How easily can you get a date with a woman (or man)?

[Japher]

I think you most likeyl sell yourself short Dis

Women like men who are comfortable with themselves, and somehow they seem to be able to sense that... they are weird like that

on top of that, women are wierd. Did I mention they are wierd?

step 1: find a chick you dig

step 2: make eye contact, this helps to establish if she digs you too... how do you know? make eye contact, smile, and then walk away... check back on her every so often... if you find her checking you out you are good

step 3: Introduction. This part is important. I think trying to kiss her is a good start. However, I think you'd probably end up getting arrested. Still, first impressions are lasting. It's up to you, and you need to be yourself, so figure how to introduce yourself on your own... but be honest. I know a dude whose 'get to know you line' is 'not only is it small but it's very very thin too'

[Gibsie]

If I were single, and assuming it would be a girl I don't already know, then I could probably sort out a date for myself within a week. I couldn't see myself just wandering up to a random girl in the street and getting something going there, but maybe in a club, if she's had enough alcohol

[Snotty]

alcohol ftw

wrt to thin and small, there always used to be a saying 'either youre got a big one or you know how to use it' sadly Ive found if its big youve got to know exactly what youre doing with it (for mutual enjoyment and whatnot)

I assume matters are rather more forgiving if you fall into the previously mentioned camp

[Velociryx]

I'm married now, so....100% of the time (so long as it's with the wife).

'bout 90% when I was single.

It's just about attitude, dude.

If you go around all the time telling yourself that you suck, and that you have bad luck with women, then....you will.

You'll create your own self fulfilling prophecy.

First best thing you can do is make the lady laugh. Seriously, that's about 75% of the battle.

After that, don't call it a date...hell, anybody can go on a date. If you're not sure she's interested, then casually propose "getting together" and make it public (I mean that two ways, ask in public and suggest something non-threatening and public).

If you know she's interested, suggest an ADVENTURE. Dates pale by comparison.



-=Vel=-

[Japher]

Adventures
If I were Dis, I would take a date on the Dam Tour at the Hoover Dam, of course she'd have size issues after that... though I wouldn't let her down

or ATV'ing

you have a great venue... once you get hte chick

[Gibsie]

A tour of a dam? Short of knocking them over the side, I can't see that getting them wet.

[Winston]

This thread has made me realise that I do have at least one reason for missing the days of the Carter administration.

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Spiffor

A friend of mine (who is also terribly challenged when it comes to seducing women, though we both are fairly skilled at keeping them) recently told me that everything became more easy when he truly accepted that he was interested in that female friend, and that he behaved as such with her. Eventually it worked.

I have applied these words of wisdom with the girl I'm currently courting, and so far I have a favourable echo.

If I behave interested, generally the girl takes off (I guess not really a freind, this is if I have been hanging out with her for a few months). And if she is a better freind, she makes it very clear that she isn't interested (but remains freinds).

JM

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Silver14


Just trying to help with perspective.

Asking women out is like going to job interviews or buying lotto tickets. You'll get rejected and lose most of the time but eventually the odds will be with you.

Eventually you’ll find someone who will say ‘Yes’ then you’ll have to wonder why they said yes, and wonder if they are crazy? And of course they are, they’re all nuts to some degree.

Find a *big* church to go to, you may find some singles there. Even if you are not deeply into religion you can meet some decent people at church. Bars and Pool Halls are an alternative. I won’t date anyone who smokes so for me those kinds of places rarely turn out anyone I’d want to be with. I’ve never used a dating service (like E-Harmony or whatever) but don’t rule them out. If you’ve never really been with anyone it might be worth it just to get some dating experience.

If you are in school/college those are really the best times to find someone. Past that it gets harder to meet someone and get to know them as I've discovered.

Tried looking at church. But despite being religious, I am so out of the 'group' at church that I mostl just come in, listen to the sermon, don't talk to anyone and leave. I was getting to know people a bit better at a Korean church, and there was an interesting girl there, but that was back when I was generally hungover during the day on the weekends, so I rarely went. (one girl in particular seems interested somewhat, even sat by me once, but I just haven't gone enough (seen her twice in a month..) to ask her out).

Bars and Clubs I have talked to girls a bit, but someone else is more successful. Same with parties. Coffee houses I have had some success (talk to the same girl, semi weekly for a couple months), but every time has resulted (when she notices that I want to ask her out) in the girl running away.

My mom's current husband she met on a dating service. I actually joined Match for a short while, but never had anyone interseted in me, and couldn't really build up interest reading others profiles.

I am currently in Graduate School, but in Physics (and even though I am only 25, the undergrads seem young and dumb).

Jon Miller

[Jon Miller]

I think it is a confidence thing..

JM

[Spiffor]

BTW, if you feel too awkward at church for the purposes of girl-gathering, you should try another place where people meet on a regular basis.

I'd suggest you to learn an indoor sports that has mixed students in it, and where there aren't too many people. Learning to dance, learning martial arts, can get you a fresh supply of girls who join, and whom you might get to know. These sports allow physical contact between the boy and girl. Also, as you learn the sport, you'll be clumsy like your fellows, and it helps creating a common experience already.

[fed1943]

It is very easy (but have dificult requisites) :

First: know what you want;

Second: go to places that fit first;

Last: be true and respectful to the rules of said place.

And do not post about your sucess.

Best regards,

[Snotty]

There were plenty of hot girls at the indoor climbing place I went to, seems perfect

[Jon Miller]

Yeah, I have been to one of those.. if I could get into a bit better shape I might go more and the like...

As it is, last time I went (when I was in better shape) (5 months ago, I lose shape very very very fast) I was the worst climber there...

Jon Miller

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by fed1943
It is very easy (but have dificult requisites) :

First: know what you want;

Second: go to places that fit first;

Last: be true and respectful to the rules of said place.

And do not post about your sucess.

Best regards,

your post doesn't make sense

JM