you should ask yourself is; do I love this girl? If the answer is yes, then the bisexuality shouldn´t be an isssue.

[-=Vagrant=-]

Originally posted by monkspider
See, I know most guys might prefer this, as AH demonstrates, but if I only have one absolute requirement in a girl, it's that she isn't attracted to other girls.
Am I hopeless?

You are hopeless.

Vagrant's bisexual girlfriend

[Saint Marcus]

I dated 2 bisexual gals. I know about 7 or 8 in total (and only 2 "true" gay girls).

+ you all know the plusses
- If they're young and bi, they've usually experiemented a lot to reach that conclusion.

Personally I didn't have a problem with it, was kinda cool at times even, but I do prefer a non-bi-girl. They, on average, tend to be a less...outgoing. Though that depends on the girl of course.

Give me a good christian wait-till-I'm-married kinda girl any time of the week. (the only good thing about christianity )

[Provost Harrison]

I agree with AH, a bisexual girlfriend could have it's distinct 'advantages'

[Serb]

Originally posted by Saint Marcus

Give me a good christian wait-till-I'm-married kinda girl any time of the week. (the only good thing about christianity )

I have one of those write now and I'm pretty tired of she. Womens a strange beings, we have sex after two weaks since we met, it was only once. Later she said that it was a mistake and that she will do it again only after the marraige. I've said good bye and good luck. We didn't saw each other for a few months and then she call me and said- let's start it from begin, but I will not **** untill mariage anyway. Where is the logic?

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Saint Marcus
Give me a good christian wait-till-I'm-married kinda girl any time of the week. (the only good thing about christianity )

I love those. They usually resist a week or two longer....

[SpencerH]

Is it fair to move in with this girl if your doubts are serious enough to post about it here?

[Sikander]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse


I love those. They usually resist a week or two longer....

And the sex is better once you get there.

[Urban Ranger]

Comrade Monkspider,

I don't think her sexual orientation is that important unless she is strictly homosexual.

The important question is whether she is faithful to you. I assume that you two have determined that you are compatible, or you should go back to square one.

Now, if she has been faithful to you, it seems trivial if she finds other women attractive.

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Sikander


And the sex is better once you get there.

Sex is normally better with people who know what they are doing and really enjoy it and aren't crippled with hangups about it. That said if you wait for weeks when you eventually do get it it's great.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Sikander


And the sex is better once you get there.

What's even better than that is knowing that she dated a guy without giving it up for four years before you came in and played homewrecker.

[Serb]

You are sooooooooooooooooo evil.

[Alexander's Horse]

Originally posted by Serb


we have sex after two weaks since we met, it was only once. Later she said that it was a mistake.

Where is the logic?

It was probably the longest 28 seconds of her life

[Serb]

It takes 28 seconds for you when you have sex? You are very fast guy.