I just broke up with the GF...

[Patroklos]

You know how the Spice Girls song goes.

No, Thank God.

[Provost Harrison]

What do you want me to do? Order a string quartet?

[Imran Siddiqui]

huge red flag thing with GFs who don't appreciate friends

Yeah, if that wasn't an issue, it'd be far harder, IMO... but this is pretty bad and will cause much problem.

[Ninot]

Originally posted by Patroklos


No, Thank God.

I'd quote it, but you're already miserable and I think you got the point

[Dr Strangelove]

You broke up with your grandfather? How could you?

Oh, how sharper than a serpent's tooth is the tongue of an ungrateful child!

[Darius871]

Damn, now you have to be this guy all over again:


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[Tuberski]

It sounds to me like you don't want to get closer to someone who will die someday soon, so the friend and child issues are your out.

ACK!

[Agathon]

When people start thinking about what they want from a relationship, then it is probably time to end it, or perhaps it would be better if it had never started.

When it is love, you aren't thinking about what you want out of the relationship or what you want that person to be or do. That is getting it the wrong way around. Lovers just want to be with the other person, and the working out of what is to be done about children, careers, et al is of secondary importance. People between whom there are strong bonds of affection don't tend to have problems with this stuff.

I remember hearing single people talk about their plans for an acceptable partner, a decent marriage and so on. I couldn't help thinking that either they would be floored by someone and immediately give up all their ideas, or if they were really serious that any decent person should avoid them like the plague.

[Aeson]

Originally posted by Darius871
Damn, now you have to be this guy all over again:

[TCO]

Hang in there, man.

[Dinner]

Originally posted by Aeson

that's only half of them. You should go to youtube and see the others.

[Riesstiu IV]

I'll pretend to be a girl and be your e-girlfriend if you want.

[Ben Kenobi]

I don't want to be the ****** who passes over a good woman because of preconcieved notions of how my life should proceed either

Fair enough.

1. Wanting children is a huge issue. You guys have to be on the same page there.

Edit: My earlier statement implied I don't see adoptive kids in the same way as biological kids. I think they should be treated exactly the same way.

2. She is a good woman, but what she needs is someone who loves her, not someone who feels bad for her because of her situation. I'm speaking personally here.

3. Depends entirely on the friends. I'm not sure what kind of crowd you run with, but your friends can be a real problem. Did she not want you to hang out with your friends, or what was the deal there? Do your friends all say negative things about her?

4. I agree with Tuberski, it does sound like you hardened your heart to prevent from getting too attached to someone who might pass away soon.

[Darius871]

Originally posted by Oerdin
that's only half of them. You should go to youtube and see the others.

I tried and no dice. Or do you mean videos from the same show but with other topics?

[Alinestra Covelia]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
1. Wanting children is a huge issue. It's not shallow of you to decide that you want them and that you don't want to adopt.

2. She is a good woman, but what she needs is someone who loves her, not someone who feels bad for her because of her situation. I'm speaking personally here.

Quoted For Truth.

Keep it at arm's length for a while, get back to doing some of that backlog of awesome stuff you wanted to do for years but never found time to. Come back to this question, if at all, as a level headed person with your wits about you, and see what can come of it then.

It may be that the two of you can compromise on points and continue. Or it may be that your needs are mutually different and you both would be best served by moving on and finding somebody else. Learning that somebody's not quite the right fit for you is progress, not a defeat.