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Lorizael's having girl issues. Shocker!So, I've had two girlfriends. The first one very nearly forced herself on me; the second one was delivered to me in a box on my birthday. What this means is that I've had very little experience in the dating department. That is to say, I've never done it.
I believe that I am currently attempting to pursue a female, but I don't know if I'm going about it the right way. Well, no, I'm not going about it the right way. In fact, this all started in an incredibly strange manner. What I don't know is whether or not the method I'm employing is going to be effective.
I will call this anonymous potential female Jane. Jane and I have known each other for four years, but couldn't really be considered friends. We talk online sometimes, live in the same neighborhood, and occasionally get together with a good friend of mine (Michael) to go to Denny's at two in the morning to have a good time.
I like Jane. Jane is smart, creative, talented, open-minded, confident, spiritual, able to remain happy and optimistic despite having a pretty bizarre perspective on the universe (which happens to mirror mine in some ways), and damn sexy.
I'm insane. I develop strange little obsessions for women that are entirely unhealthy and don't go away until I find a new one to pass it on to. Jane is the current focal point of something that has been going strong since kindergarten. To curb this horribly bad habit of mine, I decided that I would try a different course of action this time around (other than hunting her down on the internet and finding out everything about her while never saying a word to her, that is). I decided that I would have a conversation with her.
Jane is a flake. Jane also goes to college in Rhode Island (but is home (in Maryland) for summer break now). Jane is bad at modern forms of communication. Lorizael is bad at initiating communication with females. Lorizael becomes discouraged easily and assumes the worst intentions of those he tries to talk to.
What this all boils down to is that Jane and I have this kind of friendship in moments, where most of the time we're nothing at all, but every once in awhile we come together and have a great time or help the other through some emotional crisis or in other ways be friends when we are normally not.
I don't like this situation. I feel that Jane and I really connect to each other and, if given the chance, we could develop a really great friendship. I think this friends only once in awhile thing is kind of frustrating.
I decided to have a conversation with Jane, in which I told her all of that.
I did this. She responded probably as well as I could have expected. She laughed through part of it, and then explained that she had just tried to do something similar while up at college, but the person she tried to do this with had completely rejected her and she hadn't gotten a new friend out of it. Hooray for empathy. We talked about random philosophical stuff (which is what we often talk about) for half an hour. Then she went to leave. Before she did, though, she told me that we would, indeed, talk more. And she said she meant. She said that sounds like the sort of thing you're supposed to say in this kind of situation, but she actually means it.
That was two and a half weeks ago. Since then, I've hung out with her once. Jane is a flake. I have attempted to arrange getting together with Jane several times in the past two and a half weeks, but have been pretty much completely unsuccessful. Jane doesn't get online. Jane doesn't answer her phone or text messages. Jane is almost never at home.
But. Every time I do manage to run into Jane (I am forced to park my car in a visitor spot very close to her house) she says, "Hey Lorizael you should call me some time," or, "We should get together to do something," or in other ways suggests that we should hang out. But whenever I actually try to hang out with her, she's busy, but always encourages me to try again later.
Last Friday I called her to see if she wanted to get some dinner, but she didn't answer her phone. I happened to run into her later that day and she goes, "Hey Lorizael you never call me, you should do that." I casually mentioned that I had earlier that day, and she goes, "Gah, man, I never check my messages. Well, call me again some time."
So, when do I take the hint? When do I realize that Jane wants nothing to do with me? Or should I trust that she is, in fact, completely and totally busy all the time and that whenever she does actually get some free time, she will want to spend it with me. Also, if I decide I want to, is it too late to transition from friends hanging out to some sort of romantic/dating type of situation?
Save me, Apolyton.
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