So my wife left the house this morning

[C0ckney]

you're the man pekka

[Pekka]

It feels good to post good news because I would post if the results were bad. That is one of the thoughts that enters the mind: "Great! Now I get to post that everything is OK".

About moms and women, I'll just lay off, it's nto a good idea, I think was it Kid who posted about dating too soon and finding himself in a similar position as before. I'lll avoid that.

But friends, do not worry if you are a man and divorced with kids. Look at the positive side: you most likely get to see the kids (I hope as often as possible), so in the meanwhile you get to do what you want as an adult, and get rest. I was full of energy when the kids came back to me and 4 days in a row, they just can't wear me down anymore like they used to. Because I get to SLEEP in between.

Also, in my case, I kept the house. This might really suck if you can't.

But I've found out that women really like single/divorced dads if you're like a normal person. Just don't be a drunk or an *******. Moms, or women at 30 and over are tired of men that are *******s. And they have probably met them all at this point. This is the great "now it's the time for the nice guy" phase! That's ALL they're looking for, especially if they have kids. Not some douche who is looking for sex.

Don't drink too much? A huge plus. Get a haircut every now and then? Now you're like a model almost.

THere is a dilemma of course: why is she single/divorced? Is she a psycho/etc. Find out, and you're golden. At my age or situation, 20 something girls are not even attractive anymore. THey're jtu trying to hard.

[Kidlicious]

It's true that I didn't date for awhile. You might hook up too soon with the wrong person. You are divorced. Face reality. That is a lose. So you will try to get that back. But don't. Wait until you are able to choose wisely.

[Pekka]

Agreed. And I can't choose wisely right now. The world is filled with great women, so better not go for the first one.

[Aeson]

Awesome news Pekka!

[Dinner]

It seems like this experience, as bad as it was, has given you some valuable New perspectives on life. Take your time, enjoy life a bit, and think about what you really want most out of a partner and just general life goals. Once you know what you want it becomes so much easier to find it.

[Bereta_Eder]

a-ma-zi-ing news

[Ben Kenobi]

Congrats Pekka!

[Pekka]

Dinner, definitely. I would not give my old cancer away. Yes, it still might come back (and statistically will), but I'm much more happier now. Combined with this divorce, I'm jstu a happy man. I feel alive!

I wake up every morning feeling good, I go sleep feeling good, and in between, I feel good. Every day is good. Because it's a blessing to have a new day.

Also, I'm bringing in some new mojo I never had. I tried to impress girls or young women by appearing strong, well that was true one time. But it appealed to girls. Now? I'm not so strong, but mentally very much so. Women (that beat girls 100-0 any day) find it appealing.

It seems so easy to have womens reaction these days. Of course I never tried when I was with my ex wife, but it's just so easy. Look into their eyes, look into the back of their heads, (as in through their eyes), and smile in a warm way. It just always works. It even works on younger women, but that's because I'm now a bit older and still gots some of my look added with providing capability (the girls suck though so their loss, go back to boys). Just smile, be polite, look into the eyes, LISTEN, ask how are you doing, have some courage "I find you interesting, would you let me buy you a cup of coffee?". It all works. There is a catch. YOu HAVE to be happy. If you're just fake smiling, you are a creep. Some sex driven psycho trying to lure women into a rape van or something.

But if you're happy, it can be sensed and it will bring joy to everyone. People like to be around happy people. Because it makes them feel all warm and fuzzy. So spread the love a bit. So you will not find this "skill" in a gym, it is to be found within yourself. When you are truly happy, and I mean it in an honest way, you are attractive by default.

Even a bit chubby woman, who is just happy and it's obvious, is much more sexy and attractive than fit but depressed women. It's a fact. That's how you engage. And it's success every single time. Today a woman was almost begging for me to ask her for a coffee, kept waiting for me when I went to another place to get my stuff, and walked with me and babbling all kinds of stuff, just trying to make conversation. Of course I felt happy she was interested but still, I have to be alone some more before I'm really good to go. I don't know what I want yet. I want to do psychedelics (who knows!) and some woman might disagree with tthat. Can't let that get into the way of exploration.

I'm just telling you guys who are trying too hard, stop. Be happy first, and women will come to you. Even more so, be thankful. It also radiates. But don't be a push over. Just happy.

[Pax]

Glad that you are well.

[Pekka]

Well, perhaps, but I'm still get pissed off fast. Depends. LIke today, I JUST got my son to sleep, who is a bit jumpy and traumatised by the events and sort of cries a lot due to anxiety and confusion. So it was difficult to get him to sleep and he kept crying and holding my hnad... then he fell asleep and suddenly someone rang the door bell fast. By the way of it, I thought someone has been hit by a buss or they're trying to rob me so I took my baseball bat and went to open the door (hiding the bat in case it was legit) and some freaking punk kept running away and laughing it off. Just kids,I know... Not serious at all, but my son got hysterical and scared.

I was like THAT IS IT and put on my running shoes and tried to catch the punk, I didn't manage, which is good because I did have my bat. He saw it so probably won't return and if he does return, he is up to it then. I will make no hesitation to use it.

But I think it was a one-off, just a kid doign what kids do. Not mad anymore, I'm glad I was unable to catch him though. It was cold outside and I didn't have pants on, only shorts and a t-shirt plus after you run with a bat in a nice neighbourhood for a while at night, shouting "come back you idiot!", you realise you better go back home....

They stillw ant to do 3 more rounds of chemo, I think OK... let's go.

[Kidlicious]

Supercitizen

[Sava]

more victories for supercitizen

[Joseph]

Go slow and easy.

[DinoDoc]

Go slow and easy.