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  • #31
    I'm not married, so I'm going to shut up and listen.

    Thanks for the thread, Paiktis. Your thoughts mirror mine.

    Edit:

    /me tosses rotten tomato at Striker.
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    • #32
      I think a lot of marriages fail because people have unrealistic expectations.
      Any views I may express here are personal and certainly do not in any way reflect the views of my employer. Tis the rising of the moon..

      Look, I just don't anymore, okay?

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      • #33
        Originally posted by Alexander's Horse
        I think a lot of marriages fail because people have unrealistic expectations.
        I totally agree,

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        • #34
          so far about marriage, from what i've observed, is that it helps to like the person you're marrying.

          haven't got a clue about anything past that, other than children can often strain it to the breaking point, or bring 'em closer together.
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          • #35
            "Like" is a good word because I don't even think you need to have a lot in common.

            Mrs Horse and I have virtually nothing in common - except a sometimes unhealthy obsession with each other.
            Any views I may express here are personal and certainly do not in any way reflect the views of my employer. Tis the rising of the moon..

            Look, I just don't anymore, okay?

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            • #36
              you 2 do it like rabbits
              We the people are the rightful masters of both Congress and the courts, not to overthrow the Constitution but to overthrow the men who pervert the Constitution. - Abraham Lincoln

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              • #37
                Companionship. The one thing I crave.
                Speaking of Erith:

                "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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                • #38
                  Just remember, love and hate are 2 sides of the same coin.
                  Any views I may express here are personal and certainly do not in any way reflect the views of my employer. Tis the rising of the moon..

                  Look, I just don't anymore, okay?

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                  • #39
                    Originally posted by Q Cubed
                    so far about marriage, from what i've observed, is that it helps to like the person you're marrying.

                    haven't got a clue about anything past that, other than children can often strain it to the breaking point, or bring 'em closer together.
                    Yes it is essential that you "like" at a minimum...


                    One thing not touched on is RESPECT

                    I would say you should endeavor to Respect the other person, even when they may not quite do unto you as you would like.

                    Show them what they mean to you and it will further enhance your relationship.

                    Forgiveness

                    Lose your scorecards folks..

                    Love means never having to say your sorry..although it sure helps..

                    I found that it is best to not let the sun go down on your anger

                    Talk to one another..

                    air out your differences

                    agree-2-disagree

                    allow for communication..even when it hurts!

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                    • #40
                      Mrs Horse and I have been having some differences lately. Nothing unusual.

                      I told her what I missed was being the best of friends. I reminded her of how we once spent all our time together. She took that thought on board and things got better. The thing we are disagreeing about is still there though. It will be for quite some time I suspect.

                      Something children don't realise is that their parents can have differences which take a long time to work through, months or years, sometimes decades. Some things never get patched up. You just have to move on, put it aside.

                      The good thing about children is there is always something happening in their lives to take your mind off your troubles.
                      Any views I may express here are personal and certainly do not in any way reflect the views of my employer. Tis the rising of the moon..

                      Look, I just don't anymore, okay?

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                      • #41
                        from what i've seen of marriages that work, it also helps to not kill each other. it's hard to be happy in a marriage when one person ends up face down and floating in a river... or aflame... but on the other end, when one person keeps feeling they're shat upon.
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                        • #42
                          I know that communication is important.
                          Such that when there are problems in the relationship and one partner asks the other what is wrong, her answer should not continuously be "everything is fine".
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                          • #43
                            Question :: When my fiancee says 'everything is fine.' or something to that affect, I usually pry and pry until I find out what went wrong (usually something I did or she thinks I did) and then I try to fix that thing. Its just the way I am, I can't let things just float along. Is this the right approach or should I let it brood until she wants to talk?
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                            • #44
                              Originally posted by ghen
                              Question :: When my fiancee says 'everything is fine.' or something to that affect, I usually pry and pry until I find out what went wrong (usually something I did or she thinks I did) and then I try to fix that thing. Its just the way I am, I can't let things just float along. Is this the right approach or should I let it brood until she wants to talk?
                              $1,000,000.00 Question

                              I say be patient , give her a little time but get down on your knees , be sincere and tell her that you Love her and just want to be all she needs and wants...thi is..IF you actually feel this way..because she, like you, is somewhat vulnerable when hurting and thus even moreso defensive..

                              Be Honest

                              Be Kind

                              Be Sincere

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                              • #45
                                sometimes a woman doesn't want you to fix her problems for her.
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