When to take the hint

[Lorizael]

What am I doing, exactly? She's my bestfriend. I'm not going to stop being friends with her. I have no intention of pursuing her. I'm not waiting for her to finally fall in love with me. I'm not going to stop pursuing other women because of her. What am I doing?

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Heresson
try other possibilities

Like what, horses?

[CrONoS]

How would you react, if she present you his new boyfriend?

Originally posted by Lorizael
What am I doing, exactly? She's my bestfriend. I'm not going to stop being friends with her. I have no intention of pursuing her. I'm not waiting for her to finally fall in love with me. I'm not going to stop pursuing other women because of her. What am I doing?

[Heresson]

Originally posted by Lorizael


Like what, horses?

bananas

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by cronos_qc
How would you react, if she present you his new boyfriend?

Oh, I'd be jealous. It would suck. But I get jealous if I see an attractive woman on the subway talking to an attractive man. I have some really deep psychological issues when it comes to women.

[Sirotnikov]

You have given Jane every opportunity. You've made your move. If she doesn't respond, it's time to back off. Stop calling her. Don't be rude or anything, but stop chasing her. If she's actually interested she'll start to make moves on you

in professional term, what you've got is called Oneitis. As in, you think she's the only one. **** that.

ignore her, until you feel like it.

if she doesn't suddenly miss you in her life, and try to chase you back, then chances are that you never meant anything.

especially after you made yourself quite clear.

[LordShiva]

We have two threads on this sort of thing in the top 4 already. We need a Romance Problems sub-forum.

[Heresson]

I think we should have a forum for propositions of new forums as well

[Ãskallin]

prostitudes?

[DRoseDARs]

We need a birthdays subforum as well...

[Colonâ„¢]

Originally posted by Lorizael


From her tone of voice, I don't think she was accusing me of ignoring her.

But seriously, why do women do this? Why the mixed signal business? Why the weird girl-type reason KH talked about? I mentioned this to my female bestfriend (the evil one who's ruining my life) and she said that she does this to guys too but doesn't mean to.

What Patrokolos said.

Don't be afraid to cool down affairs with her when you get that stuff. You can sometimes even completely shut down contact and she'll still get back to you. It's a mistake to think that always staying on good terms is going to help you forward.

In fact, I like to set off with a conflict. If she's my type she'll get over it quickly enough. Regardless, she'll respect me for not being a pushover, whatever later stumbles and mumbles there may be.

[Dinner]

The rule of thumb is best window for ****ing a chick is with in a week or two of meeting her so if you've waited years and have been put on the friends ladder then you're already at a major disadvantage. You either need to make a major explicit move immediately or give it up and find other game.

[b etor]

Re: When to take the hint

Originally posted by Lorizael
Jane doesn't get online. Jane doesn't answer her phone or text messages. Jane is almost never at home.

But. Every time I do manage to run into Jane (I am forced to park my car in a visitor spot very close to her house) she says, "Hey Lorizael you should call me some time," or, "We should get together to do something," or in other ways suggests that we should hang out. But whenever I actually try to hang out with her, she's busy, but always encourages me to try again later.

Last Friday I called her to see if she wanted to get some dinner, but she didn't answer her phone. I happened to run into her later that day and she goes, "Hey Lorizael you never call me, you should do that." I casually mentioned that I had earlier that day, and she goes, "Gah, man, I never check my messages. Well, call me again some time."

So, when do I take the hint? When do I realize that Jane wants nothing to do with me? Or should I trust that she is, in fact, completely and totally busy all the time and that whenever she does actually get some free time, she will want to spend it with me. Also, if I decide I want to, is it too late to transition from friends hanging out to some sort of romantic/dating type of situation?

Save me, Apolyton.

Jane sounds like she's busy with stuff or she has nothing better to do than play games. don't try contacting her too much or you come off as needy. and that's just . but i can totally see her being busy and wanting to hang out with you. i tend to not always check my phone messages, although i always check my text messages since they are so conveniently there. if she wants you, she'll call you. you've tried enough.

[LordShiva]

Re: When to take the hint

Originally posted by Lorizael
Lorizael's having girl issues. Shocker!

If you're having issues with her, you probably don't want to try the Shocker.

[Lorizael]

It would certainly leave no doubt as to my intentions.