Marriage

[Verres]

For something a little more light-hearted and frivolous than the EU constitution or advice on how to beat your wife, i was just wondering what Apolyton's views were on this joyous subject.

Ive been thinking about it quite a bit of late - not from a personal perspective, but rather in the way you may be thinking about the meaning of life in general. Not that im saying marriage is the meaning of life. At least i really hope its not. Anway, i want some opinions.

Married? Divorced? Engaged? Despairing with all this romanticism and want to spread the cynicism? All are welcome. People never tend to be honest with me in real life about whether they believe marriage is a worthwhile institution or not, so i am relying on you kind people.

[Pekka]

Marriage - BS contract.

[GePap]

Don't do it till you are ready.

[Verres]

Originally posted by GePap
Don't do it till you are ready.

I feel i must reiterate - not from a personal perspective I am simply curious.

[GePap]

I have never been married.

That is my perspective on it.

[Kontiki]

I'm pretty much an atheist, but I still fully intend to get married. I think there is value in the institution of marriage on a symbolic level if nothing else. Any taxation or other benefits are meaningless to me anyway since in Canada, the same benefits exist for common-law partners.

[Verres]

i meant i wasnt asking from a personal perspective - ie i am not planning on getting married.

[GePap]

'You' in English refers to more then the singular second person.

As in "You the people"

[Verres]

ok, ok, my grammar isnt so great today. i was simply making sure people didnt get the wrong idea, and obviously misunderstood what you meant. sorry.

[Pekka]

Never get Married. Just be with your partner and enjoy each others company and forget that BS, or you just end up getting burned.

[Dis]

Marriage is more advantageous for the woman, than the man. In fact, marriage is almost worthless for the man. Feminist may claim it's an institution to enslave women, but that's far from the truth. Although eventually you will have to do it. many women will leave you if you don't marry them. They wont' wait around forever.

You can try to explain that women have all the advanteges, like alimony and child support. Their family doesn't even have to pay for it in this day and age . The man has to pay for everything. For a contract he can't get out of without losing money . If you explain this logically you may be able to get a prenup. The thing is, most women aren't logical, so a prenup isn't likely to happen . All marriage is today is a business contract where women get the better end of the deal 99% of the time. Women just don't see it that way.

Basically I have no hope of marrying an american woman. I blame it on their attitudes . But the real thing is they have high expectations, and I cannot seem to meet those expectations. I hope one day to find a good foreign woman who thinks of marriage as being for life, and knows how to take care of her husband (I'm mainly thinking about sex here, but then when am I not ), provided I take good care of her.

[Verres]

Originally posted by Pekka
Never get Married. Just be with your partner and enjoy each others company and forget that BS, or you just end up getting burned.

I always took that view myself, but then i tend to use my parents marriage as the basis for that (stupid i know, but i suppose its only natural). I always thought marriage caused problems in a relationship by making it into more of a business deal than anything else....but im not sure. Its a view i have had since i can remember, but now im old enough to think about it more seriously, i thought perhaps it was time i reconsidered the whole issue. I guess i just have too much time on my hands.

[Pekka]

Just say NO. That's all there is to it. You gain nothing from marriage, except some tax things. But it ruins your relationship forever. First few years might be nice, but then it's all downhill. Just say NO.

[Dis]

also it is a proven fact you get less blowjobs after you're married.

[Kontiki]

Originally posted by Dissident
Marriage is more advantageous for the woman, than the man. In fact, marriage is almost worthless for the man. Feminist may claim it's an institution to enslave women, but that's far from the truth. Although eventually you will have to do it. many women will leave you if you don't marry them. They wont' wait around forever.

You can try to explain that women have all the advanteges, like alimony and child support. Their family doesn't even have to pay for it in this day and age . The man has to pay for everything. For a contract he can't get out of without losing money . If you explain this logically you may be able to get a prenup. The thing is, most women aren't logical, so a prenup isn't likely to happen

That may be the case if you're inclined to marry a goldbricking piece of white trash. However, if you set your aims a little higher and marry someone who is actually at least your equal in terms of intelligence and earning potential, not to mention someone that actually has similar interests, ambitions and goals in life, there is no "advantage" to be had in a marriage other than a mutual one.