My GF has gained weight (~7kg about 15 punds I think)

[Krill]

Yup, that's #1.

[Krill]

The above post refers to both 2 previous posts as well.

[Heraclitus]

BREAK UP WITH HER YPU STUPID PROCRASTINATING ****HEAD

But I care for her. I don't want to let her go.

[Kitschum]

But I care for her. I don't want to let her go.

[Guynemer]

Try this:

Offer to do something fun, but active, but don't bring it up anywhere near the context of her weight. I.e., we should go on a long bike ride today, or let's go down to the playground and just shoot some baskets, or something like that. Not only would that potentially help her with the weight, but regular exercise has been shown to improve moods.

[Heraclitus]

Try this:

Offer to do something fun, but active, but don't bring it up anywhere near the context of her weight. I.e., we should go on a long bike ride today, or let's go down to the playground and just shoot some baskets, or something like that. Not only would that potentially help her with the weight, but regular exercise has been shown to improve moods.

I think I could fit stuff like that into my schedule, thanks for the advice.

[Guynemer]

Guynemer: Dr. Love, bringing people together since 2005.

[Kitschum]

WOmen = know what you're thinking. If she's anything like the ones I know she can see through all of your schemes

[KrazyHorse]

It's obvious that you don't share an honest relationship with your girlfriend if you can't face up to telling her that you've got an issue with a change in her appearance.

I'm not kidding. Trying to trick her into losing weight is pathetic. Either live with it or tell her it's a problem.

[Guynemer]

It's not about tricking her into losing weight. It's about having a healthier lifestyle, and doing things that will bring them closer together.

[KrazyHorse]

That is an utter copout and you know it.

He's trying to use a shared activity to change her appearance without telling her that he has a problem with her appearance.

[Guynemer]

Yes. The very first thing I said in this thread is that 15 pounds isn't that much, and if it that is really affecting his opinion of her he ought to reexamine his standards.

However, it also sounds like he does have deeper feelings for her, and she's having some mood problems. Doing active things with one another can only help deepen their feelings for one another and help her emotional state.

[Kitschum]

Like I said,

[KrazyHorse]

Yes. The very first thing I said in this thread is that 15 pounds isn't that much, and if it that is really affecting his opinion of her he ought to reexamine his standards.

However, it also sounds like he does have deeper feelings for her, and she's having some mood problems. Doing active things with one another can only help deepen their feelings for one another and help her emotional state.

15 pounds is more than enough to significantly change somebody's appearance nude. If my wife gained 15 pounds with no good reason (for example, pregnancy) I'd have a serious problem with it, and I'd let her know. I'm not kidding about this. On an average (say, 5'5 woman i.e. 1.65m or so) 7kg adds 2.6 to BMI, and will take them from (if they're in decent shape) ~23% body fat to ~30% body fat (assuming the weight gained is mostly fat).

It's instantly noticeable. Romantic relationships have a large sexual component and for both men AND women sexual attractiveness is based in large part on physical characteristics. Denying that is denying human nature.

[asleepathewheel]

Use her need to stuff her face to your advantage-every time she reaches for food, you whip it out and stick your dick in her face. Win-Win-Win.