Long distance relationships

[Tuberski]

Reg has a twin sister?

ACK!

[Ben Kenobi]

You seem bitter actually because you seem to take pride in managing relationships with women and I told you that you aren't qualified.

[regexcellent]

Damn, just blew my thanks load

Taking relationship advice from Ben is kind of like taking investment advice from Charles Ponzi.

Reg has a twin sister?

ACK!

No, a twin brother who posts here under the handle Hauldren Collider . My girlfriend has a twin sister. Who is by the way a crazy horse lady (and I mean a crazy horse lady, as crazy as they come), but that's neither here nor there I suppose.

[Ben Kenobi]

Taking relationship advice from Ben is kind of like taking investment advice from Charles Ponzi.

The only advice I've offered here is that a relationship takes effort. You should be willing to work at it. Advice that I'll note is shared by the other polytubbies here who have rather more experience than I do.

The other advice I've offered is to weigh whether you think this particular relationship is worth the effort of relocating to CA, and then decide what to do. If you think that it is, give it a shot. If not, move on.

[DaShi]

[Kidlicious]

It doesn't just take effort or work. That's like saying building a house takes effort. Stop giving people horrible abvice.

[Tuberski]

Taking relationship advice from Ben is kind of like taking investment advice from Charles Ponzi.



No, a twin brother who posts here under the handle Hauldren Collider . My girlfriend has a twin sister. Who is by the way a crazy horse lady (and I mean a crazy horse lady, as crazy as they come), but that's neither here nor there I suppose.

Moreover, like me, she has a twin sister to whom she is equally attached and

You called HC your twin sister.

ACK!

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Closet case?

Yep. Seriously. You come across as a closet case.

I've been divorced for 10 years. She has very little capability to make life worse for me but she still does what she can. But I'm not bitter.

Better sue your typing fingers for misrepresentation, in that case. Try launching a poll reading "Do I come across as bitter?".

I'm happily divorced. Now if I thought it were my responsibility to manage the relationship I suppose I might feel bad about it.

You seem bitter actually because you seem to take pride in managing relationships with women and I told you that you aren't qualified.

No you didn't. Unless there's a microdot at the end of that "You're going to fail, bro", of course. And bitterness would suggest I'm reflecting negatively on an adverse history, but given that I'm 20 years into a very happy marriage and plan on staying that way for many more there's not exactly much room for bitterness to grow. But hey! From your position of abject failure in this field please feel free to keep projecting if it provides some form of desperate temporary relief.

[Kidlicious]

Yep. Seriously. You come across as a closet case.





Better sue your typing fingers for misrepresentation, in that case. Try launching a poll reading "Do I come across as bitter?".



No you didn't. Unless there's a microdot at the end of that "You're going to fail, bro", of course. And bitterness would suggest I'm reflecting negatively on an adverse history, but given that I'm 20 years into a very happy marriage and plan on staying that way for many more there's not exactly much room for bitterness to grow. But hey! From your position of abject failure in this field please feel free to keep projecting if it provides some form of desperate temporary relief.

Yeah, if you started a poll some people would say I'm bitter. Most of those people would just be doing it in fun, but others would be doing it in a spirit of bitterness, like you and Ben Kenobi. The fact that you want me to start a poll so that a bunch of people can try to make me feel bad for being divorced highlights how horribly bitter you are.

It doesn't matter that you've been married for 20 years. That doesn't mean that you've managed the relationship successfully. SHE HAS! Because you aren't qualified. If I were you I would try not to be so bitter about constructive criticism. That's likely the best that you can do.

[SurvivalCrow]

It will only work if one or both of you are willing to move to make it happen.

Thats a big problem I have there.
WOMEN usually waits for men to move. But there are times that both of them needs to do it.
Been there.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

The fact that you want me to start a poll so that a bunch of people can try to make me feel bad for being divorced highlights how horribly bitter you are.

There's nothing bad about being divorced. Many lovely people are divorced. The problem is that you think you're an expert due to a track record of abject failure which you don't appear to have learned anything constructive from. And you're a bit mad.

It doesn't matter that you've been married for 20 years. That doesn't mean that you've managed the relationship successfully. SHE HAS! Because you aren't qualified. If I were you I would try not to be so bitter about constructive criticism. That's likely the best that you can do.

This is probably the maddest thing I've read here. Well done. I hope this is providing some kind of comfort because nobody's going to buy into the concept that you can speak with any kind of authority on my marriage. Now go pay more alimony and cry about it more, Mr Totally Not Bitter.

[regexcellent]

Kidicious, this thread isn't about your sour grapes, so please leave them somewhere else.

My parents have been married for 35 years. They've had their ups and downs. They've had vicious fights. My mother has done awful things to my father and vice versa. But they manage to work it out every time. They are qualified to talk about marriage. You are not.

[Kidlicious]

There's nothing bad about being divorced. Many lovely people are divorced. The problem is that you think you're an expert due to a track record of abject failure which you don't appear to have learned anything constructive from. And you're a bit mad.




This is probably the maddest thing I've read here. Well done. I hope this is providing some kind of comfort because nobody's going to buy into the concept that you can speak with any kind of authority on my marriage. Now go pay more alimony and cry about it more, Mr Totally Not Bitter.

I didn't accuse you of being bitter against divorced people. I accused you of being bitter of me because I told you that you aren't capable of managing a relationship with a woman.

[Kidlicious]

Kidicious, this thread isn't about your sour grapes, so please leave them somewhere else.

What sour grapes? And if you think you know how to manage a relationship with a woman you're a fool, especially if said woman lives far away. You're in for a rude awakening.

[regexcellent]

Managing a relationship joins such herculean feats as cooking for yourself and holding down a job in that if it were really as hard as you say, the human race would have died out long ago. It is an ordinary, mundane thing most people do successfully after some practice.