Long Distance Relationships

[OzzyKP]

Anyone dealing with (or have dealt with) a long distance relationship?

How often did you see & talk to your girl/boyfriend?

I am really getting frustrated now over mine. We live a 2.5 hour drive away, and I love driving, so I'm happy to do it. Problem is, she always seems to be busy on weekends. I've seen her like 5-6 days out of the last 2 months. Its really pissing me off.

So since the drive isn't that bad (its not like California or Japan or something) I guess the distance isn't the main issue. Its more a scheduling thing. But of course since we don't live next door, I can't just pop in and see her any evening. So I have to rely on her having a weekend free, but she only does once or twice a month.

[Imran Siddiqui]

I was involved in one for like a year because of school (she was in law school and I was still in college).

The main thing, IMO, is that you have to have an end goal where you'll be much closer in distance sometime in the future. Is this 2.5 hour drive something that seems it'll go on for the percievable future?

[OzzyKP]

Yes.

It might even get longer.

I've been trying to convince her to move to the area, but she is reluctant. I'm starting to give up on the idea. Despite wanting more, I could deal with driving 2.5 hours to see her every weekend.

However driving up to see her once or twice a month just isn't enough for me.

[JohnT]

If she's got better things to do on the weekends than spend it with you,

[Asher]

I deal with this on and off, 4 months on 4 months off...about to be a year pretty much with me in Calgary and the BF in Waterloo.

It's easy, I don't know what people's problems are.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Originally posted by OzzyKP
I've been trying to convince her to move to the area, but she is reluctant. I'm starting to give up on the idea. Despite wanting more, I could deal with driving 2.5 hours to see her every weekend.

Sorry man .

IMO, it doesn't sound very good if she doesn't want to move to the area and is busy most weekends.

At some point one of you will want more (a SO that you can see at least 3-4 times a week).

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Re: Long Distance Relationships

Originally posted by OzzyKP
Problem is, she always seems to be busy on weekends. .

I've been trying to convince her to move to the area, but she is reluctant

Writing's on the wall, dude. Writing's on the wall.

[Verto]

Long distance relationships =

[Drake Tungsten]

Re: Re: Long Distance Relationships

Originally posted by Lazarus and the Gimp
Writing's on the wall, dude. Writing's on the wall.

Totally dude...

[SlowwHand]

Devotion. commitment, and shall it be named? Yes, I think so. Love, would withstand any mileage.
Your thread is somewhat mistitled.
This isn't the one for you, Oz.

[Wernazuma III]

I had a girlfriend in Chile (or, actually, I had several ) and it was complete crap. But my case was much more pathological than yours. More like "Japan"...

[Ben Kenobi]

Love's a two way street. Ozzy wants her, but I don't think she is so sure about Ozzy.

[Bereta_Eder]

if she's not busy attending terminally aids patients on weekends then something's wrong.

[korn469]

Ozzy, in my experience long distance relationships aren't worth the extra effort it takes to make them last, unless you totally, utterly, insanely love that person. Long distance relationships requires complete trust, and if you don't totally trust the person disturbing thoughts will fill your mind once circumstances prevents you from seeing your significant other. Also long distance relationships give ample opportunities for two people to drift apart, or to find completely opposite directions in life. It puts more pressure on you because since you have fewer moments together they need to be wonderful. That can lead to a great deal of stress. However, if you're lucky then when you get to be with that person every single moment is pure magic.

*korn469 is nearly a three year veteran of long distance relationships

[Verres]

Currently, it only takes a 1hr 1/2 drive tops for us to see each other - but as I cannot drive this really means a 3hr round trip for him. Atm, we see ech other at least once a week - but once I go back to uni it will be a lot less, as the drive will be much much longer.

Tis tough, but speaking for hours every evening and having contact via the wonders of text throughout the day makes it a lot easier. It's a horrible cliche, but if there is genuine love on both sides it does work. Trust comes as part of it really....if you love someone, you do not cheat, no matter how little you see them.