LTEC!'s relationship advise corner now open.

[Caesar the Great]

Originally posted by Sikander


That's how I did it, but it's illegal and in hindsight not necessarily the best advice. The point was for you to redefine yourself amongst your peer group as a sexual being so that your friends don't inadvertently sabotage your plans to get next to whomever you are interested in, and perhaps instead help you out by telling you who is interested in you, and puting in a good word about you with the object of your desire. My point was that having female friends is a great way to help you understand women, but if you get stuck being defined as only a "friendly guy" it can interfere with your plans to hook up with someone you really like. Redefine yourself and your social net can be a huge advantage for your romantic life.

the illegal part doesn't bother me too much....

the only problem is i'm not sure how to redefine myself... i like the way i am now, and a lot of my friends ask why i don't have a girlfriend - and i have no clue. it seems everytime a girl seems to like me they end up hooking up with one of my friends

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by JohnT




Is this in response to me or Starchild?

Starchild!
you wanted to poach someone too?
sheesh

[Gibsie]

Okay, time to take LTEC! off my ignore list already.

[LTEC!]

Okay! Time to put you in MY ignore list.

[Gibsie]

But then you won't be able to read all my wuv pwoblems

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by Gibsie
But then you won't be able to read all my wuv pwoblems

You mean you have more than one?

[Gibsie]

The main problem is that she's leaving me, wah! Leaving me to go study abroad. And when i say leaving me I mean "leaving the country"... long distance relationship and all that razzamatazz.

[Six Thousand Year Old Man]

Originally posted by LTEC!


Honestly. Tell her why the reasons you have for not seeing her anymore. Don't leave anything hanging because unfinished businesses are not healthy for you, but especially for her.
Don't be mean. Just word it out. Take your point across and then leave.

Oh, and after you leave. Don't come back...that gives mixed signals.

What if, again hypothetically... ahhh, never mind. I know the answer, I just don't like it.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by Gibsie
The main problem is that she's leaving me, wah! Leaving me to go study abroad. And when i say leaving me I mean "leaving the country"... long distance relationship and all that razzamatazz.

Long distance relationships are double edged. There's the poetic side that it will make your heart grow fonder, but then theres the part on which your usual self is all dumped, alone with no one to go anywhere.
And you know what usually happens. You get tired and start seeing other people while you're missing the other person.
Generally sucks.

I'd say, let go and set free.
(sting music in the background) free,free set them free.

so you'll be free too...
to live and learn what you have and what you don't, and to appreciate what you got when you do.

[Gibsie]

So your advice on dealing with a long distance relationship is to dump the girl I've been with for two years..?

Now you'll have to tell me how to do that without utterly destroying her

[Frankychan]

it depends on how long distance the relationship is. If the two of you are from different nationalities, it's harder to maintain the long distance relationship, but if she's going to Canada and you live in Nevada...it's not that big a deal.

But I have some experience in the "we're from two different countries" thing and I find that you both have as much fun as you can while you're together, but once you both have to go your separate ways and it's not certain if you'll see each other again...let her go. It sucks, but it's easier this way.

[Ted Striker]

Most long distance relationships don't work but there are many exceptions to the rule.

Hey LTEC! what is your general feeling on "monkey bar" girls? You know the ones that won't end a relationship until they have ahold of their next one.

How common is this? Why would I want to go out with some girl who is making it known to me that she is extremely interested while at the same time has a boyfriend? Right off the bat there is a big strike against her. How can you trust somebody like that? I know I couldn't.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Gibsie
How do I treat jock itch and crabs at the same time?

Get some tough actin' Tinactin and apply to the affected area.

[Gibsie]

I don't even know what jock itch is (despite reading a thread with 100+ posts on it once)!

And I'm in the UK while she is going to Germany and Sweden.

[Ted Striker]

Well with the chunnel that's like next door then.