Lost items department: Your virginity

[Heraclitus]

[QUOTE=Dis;5539697] I was so nervous I wasn't even able to you know what in you know what. So it wasn't that great. [QUOTE]

Exactly what happenend to me. Fortunatley I was prepared for precisley this circumstance.



PS Dis. Is it really that hard to use the internet to educate yourself about sex? Just get some manuals or even videos (and no I'm not talking about p0rn). Register on a forum where you can ask for advice of this kind and then post away. Study the material available make notes and then compare practical experience with what you have read.

PPS If you really are a "nice guy" you probably need to practice kino escalation (google it up) and once you master that you should be able to get the chance to get practical experience.

[Heraclitus]

in fact, I really apologize for all my talk. I know it gets annoying. I need to keep things to myself.

And this is a family site. I just realized like 4 threads on this first page pertain to sex. Shame on all you. And shame on me as well. As I said I apoligize. I should try to keep things clean.

Be an adult. As long as you aren't vulgar or pornographic about it I don't see a reason you can't talk about it. I mean what is this an Islamic Republic?
The majority of people here are adults. Very few if any minors on this site.



Seriusly why is sex such a big deal in America? I mean who cares if the president is getting some help from an assistant? Teenagers will have sex no matter what you do, women cheat at least as much as men, condoms stop AIDS and penises are about 15 cm long so can you guys please stop being hysterical about this so that global pop culture can move forward?

Thank you.


Now, have you considered that you might have created an artificial division between "sexual things" and "normal things" in your mind? Sex even good sex, is nothing more special than any other pleasurable activity. Its no less mundane then brekfast or watching a movie. If you consider it as something special and dfficult to get, women will sense that. You must avoid this at all costs. NEVER tell a woman you have a hard time getting women. For a woman getting laid is easy and if it isn't for you she will think there must be something wrong with you. Its just thier reality. (there may be exceptions, those with incredibly low self esteem or childhood psychological traumas but do you really want those women?) )

[Jon Miller]

That's not how I wish to be Heraclitus.

I want sex to be a pleasurable, intimate activity that is special between two people who love eachother. I don't care about good sex, or needing to get laid. (Well, I care, but it is pretty low on my priorities)

By the way, I have read a bit about "The Game". It is manipulation and I don't like it.

JM

[David Floyd]

"The Game" isn't manipulation - it's realism.

Sure, there are different degrees of honesty, and I try to be as honest as possible. But "having game" doesn't mean "manipulating someone into sex", it just means that you have the ability to talk to women (or men) that you're interested in, in a way that's not going to scare them off or make them think you're desperate and crazy.

It all comes down to psychology. Yeah, I wish it wasn't necessary, either, but unfortunately, in our society, it is, due to ingrained expectations regarding how to interact.

[Lorizael]

That's not how I wish to be Heraclitus.

I want sex to be a pleasurable, intimate activity that is special between two people who love eachother. I don't care about good sex, or needing to get laid. (Well, I care, but it is pretty low on my priorities)

By the way, I have read a bit about "The Game". It is manipulation and I don't like it.

JM

Goddammit I just lost the game.

[Lorizael]

I'm currently listening to the album I lost my virginity to: Abbey Road.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Oh good god. I've just looked up "kino escalation", and it makes me want to punch the creator in the windpipe.

It can be paraphrased as this- "OK, you're hideous but you want sex with objectified women who would normally panic in your presence. Here's how to confuse them into compliance."

[David Floyd]

I also Googled kino escalation, and had a similar reaction.

One of the stupider examples of how to use kino escalation from one of the sites goes as follows:

Guy: "Are you a good kisser?"
Girl: "Yes, I'm great."
Guy: "I bet you're not - prove it."

They start making out, but the guy quickly pushes her away.



I suppose that works if you're trying to date 16 year olds and drunk girls.

[Wiglaf]

I'm currently listening to the album I lost my virginity to: Abbey Road.

That is disgusting

[Alinestra Covelia]

Allow me to quote Freddie Mercury:

Open up your mind and let me step inside
Rest your weary head and let your heart decide
It's so easy when you know the rules
It's so easy all you have to do is fall in love
Play the game, everybody play the game of love.

[Arrian]

At one point I was locked in the bathroom and he was crouched outside pleading with me through the keyhole, making the (apparently very unusual) argument that he'd just measured himself and he was actually rather small so I don't have to worry.

[Kidlicious]

That is disgusting

[Gibsie]

One of the stupider examples of how to use kino escalation from one of the sites goes as follows:

Guy: "Are you a good kisser?"
Girl: "Yes, I'm great."
Guy: "I bet you're not - prove it."

They start making out, but the guy quickly pushes her away.



I suppose that works if you're trying to date 16 year olds and drunk girls.

I expect it was probably more like a drunk 16 year-old girl.

I was going to google the term, but the two posts talking about it so far have convinced me not to

[Traianvs]

perhaps you are right. But based on the above posts, it has happened at least once for most people. Why can't it happen to me? I just don't understand. But perhaps I am deluding myself. There is a significant portion of the population that can't find a mate, and perhaps it is time I accept I am one of those. But I think alot of those people are just butt ugly , which I don't feel I am. Not to mention I'm moderately successful. I just have this annoying nice guy trait I can't get rid of. But surely there is one woman in the world who wants a nice guy. I just figured a woman who calls me this much, must be interested in me. None of my other female friends ever called me this much (usually just once a day).

oh well sorry for the threadjack, I'll try to stop thinking about this stuff.

Not wallowing in self-pity and thinking positively is a first good step. Confidently look women you like in the eyes. It's almost harmless provided you don't keep doing it too often or start staring. The upside is you can at least know who you might approach (even with women you know already), if they meet your gaze willingly. Just don't be too shy about it.

[self biased]

i lost my virginity to the tune of slayer's "chemical warfare."