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I don't know. I think masturbation would be a bad idea. Take an obsession over a girl that's already probably unhealthy, starting to masturbate to her (I wouldn't be able to help it, she'd enter my mind) would make things really f***ed up and turn me into a really creepy, unhealthy, pervert.
Otherwise known as a man.
I can see your problem straight off. You think that women are unapproachable goddesses who would never deign to think about you in that way.
That's crap.
Women are human beings. They get as screwed up as guys over what to do with people they like. It's just different for them, since the social norm requires men to do most of the initiating. They do have other problems though (like being considered a slut if they are honest about what they want).
And if you think that this girl doesn't know that you either think about masturbating, or do masturbate about girls, or doesn't know that your casual conversation is in fact concealing the dark purpose of wanting to ravish her like a wild animal, then you are entirely mistaken.
They know exactly what we are up to and what we want. They aren't stupid. They also know that there's a torturous veneer of respectability and polite expectations involved. So although they know that you'd like to drop your pants and hump them right there and then, and even though some of them might secretly like that ****, the social consequences are such that you have to play the game, because if you did attempt the pants drop, disaster would ensue.
If some woman calls you a sick perverted creep when you make your desire evident, she is feigning surprise. Unless she's completely retarded she already knew the score, and this is just a particularly crappy way of saying no once things have been brought to a head.
What you need to get in your mind is that it is the same for them. They aren't marble statues who would find your feelings unfamiliar and perverted. Rather they are much like you. Women have all sorts of foul desires, and get just as worried as men about this stuff. One thing that bothers them a lot is that you will think they are a slag if they show overt sexual interest in you, so they bottle it up. If you have female friends they will often tell you things like "I followed this guy all around campus just to stare at his cute butt".
Courtship basically involves a relatively slow dance that continues until one party gets sick of it and plants one on the other. Immediately, all inhibitions are removed as if by magic (it's amazing how quickly people can take their clothes off).
The only difficult bit is getting to that point and taking the plunge.
Just start thinking about women as people rather than ice queens and you'll be OK.
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