Interfering in Other Peoples' Sex Lives

[Gibsie]

I'd usually assume that ht best thing to do about other peoples' sex lives is simply to leave well alone, and let them deal with it, but recently something one of the guys said to me has made me think otherwise. I heard him lamenting over the fact that the next time he'll get to see his girlfriend would be "that time of the month" (although, it was okay for getting head ). I was quite sickened, and felt like shouting at him, "Man, she's only 14!"

But still, it's not really my place to say, is it? Is it..?

[Provost Harrison]

14? Now that is on dangerous territory, especially if he gets done for it.

But as they say, if she's old enough to bleed, she's old enough to breed

[Gibsie]

I really like the way you use a bit of information from my post to make a funn-ee on the whole thing. Ingenius..!

[Provost Harrison]

Ingenious? That's me

[Tom201]

Well 14 is young, but not a child anymore. Old enough to make own decissions. So if she wants to have sex with your friend, its non of your, or anyone elses business.

Did I say I strongly believe in personal freedom?

[Dr. Stiby]

Well 14 is young, but not a child anymore. Old enough to make own decissions. So if she wants to have sex with your friend, its non of your, or anyone elses business.

I agree it's nobody elses business. But I disagree on the fact that you can make your own decisions on this, or a lot of other, issues at the age of 14. By that age tou are just insecure and unaware. You are very vunlerable to manipulation of any kind. Media, friends, etc. So, at the age of 14, you rather do what you think you ought to do, instead of doing what you really want.

[Urban Ranger]

Since a person 14 years old is still considered a minor, it seems irresponsible to assert such a person is "old enough to make own decissions."

[Gibsie]

And if your 21 year-old boyfriend pushes to have sex with you, what 14 year-old girl will say no? Hopefully more than my low expectations assume...

[Tom201]

To say a 14year old is not able to make own decissions is kind of ignorant to reality.
Someone at this age makes his own decissions, and do whatever he wants anyways. You can either give your child a free hand and be part of his live (the teen tells u what is going on and you can give advice or whatever).

Or u try to enforce your rules, and live with the Probability that your child is going to break them and is lying to you.


This believe comes from personal experience:
I did revolt against my parents with the age of 11. With 12 I was free from any rules. My parents told me their opinions etc.
But their ideas how to live, were only suggestions. I discussed with them about it etc.
If they would have tryed to enforce rules I dont accept, they would have gotten no info at all about anything in my life (thats practically the kind of revolt I practiced bevor )


You cant control your child older than 12 and its contraproductive to atempt so.


@ Gibsie
Why should she say no?

[Provost Harrison]

The Dutchies lock antlers

It depends on the individual in my opinion. Many people at 14 are old enough to make such decisions about the direction of their own lives, sometimes the law is a little too arbitrary. But you know what parents and the law are like on the matter. It is a dangerous thing to get involved in, and the penalties are quite severe.

[Gibsie]

I dunno Tom, I guess I have some sort of irrational hope that girls will wait a bit longer than 14 year years before they start having sex...

[Tom201]

@Gibsie
And why is that? Some religios believe?

Sex is the best activity there is. No reason to wait, when you feel you are ready. Life is short

[Tingkai]

Is the guy 21?

[Dr. Stiby]

To say a 14year old is not able to make own decissions is kind of ignorant to reality.

Well, of course a 14 year old is able to make his or her own decisions. However, they don't have the life experience to oversee all the possible outcomes of their choices. Now, you'll never be able to oversee all the possible outcomes of your behavoiur ever, but at 14 you're bound to make a lot of wrong decisions, IMHO.

[Tom201]

Jop, thats why you give advice to your child, and teach it about sex and how to prevent pregnacy and so on.
I dont really see why having sex can be a big wrong decission other than getting pregnant?

I think its healthy to make minor wrong decissions, so you can learn something.
You dont learn much, when not allowed to do anything, and others making the decissions for you.