Lost items department: Your virginity

[Dis]

on a related note, where's a good place to find out how to have sex? I mean doing it the proper way (to make the woman feel good and stuff ). Is it really like how it is in porn? Do real people have sex that way?

[Saras]

16, my then gf's place with her parents out.

[-Jrabbit]

Poor Dis. I don't know where to begin.

My take: Based on what you've told us previously, this woman is not pursuing you, but want you on the bench waiting, just in case. Thus the "little sister" thing. She may actually want to develop a real friendship, or she may be a *****-tease. If she reverts to the always-touching behavior, you'll know it's the latter.

Regarding friends and sex: Absolutely, it happens. I was non-sexual friends with the woman who is now my wife for many years before things changed.

But hey, instead of threadjacking here, we should do the necromancy thing on your other thread.

[Alinestra Covelia]

What are you trying to say about Ali Cove?

[Kidlicious]

on a related note, where's a good place to find out how to have sex? I mean doing it the proper way (to make the woman feel good and stuff ). Is it really like how it is in porn? Do real people have sex that way?

Women are different. Get her to tell you what she wants.

[MikeH]

I believe I've even discussed my past experiences before. If we go back far enough there was even a thread, IIRC, on my experience with the woman. The cops came and busted the party we were at shortly thereafter and it was one ****ed up night. I'm pretty sure it was here I made the thread on it -- does anyone else here remember that?

I remember that, yep.

[Dis]

Poor Dis. I don't know where to begin.

My take: Based on what you've told us previously, this woman is not pursuing you, but want you on the bench waiting, just in case. Thus the "little sister" thing. She may actually want to develop a real friendship, or she may be a *****-tease. If she reverts to the always-touching behavior, you'll know it's the latter.

Regarding friends and sex: Absolutely, it happens. I was non-sexual friends with the woman who is now my wife for many years before things changed.

But hey, instead of threadjacking here, we should do the necromancy thing on your other thread.

perhaps you are right. But based on the above posts, it has happened at least once for most people. Why can't it happen to me? I just don't understand. But perhaps I am deluding myself. There is a significant portion of the population that can't find a mate, and perhaps it is time I accept I am one of those. But I think alot of those people are just butt ugly , which I don't feel I am. Not to mention I'm moderately successful. I just have this annoying nice guy trait I can't get rid of. But surely there is one woman in the world who wants a nice guy. I just figured a woman who calls me this much, must be interested in me. None of my other female friends ever called me this much (usually just once a day).

oh well sorry for the threadjack, I'll try to stop thinking about this stuff.

[Darius871]

I know I probably shouldn't get my hopes up. But my "friend" wants to go out drinking and shoot pool. I also gave her my address when she asked it, which I have never done for any female friends before (they never cared about where I lived). And she tells me not to try to find other gf's, and one will eventually come. I just can't help but get my hopes up over her. We kinda have to be officially friends since we arent allowed to date according to company rules (this is the same girl I was telling you guys about earlier btw in the women thread- I even asked her out a couple weeks ago), so that's one reason we are friends. Actually the other day she wanted to be my little sister, so I called her little sis. So it would be really strange if we actually did do it. It'd be like doing my little sister.

I hate getting my hopes up and having them crushed, but I can't help it. do friends ever end up having sex with each other? Why would she want to do "date" stuff if we are just friends. Actually it could be considered friend stuff if it was a couple guys, so maybe I shouldn't read anything into it. because it seems the past couple days she's been stressing that we are friends (esp. to people at work) and then she talks about not having any brothers and wanting to be my sister lol. So that's why I kinda gave up on her for romantic interest. But now I'm not so sure.

You think too much. There's problem #2.

[David Floyd]

Dis,

-Jrabbit is probably right - she probably isn't pursuing you. However, this is still good news for you, and here's why.

If she is wanting to go out with you, hang out, have drinks, whatever, that means she thinks you're at least an OK guy. She also told you not to worry about a girlfriend, one will come along. Now personally, I think every guy should have at least one really good platonic female friend, because one of the easiest ways to get laid is to have a girl in your corner helping you out. Many times, if totally random women develop a first impression of you that is favorable, you're in, and one way to do that is to be hanging out "just friends" with another woman that they know - theory being "Well, SHE thinks he's a good guy, and she's my friend, so he must be a good guy."

I'm not saying you should start harassing her to hook you up with her friends. Develop an out-of-work friendship first, then see. Maybe suggest that the two of you meet up with some of her friends, or something.

And of course, if the opportunity presents itself, you may still get to **** this girl. Just balance risk vs. reward - sometimes you get more action by having her as a good friend than you would if you had a one night stand.

[Alinestra Covelia]

^ Angkar has listed "thinking too much" as an ideological crime, comrade.

[Dis]

Dis,

-Jrabbit is probably right - she probably isn't pursuing you. However, this is still good news for you, and here's why.

If she is wanting to go out with you, hang out, have drinks, whatever, that means she thinks you're at least an OK guy. She also told you not to worry about a girlfriend, one will come along. Now personally, I think every guy should have at least one really good platonic female friend, because one of the easiest ways to get laid is to have a girl in your corner helping you out. Many times, if totally random women develop a first impression of you that is favorable, you're in, and one way to do that is to be hanging out "just friends" with another woman that they know - theory being "Well, SHE thinks he's a good guy, and she's my friend, so he must be a good guy."

I'm not saying you should start harassing her to hook you up with her friends. Develop an out-of-work friendship first, then see. Maybe suggest that the two of you meet up with some of her friends, or something.

And of course, if the opportunity presents itself, you may still get to **** this girl. Just balance risk vs. reward - sometimes you get more action by having her as a good friend than you would if you had a one night stand.

best advice yet. I thank you sir. Above advice is good too. I won't think about it much.

As for the original topic, I never fully answered the question, and I won't in detail. But it wasn't a very fun experience for me. Not as great as I thought it would be. From all the movies that talk about the subject, you'd think losing viriginity would be the best thing in the world. I was so nervous I wasn't even able to you know what in you know what. So it wasn't that great. But I'm not going into anymore detail than that. As another poster said, this is a family site.

[Dis]

in fact, I really apologize for all my talk. I know it gets annoying. I need to keep things to myself.

And this is a family site. I just realized like 4 threads on this first page pertain to sex. Shame on all you. And shame on me as well. As I said I apoligize. I should try to keep things clean.

[Lorizael]

At least my whiny relationship threads aren't filled with sex.

[David Floyd]

Family site? Not really. I was noticing the same thing, too, about the number of sex threads.

Guess it means everyone's growing up

[Alinestra Covelia]

Not as great as I thought it would be. From all the movies that talk about the subject, you'd think losing viriginity would be the best thing in the world. [...] So it wasn't that great.

Yeah, that was my experience too. Except instead of watching movies, I'd been reading books - trashy romance novels, but also some surprisingly well-regarded novels too (the Earth's Children series by Jean M. Auel, Fear of Flying by Erica Jong, Lady Chatterley by D. H. Lawrence).

So I thought the first time would have waves crashing and violins and fragrant petals in the wind. O how wrong I was.

The first time was really awkward and uncomfortable. Actually, it was pretty funny too, in retrospect, because I was convinced the guy was too big and that he was trying to fit a submarine in a shoulder bag. At one point I was locked in the bathroom and he was crouched outside pleading with me through the keyhole, making the (apparently very unusual) argument that he'd just measured himself and he was actually rather small so I don't have to worry.



Ahh, good times.

But even though I'm very liberal, I do think there is a minimum age to do these things and 13 is still too young. Some things do require an older viewpoint to really appreciate.