Best Method for Approaching Women

[Solly]

Bumping into her?

Actually I find pubs and clubs awful for meeting women anyway. Work, gym, lectures, friends of friends all offer better possibility IMO.

[Jon Miller]

I have spilled guys drinks before

never girls drinks

Jon Miller

[Solly]

A pint is easier to spill than a Smirnoff Ice.

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Boddington's Actually I find pubs and clubs awful for meeting women anyway. Work, gym, lectures, friends of friends all offer better possibility IMO.

At uni it was easy to meet girls everywhere all the time. Now it's harder because I work in a tiny company and there aren't enough people here. Oh... except for the band thing of course.

[Jon Miller]

it is hard to meet girls in physics

Jon Miller

[Solly]

Don't remind me about the walking into lecture rooms that Physics or CompSci students had just been in. inchnose:

[Jon Miller]

physicist bath and are on a whole much more social and the like than comp sci people

in my college Physicists had the best parties of all the geeks (Chemists, Maths, Comp Scis, ect)

Jon Miller

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
it is hard to meet girls in physics

Jon Miller

I was doing Astrophysics, it had a much higher female ratio to normal physics, and those girls shared houses or whatever with other girls on other coursesso you can meet them that way. Also I had friends who did other courses that had loads of girls on them. And at uni you could go up to anyone in a student bar and introduce yourself. Especially in the first term, then you meet loads of people to keep in touch with.

[Jon Miller]

my first year I was fairly antisocial

my problem there (and I did meet a few girls)

and yah, for some reason girls like astrophysics better

Jon Miller

[Az]

Stop this. I am studying in a technological university... The only places with hot girls are Architecture, and Economics...

We're lucky we have that other university around a mile away.

[loinburger]

Comp Sci's got a terrible male/female ratio. What's worse, a lot of the Comp Sci women already have arranged marriages set up. Maybe I'd have better luck if I took a couple of EE courses...

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
and yah, for some reason girls like astrophysics better

Jon Miller

More of them pick it as a course and they like it more when you tell them that's what you did. Probably for the same reason I picked it, because space and stuff is interesting to everyone.

[Eli]

Originally posted by Azazel
Stop this. I am studying in a technological university... The only places with hot girls are Architecture, and Economics...

We're lucky we have that other university around a mile away.

And all the women there are at least 3 years older. So .

Actually, not , .

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Velociryx
If you're at a club, approach the woman in question, looking bored and vaguely disgusted. Start people watching with her, and make fun of the various "pickup lines" you hear being fired off around you. Make up a few of your own (horrible) ones, and "pretend" you're using them (the worse the better), making fun of "those idiots."

Example:

* Velociryx looks disgusted at the latest pickup line by the guy at the end of the bar. Points the offending cretin out to the lady sitting near.

"I *really* hate that....no imagination whatsoever....he may as well stumble up to the lady he's after and say....h...hey baby, I'm a f....feces....what's your sign?"

Ice broken, and you set yourself apart as being a person who simply wouldn't stoop to using cheesy lines.

-=Vel=-

I have actually done something similar. I approached a girl I had seen around and said " I'm supposed to have some line like ( and I rattled off a couple of awful ones) but I hate lines so I'll just be straightforward. I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you and get to know you better"


I have found that variations on the last sentence have been very successful. In one sentence you have let her know:

a) you like her in not the "just friends" way
b) you are not TOTALLY full of crap
c) you have the confidence to say what you are thinking, and
d) you want to talk to her

IF you follow up with a question about something you know she can talk about, you should be fine. Pick easy questions first but ones where she has to do the talking. If she asks about you, answer as briefly as possible and end your answer with anotheer question for her. before you know it, you have been talkoing for 20 minutes and she is having a good time ( almost everyone enjoys talking about themselves). Breal things off with . . I really enjoyed our chat . . . perhaps we could continue it saturday over coffee?

Warnings
1. 35 year old married guy giving the advice

2. This works mainly to get a conversation and a date-- if looking to get laid you will likely have to be more aggressive/ suggestive .

[Dinner]

How about "Hi, my name is..."