Help me stick to my guns!

[DarthVeda]

Any relationship that reads like a soap opera is doomed to failure.

[Zero]

Too bad. It sure sounded like you could have ended it without all the name calling...

and possibly have gotten free ass from time to time. But Im sure thats not all that important on your mind right now.

[Dom Pedro II]

If I was still getting the free ass, it wouldn't have been over then...

the free ass is what I've been getting for months now... the trouble is that the ass comes with all of her lies and bullsh*t as well.

And I really didn't get to calling her names... I know I said that sort of in my explanation, but it was more like I laid out a detailed and rational explanation as to exactly why I was ending the friendship. I was just giving you the jist of it.

[Agathon]

Sad Story, but the bit about the geese is a bit tragicomic, it's not true is it?

I'm guessing that this person has some problems or actually unconsciously enjoys messing you around - for some reason known only to mother nature, this seems to have been a good mating strategy since there are a lot of them around. For a gender that insists that men are the root of all evil in this world, women seem to be the ones who love endlessly playing damaging mind games. I guess all I can say from what I've observed over the years I've spent in college is that this relationship is probably never ever going to get any better so you may as well cut it off as fast as you can. I hope you feel better soon, anyway.

[korn469]

Dom

this sounds really hard, and I feel for you. I've battled through depression, and right now things are ****ty for me, but we have got to keep struggling. I had like 10 bad things happen today, along with one great thing, and I am truly happy tonight unlike last night when I was feeling really down.

I know what you mean about not being a ladies man. I was overweight most of high school, I had acne, and worst of all I had a family that liked to belittle me. When I really feel for my first girl (one that was completely unobtainable for me) I swore my mom to secrecy, but she told my dad and the psycho (he truly is insane) chased me around the house going shamey, shamey, shamey and wagging his finger at me. Not only that I was forced to goto a pentacoastal church that was basically a cult, that preached the end of the world is nigh, and basically everyone is going to hell. I had zero self esteem. Even now, although I'm not hot some girls do find me attractive, but in my mind I feel like the ugliest person most of the time.

This girl doesn't respect you, if she did she wouldn't lie. She may not be purposefully disrespecting you, but if not, she has serious problems that you are not capable of dealing with. Especially not since you have a full plate of your own problems. Having a person like you and want you is a wonderful feeling. Yet, if they can't make up their mind, and you are just convient then they don't really want YOU!

I don't have any secrets on how to feel good about yourself, but being around people who respect you is one good place to start. I hope you can find a new girl, but you might not. However, being single, and not really having any luck with the ladies is better than getting your heart ripped out every week. I think that staying busy, and hanging out with insightful people who don't mind listening to you rant and rave would be a good start on the way to get yourself out of this. Avoid her, and think of what you liked about her, and what you've liked in other girls, and concentrate on meeting a person with those traits, and not simply a person who will have you. In the long run you'll be happier. The thing is meeting the right person is a crazy completely luck driven process. I just hope you find some luck.

No amount of false cheer can make a person happy, but knowing that there are people with similar experiences who are willing to listen can make alot of difference. I hope that helps!

[Drake Tungsten]

I'd also recommend a heavy bag. You'll feel much better after whacking it a few times.

Cut out the first sentence and you're spot on...

[MRT144]

actually i think that there should be relationship police that just go around and throw those "slippery, wet floor" cones out when a bad situation is arising. except these cones will say "FUBAR, Stay the hell away" i would have thrown the cone at the casual sex agreement part.

its time to swallow some pride and forget this girl ever exsisted and to admit you are part of the problem. ive had to do that more and more often and things keep getting better for me.

[LTEC!]

As per Ted Striker's request i post :

She has been playing the boyfriend at her convenience game, unfortunately for you, since you fell for her.
Stick to your guns. I don't think you want a serious relationship with someone who will behave and treat you this way. But it is up to you if you want to be just casual with her.
Relationships are two-way streets, and you both have to agree on what you want or not.

[Ted Striker]

Thank you LTEC.