How do you get a girl?

[Kuciwalker]

Flirting is fun :b

I left it out earlier 'cuz I thought everyone flirted with any cute girls around.

[Provost Harrison]

Originally posted by Ecthy
What is your advice for Dis then?

My advice?

[MRT144]

don't lack confidence. if you believe others will too. I think that's a big part of it and why guys like spec are succesful on your terms with ladies.

I'm one the weird ones where I don't try to meet women, I'm certainly not that confident but things have a way of happening and I just roll with it and am open to meeting new people.

[Japher]

if you believe others will too

fake it 'til you make it

[Provost Harrison]

"A way of happening" my arse...if you didn't want it to happen, it wouldn't happen...

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
"A way of happening" my arse...if you didn't want it to happen, it wouldn't happen...

This is really not true. It's entirely possible for such things to happen on accident. Or to happen despite your complete and total inability to make it happen on your own.

Anyways. When it concerns flirting, it's important for guys not to put too much stock in it.

Every female friend I have ever had has stressed the point that girls flirt with boys because they think flirting is fun and that they will flirt with any boy who they find to be cute/intelligent/funny/other attractive trait.

What this means is that flirting is not necessarily an indication of interest or attraction; it's often just a fun and enjoyable activity.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Stuie
Flirting.

I forgot how much fun that was. Ah, married life...

Flirting continues to be fun even as a married guy . I know my wife is going home with me and may know that she's a sure thing but we both still enjoy the flirtation

[Dis]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
This is the same girl he has been into for over a year I think. And that he has tried to win, and wasn't interested in another girl (who he was dating) because of.

From the sound of things, I think that she is a lost cause, and you should move on.

Jon Miller

no it's a different one. I pursue many girls at once.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Stuie


True.

I had no success with women until I got some self-esteem.

where can I find this? or buy it?

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Lorizael


Every female friend I have ever had has stressed the point that girls flirt with boys because they think flirting is fun and that they will flirt with any boy who they find to be cute/intelligent/funny/other attractive trait.

What this means is that flirting is not necessarily an indication of interest or attraction; it's often just a fun and enjoyable activity.

hmmm-- if she flirts with you because she finds you attractive , you are halfway there. You have a girl that is enjoying time with someone she thinks has attractive qualities . And this is bad . .. .. how exactly??

Quite true that some girls enjoy the flirtation itself with no desire for a date-- Well those girls are good practice since you need to learn to be a good flirt anyway. PLus a good flirt tends to weed them out as they will disengage when the conversation escalates

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Dis


where can I find this? or buy it?

Grasshopper-- you find it within yourself.


Seriously for me it was when I went away to school and realized that nobody knew me really. So if a girl shot me down, it would get back to NOBODY.

THat led to me not really caring if I got shot down. . . . which led to me being less nervous . .. whicjh led to me asking out a couple of girls that said yes . .. that led me to asking out more girls etc etc


Thye girls have no more real power than us . . . They want to date and be liked as well and the majority of women are looking to give a guy a chance.

If a single girl finds you attractive at all, she will probably go out with you if you just don't do anything remarkable stupid or awkward

[Dis]

Originally posted by Flubber


hmmm-- if she flirts with you because she finds you attractive , you are halfway there. You have a girl that is enjoying time with someone she thinks has attractive qualities . And this is bad . .. .. how exactly??

Quite true that some girls enjoy the flirtation itself with no desire for a date-- Well those girls are good practice since you need to learn to be a good flirt anyway. PLus a good flirt tends to weed them out as they will disengage when the conversation escalates

yeah this girl is a flirt. And I have had experience with women who just like to flirt, but when I ask them out they say no. I'm still not sure about this one.

She might be a tease, but she doesn't have that personality (unlike the other girl I was into earlier this year- I knew she was leading me on- yet I still allowed it ). This girl has lower self esteem and is not white. I hate to use stereotypes about white women, but I will. .

Here's the advice I want to ask. This girl jokes that we are going to get married some day. She refers to me as her future husband. She is joking, but sometimes she jokes and I think she does that because she is too nervous and shy to say how she really feels. At least that's what I'm hoping. Yes she's flirty and shy at the same time. You'd have to meet her to know what I'm talking about. She's unusual.

either way, I'm taking it slow. I'm trying to learn from past mistakes. I'm just trying to avoid being in the friend category.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Ecthy
Worst place to ask for stuff like this.

I think Dis is a troll.

well I can't deny a certain troll like quality to this thread.

And I have said before I'm through with women for good. And I'm still not ready for one. But as my above post shows, I am interested in advice about not being put into that "friend" category. Other than that, I'm not looking for real deep advice...yet.

[Lorizael]

Originally posted by Flubber
hmmm-- if she flirts with you because she finds you attractive , you are halfway there. You have a girl that is enjoying time with someone she thinks has attractive qualities . And this is bad . .. .. how exactly??

Quite true that some girls enjoy the flirtation itself with no desire for a date-- Well those girls are good practice since you need to learn to be a good flirt anyway. PLus a good flirt tends to weed them out as they will disengage when the conversation escalates

This is a bad thing because of a concept that a lot of guys - including myself - have difficulty wrapping their heads around.

It is that some women can find a man attractive, want to spend time with him, flirt with him, have a play at sexual innuendo, consider him proper material to date and have a relationship with... and still have absolutely no desire whatsoever to enter into a relationship with said man.

Women - and again this is straight from the mouths of my many female friends - can often simply turn on and off being attracted. Can turn on and off wanting a relationship. Can make a conscious choice to not pursue attractive prospects, simply because they don't feel like it.

While males don't tend to be "over emotional" the way most females appear to be, most females seem to be able to exert a control over their feelings and motives that few males ever do.

[Jon Miller]

So you are finely over her? Good for you.

JM