Attention all you players

[Solly]

Uhm, this works for me.

Go out, pick the girl you are going to pick up that night, get eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, walk over and have a chat (maybe a dance if it's that sorta place), have a bit of a snog, walk her home, give her your number and have her begging for more when she calls you the next day...

This never used to work for me until about 6 months ago and now it seems to happen when I am not trying. I think it might be purely confidence based (and the expertise of getting rejected x times over the last 10 years or so ). Being confident about your own body helps a lot, so deos having a sense of rythm.

Being 6 foot plus and an incredibly fit athlete, I'd imagine you have something of an advantage you know...

[DaShi]

Originally posted by Makeo
I've found you just have to be incredibly handsome, then you don't have to do anything. They come to you.

I just dress in black and don't say much.

[lightblue]

Originally posted by Park Avenue


Being 6 foot plus and an incredibly fit athlete, I'd imagine you have something of an advantage you know...

Yup, isn't life a b!tch

It is the confidence that it brings though. Back in my depressed stage my self confidence was shot, and even though I was of a not dissimilar build as i am now the puling was a lot harder.

Makeo: Don't you find that the girls that do come up are usually ones that you wouldn't go for?

[Drake Tungsten]

Oh and don't ever just concentrate on one. Spread your interest around. Before long you will have many different ones that you are familiar with. If your patient, you can get it to where you can pick and choose.

Best advice so far. In the end, it really does come down to volume.

[lightblue]

Debatable, it depends if you let other potential targets see you chat up a load of people. If they do they realise they're down on the list, and that isn't conducive to furthering relations.

If you can have one on the go in different social settings, much better

[Drake Tungsten]

Debatable, it depends if you let other potential targets see you chat up a load of people. If they do they realise they're down on the list, and that isn't conducive to furthering relations.

Well, of course. I'm assuming that the "playa" in question at least has the smarts to avoid letting his different targets ever meet each other.

[Bereta_Eder]

I don't think there's a "recipee". If a girl likes you she'll go out with you assuming you have the balls to ask - flat out.

[Makeo]

Originally posted by lightblue

Makeo: Don't you find that the girls that do come up are usually ones that you wouldn't go for?

Yeah your right.

[C0ckney]

Originally posted by Makeo
I've found you just have to be incredibly handsome, then you don't have to do anything. They come to you.

how did you find that out?

stories are a good way of getting girls in to bed. i'm the king of stories ( ), but i'm ****ed if i know how to get a bird to be my girlfriend :/

[Makeo]

Originally posted by C0ckney


how did you find that out?

You must have told me in London.

[Cruddy]

Most important thing is initial eye contact. Don't keep it going too long - but a couple of seconds staring intently before walking over makes it plain that you want are interested and have noticed them.

After that, it's down to your flirting skills - and keep asking, don't get downhearted by rejection.

Happy hunting, just remember the journey is more important than the destination.

[Solly]

stories are a good way of getting girls in to bed. i'm the king of stories

Don't try pulling outside the south. They'd never understand you.

[Japher]

Being good looking does help, since I couldn't get that one to work I decided to just be rich

Yeah, lots of good advice.

Listen to the yap.

Talk to them; that's not only step one as I have found out Pretend that you actually want to hear what they have to say, and that their life is more important than you getting into their pants

Confidence helps in talking to them and braving the line of being yourself. Women not only like to see that men are confident, but sure of themself, not egotistical, but with a sound mind and ideals. This is because most women are into relationships, and they see confidence as a sign of obedience.

Shower. Seriously, don't smell or dress sloppy or look like sheit. Maybe it's the style, I don't know, but dress to conform. If you want to show confidence through your dress do so subtly.

Be active. Go out, join clubs, participate. They like that kind of thing. For some reason women always have more energy to do that kind of thing than guys do.

Oh, and I wouldn't call 'em chicks. I like to use "ladies".

[Jac de Molay]

Man, this is like watching Stevie Wonder give driving lessons.

Sense of humor, sense of humor, sense of humor. The rest takes care of itself

[Sprayber]

It's not as simple as volume. I have lots and lots of female friends. Not all of them are available at the moment and may never be but I have foundations with them all that I could start building on, that if they did become available I would be one of the first people they would seek out. Of course you will end up with lots of female friends and when you do find that someone special, she may have a problem with the fact that you do have friendships with those women.

I think the main point that everyone here is trying to get across is that a guy has to get out and talk. And don't limit yourself to just one social setting.