I don't think so, it feeds back on itself so it gets easier as you go along.
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Originally posted by Kuciwalker
JUST FLOG TEH DOLPHIN ALREADY!!!11one
So very true
Whose DL was it already? Paiktis'?"I have been reading up on the universe and have come to the conclusion that the universe is a good thing." -- Dissident
"I never had the need to have a boner." -- Dissident
"I have never cut off my penis when I was upset over a girl." -- Dis
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originally posted by SlowwHand:
Just some ideas.
Get a pet. Pets are known to cause a relaxing and happy effect.
Move to rural. The hustle and bustle of city life stresses.
Exercise. Personally, I find this idea disgusting, but some do exercises of some kind.
Compare your current situation to a time in your life that REALLy sucked. Then you can know, Hey. This isn't so bad.
Get more laid back by getting laid more
originally posted by Pekka:
Start growing your own pot and smoke it. Listen to some slow music or otherwise classics like bob marley and the doors.. or electronic music like some smooth ambient.
Weed also helps alot. I was getting to laid back in my younger years, so I stopped...well....dimished quite a bit.
originally posted by Dis:
I definately can't help the OP. I'm too tense as well. Though not nearly as bad as John. I'm the Fonz (happy days reference fyi) compared to him.
It's easy for me to be laid back at home, but it's when I'm around people I get nervous.
One girl told me I need to get laid. I said I always need to get laid. I'm not sure if that would help me or not.
originally posted by Spiffor:
As for exercize, I'd advise long-lasting and slow exercize, such as long walks or long swims. When I feel like getting calmer, I really enjoy swimming for hours (no harsh exercize intended: just spending time swimming, and being alone with my thoughts).
I'd also advise you to generally wonder where your anxiety comes from. A constant state of anxiety likely is deeply rooted in your own insecurities, and you might want to know (or to feel) what these insecurities are before thinking about how to solve them.
Personally, while I've never been as nervous as you describe, I used to be much less laid back than I'm now (I'm 25, and I was most nervous at 17). Here's my experience, maybe yours has similar elements, maybe not, but here goes anyway:
I was most nervous back when I tried to conform to a group for which I wasn't fit: I didn't have the same culture, I didn't have the same values, I was brand new to the group and wanted to have the same friendships as old members had between each other. And I felt rejected, and as such I made constant efforts in that social setting, making me generally unsure.
This anxiety didn't only come from the fact that I felt I didn't fit, it also came from the fact that I thought I sucked. I felt ugly, boring, and the usual slew of complexes many teens have.
In order to get rid of this anxiety, I went through two aspects:
1. I encountered a group of friends in which I really fit, in which I'm accepted and liked for who I am. These guys are geeks, but they're the ones who made me feel good among people
2. It took some years, but I accepted who I am, both in terms of body and personality. Also, for the things I really didn't like (I used to feel fat, for example), I managed to solve them, which solved my feeling of powerlessness.
I'm generally laid back, because I'm confident that I can overcome problems, and that I'm generally a good guy. And this confidence didn't come alone, but both through actual problem-solving and introspection.
I find that long swims and walks are very good for introspection btw.
As for the friends thing, I don't really fit into one group particularly better than any other. I don't really have a set of values.
And as for being introspective and being able to discover my own problem's, I see myself as very good at it. However, with this particular one, I'm stumped.
Another thing: your nervousness might be hardwired to your personality, and not due to any kind of insecurity.
If that's the case, instead of trying to "solve" it, you might want to think about how to take the best out of it. For example, while nervousness isn't appreciated, reactivity is.
go out and get a drink instead of posting here
Lots and lots of masturbation.
Before you react to anything, hold back a second. Think to yourself, "Should I let this bother me?" Then answer yourself, "Bah, fat chance."
Also keeping a smile on your face - you may have to work at this initially - helps.
I've heard good things about slow talking. I tried practicing it, but grew impatient with it.
Btw, I'm extremely laid back. However I think it went hand n hand with my overall lack of motivation. So dont be too laid back.
there are pills for this. maybe your doctor can help you out?
What music do you listen to?
But that hasn't had an impact. Periods where I was listening to jazz (both laid back west-coast and more intense east coast) and periods when I listened to rap where no different for me as far as laid-backness.
come to Amsterdam!
JUST FLOG TEH DOLPHIN ALREADY!!!11one"The first man who, having fenced off a plot of land, thought of saying, 'This is mine' and found people simple enough to believe him was the real founder of civil society. How many crimes, wars, murders, how many miseries and horrors might the human race had been spared by the one who, upon pulling up the stakes or filling in the ditch, had shouted to his fellow men: 'Beware of listening to this imposter; you are lost if you forget the fruits of the earth belong to all and that the earth belongs to no one." - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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Originally posted by johncmcleod
I think I'll try it, but I usually lapse out of it, especially when I am trying to discuss something I think is important, or when I am thinking deeply and talking at the same time. I can either be intelligent, or talk slow, but I can't concentrate on both usually."I have been reading up on the universe and have come to the conclusion that the universe is a good thing." -- Dissident
"I never had the need to have a boner." -- Dissident
"I have never cut off my penis when I was upset over a girl." -- Dis
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I'm not talking about normal social situations, I'm talking more about one-on-one intellectual conversations, or class discussion in school."The first man who, having fenced off a plot of land, thought of saying, 'This is mine' and found people simple enough to believe him was the real founder of civil society. How many crimes, wars, murders, how many miseries and horrors might the human race had been spared by the one who, upon pulling up the stakes or filling in the ditch, had shouted to his fellow men: 'Beware of listening to this imposter; you are lost if you forget the fruits of the earth belong to all and that the earth belongs to no one." - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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i see drinking beer, smoking gear, ****ing and ****ing have already been covered, but worth mentioning again because they are great ideas
the best advice is not to worry or care about things so much, but this is easier said than done of course."The Christian way has not been tried and found wanting, it has been found to be hard and left untried" - GK Chesterton.
"The most obvious predicition about the future is that it will be mostly like the past" - Alain de Botton
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