How easily can you get a date with a woman (or man)?

[Dis]

It seems to me some people can do it easy as pie. But for others (who shall remain nameless ), it's impossible.

People always ask me why I don't have a wife and/or kids, or a girlfriend. I never know what to tell them. I usually tell them the truth, because I don't want them to think I'm gay or a paedophile. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay, it just doesn't help my chances of getting a girlfriend.

But my friend didn't believe me when I said I was shy and didn't have much luck with women. She simply couldn't believe I could not get a girlfriend. Of course she has a better opinion of me than I have of myself. That's one reason.

And then my buddy at work is always trying to get me to go to a filipino nightclub. I've been to night clubs, I have no more chance of getting a date there than on the street or at a supermarket. He's a good looking black guy. All a good looking black guy has to do is look at a woman, and he can get a date with her. He just doesn't understand difficult it is for us white guys .

But enough blathering about me. How easy can you get a date and or get a girlfriend? And for you women and/or gay posters, how easy can you get dates with men?

So if you had to get a date in 7 days, could you do it?

[Jon Miller]

Probably not...

Pretty sure not, actually.

Honestly, I am worse with girls that you are. By a long shot.

JM

[Kontiki]

I could ask my wife out on a date. She'd probably say yes.

Seriously, Dis, it's much easier to develop a relationship with someone you're already friends with than to just ask out a total stranger.

[Jon Miller]

I have few female freinds, and have had few female freinds since I started college. And most of them I wasn't interested in..

Jon Miller

[Last Conformist]

Originally posted by Kontiki
Seriously, Dis, it's much easier to develop a relationship with someone you're already friends with than to just ask out a total stranger.

Undermining popular misconceptions

[Flubber]

I'm married so I'm not willing to risk the ensuing death

[Adagio]

Let's just say I have a higher chance winning a million in the lottery, than getting a date

Originally posted by Kontiki
Seriously, Dis, it's much easier to develop a relationship with someone you're already friends with than to just ask out a total stranger.

The only girls I know are either already taken or family

[Richelieu]

I could ask Kontiki's wife on a date. She'd probably say no, but that's not much different than any other woman...

[Kontiki]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
I have few female freinds, and have had few female freinds since I started college. And most of them I wasn't interested in..

Jon Miller

I didn't mean to imply morphing a long-time friendship into a relationship, but rather becoming friends with a woman you are interested in before taking it to the next level. I've had relationships that developed both ways - transition from friendship and asking someone old cold. The better ones always seemed to be when you had a hard time pinpointing when you stopped being "just friends" and started to actually date. Such is the case with my wife, although truthfully I was interested in dating her right from the start.

[Asher]

Originally posted by Kontiki
I could ask my wife out on a date. She'd probably say yes.

Seriously, Dis, it's much easier to develop a relationship with someone you're already friends with than to just ask out a total stranger.

A fan of Storge!

[Asher]

I never found it that difficult.

[Imran Siddiqui]

[q=Dis]But my friend didn't believe me when I said I was shy and didn't have much luck with women. She simply couldn't believe I could not get a girlfriend. Of course she has a better opinion of me than I have of myself. That's one reason. [/q]

She so wants your penis.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Kontiki


I didn't mean to imply morphing a long-time friendship into a relationship, but rather becoming friends with a woman you are interested in before taking it to the next level. I've had relationships that developed both ways - transition from friendship and asking someone old cold. The better ones always seemed to be when you had a hard time pinpointing when you stopped being "just friends" and started to actually date. Such is the case with my wife, although truthfully I was interested in dating her right from the start.

the problem with that I encounter is I enter the "just friends" category, and have no hope of a romantic relationship.

I know there's some kind of transition you must do, and you have to do it early. I just don't know how to do it.

[Jon Miller]

Actually, whenever I think about it I get deprsesed.

JM

[Dis]

Sometimes I think there's some kind of secret or trick that I don't know about when it comes to getting women. Maybe it's some secret handshake .

It's so easy for some guys.