What can I talk to about with a hot art history major?

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher

For instance, I would berate your profession also. I would tell you "Lincoln's dead, get over it".

Give me more time.

[snoopy369]

Originally posted by Asher
Art history major = future money hole

She won't make you any money, but she'll spend all of yours.

Avoid.

See, you don't seem to understand. You may see "Future Money Hole" and see the second word in that sentence. Straight guys see the third word.

[Patroklos]

I think Felch gave the best advice. You don't need to show that you already know about her chosen fields of study as long as you show you are willing to let her teach you herself, and that you listen and respect her.

I used to be you. I didn't get laid back then.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Patroklos

In any case, why discuss what she is studying? If anything I try not to bring up school/work/politics/religion on the first dates or whatever because honestly I am there to have fun as she is also presumably.

For some people, to talk about what they're studying is their passion. One of the simpler ways to get conversation flowing is to ask a person questions about their greatest interest/passion and this gives you some breathing room if you're worried about how much you yourself have to talk about, at first. You may only have to ask a couple questions, and the person may talk longer than you thought.

So in that light, I don't see anything wrong about talking about studies or even work - as long as what they're studying or their work is something they are genuinely interested in. If a person has a job just to pay the bills, that won't make for very interesting conversation.

[Asher]

Originally posted by snoopy369


See, you don't seem to understand. You may see "Future Money Hole" and see the second word in that sentence. Straight guys see the third word.

There are cheaper holes, as I'm sure you know.

[Asher]

Originally posted by MrFun


For some people, to talk about what they're studying is their passion. One of the simpler ways to get conversation flowing is to ask a person questions about their greatest interest/passion and this gives you some breathing room if you're worried about how much you yourself have to talk about, at first. You may only have to ask a couple questions, and the person may talk longer than you thought.

So in that light, I don't see anything wrong about talking about studies or even work - as long as what they're studying or their work is something they are genuinely interested in. If a person has a job just to pay the bills, that won't make for very interesting conversation.

The problem is faking interest isn't good for anyone. It starts a relationship off on a pile of white lies.

I have no interest in my SO's field in chemical engineering and he has no interest in mine. We don't talk about it because if I talk it bores him, if he talks it bores me. Honesty is really key.

Something tells me you wouldn't quite enjoy it if I talked in depth about software engineering.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher


The problem is faking interesting isn't good for anyone. It starts a relationship off on a pile of white lies.

I have no interest in my SO's field in chemical engineering and he has no interest in mine. We don't talk about it because if I talk it bores him, if he talks it bores me. Honesty is really key.

Something tells me you wouldn't quite enjoy it if I talked in depth about software engineering.

It would be a bad idea to fake interest. What I said would only work if there was genuine interest.

[Asher]

Originally posted by MrFun


It would be a bad idea to fake interest. What I said would only work if there was genuine interest.

Which is a lie.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher


Which is a lie.

In Hera's instance, yes, it would be if he has no genunine interest in art or art history.

[Asher]

So we're back to him berating art history, then.

[MrFun]

They can talk about other things so he does not have to berate her art history major.

[Asher]

Then he'd just be ignoring the elephant in the room.

[Cartimandua]

Intelligent women love a man who can admit that he doesn't know everything, but is interested in learning. It shows that the man is also intelligent and worth their time. Felch was right on with his advice.

And believe me, as a college educated, intelligent woman, I can back it up 100% with my own dating experiences and the experiences of dozens of my girlfriends.

Even if the man is educated and intelligent, if he doesn't want to learn anything outside his previously chosen fields of interest, it looks like he is close minded and arrogant.

Just be honest, sincere, and start asking questions. Ask her where her expertise lies, what time periods are her favorite, what she is writing her thesis on, etc. Anytime you get someone talking about one of their passions, they will really start talking and then become comfortable and happy, which is the main goal of that conversation, right?

Good luck

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Asher
Then he'd just be ignoring the elephant in the room.

Just because he's not interested in art history does not mean he cannot respect the babe's own major.

[Asher]

How can anyone respect such a useless field? Art History is what people study when they can't get into anything else but their parents say they need to go to college.