Why do some people flaunt their sexuality?

[Datajack Franit]

5 inches only?

[MrFun]

double post

[MrFun]

Originally posted by mindseye

I think anyone can bring themselves to have sex with either gender, given the right circumstances.

It's much more like that in China. More than once I have inadvertantly picked up a straight guy on the subway or sidewalk, gone to dinner together, returned back to my apartment, ended up in bed together, only to discover later that the guy really wasn't gay, or even "bisexual" as westerners use the term.

Here, sexuality for many guys is more a matter of situation than orientation. In other words, a guy who really digs women may not be at all inhibited, under the right circumstances, in getting it on with a guy, even though he would not normally seek out such a thing.

This also explains why until very recently, there was no word in the Chinese language for "gay". For most of Chinese history, male-male love and sex was not frowned upon. For example, if you had a handsome servant, you were not "gay" if you had sex with him. It was a matter of situation and opportunity, not orientation.

A side effect of this is that straight guys here are much more physically intimate in public. You see lots of young guys (say, under 30) walking while holding hands, cuddling together on the subway, embracing each other, stroking each other's arms or hair. Even adult men can be seen holding each other, or walking hand in hand.

It's really refreshing to see this, it seems so much more human than the artifical machismo-driven western standards of behavior.

The situation seems to be much the same for women, although here I lack an insiders perspective.

Let me try to get back on topic: I haven't seen much of cat-calling here, by males or females - not even from construction workers!

If this is all true, then it sounds interesting (theory about situation over orientation).

But this theory excludes men and women who are exclusively gay, and would never have sex with someone of the opposite gender, no matter the situation.

[Jon Miller]

and excludes men and women who were exclusively hetero

if I was just interested in getting off, I would not mind if it was male or female

but since I am interested in making love to someone who I find physically attractive, I am only into females

Jon Miller

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Boris Godunov


There is this awful site called "The Bait Bus" or something like that wherein these group of people drive around in a van, find straight men on the street and manipulate them into, in front of a camera, having sex with another man. They would lure the marks into the van on the premise of being paid $1000 to have sex with one of the women in the van. Then they would pull the bait-and-switch and stipulate that the guy first has to have sex with the gay guy.

What's funny is that all of the men, especially the most "masculine" ones, cave in and, when in the act, are *very* into it and very aggressive about it. The awfulness comes afterwards, though--because they always trick the guy out of the van and speed off without paying. That is the terrible part.

One could argue that many of the men "deserve it," if they are willing to engage in sex with a total stranger on camera for money (many of the guys are married, engaged or have girlfriends, too). But it still really bothers me they do this. Seems to me to be inviting these guys to turn into gay-bashers or worse.

Long story short: I think anyone can bring themselves to have sex with either gender, given the right circumstances.

I disagree

disregarding force (if you don't have sex with me I will blow this persons brains out) I will never get off with another man

in fact, disregarding the above stipulation, I will not get off with most women

your example of pay is wrong here because of the fact that people in the US are coerced using money all the time (We are all slaves to the almighty dollar), so it is not a good example

while I agree that there are many straight people (of both sexes) who get off with people of the same sex, I think it is because of the current culture of rampant hedonism

Jon Miller

[MrFun]

Boris, no matter what situation you can think of, I would turn down Pamela Anderson, or any other attractive woman their offer for sex.

But that's just me as a gay man. There are bisexuals, of course.

[Asher]

Is it normal to feel sorry for people who exclude beautiful people as possible sex partners for whatever reason?

Sometimes I think I have it made.

[Dauphin]

Originally posted by MrFun
Boris, no matter what situation you can think of, I would turn down Pamela Anderson, or any other attractive woman their offer for sex.

But that's just me as a gay man. There are bisexuals, of course.

You seem to imply that Pamela Anderson is attractive. She is not. (IMO).

[Jon Miller]

I would not get off with pamela

Jon Miller

[Dr Strangelove]

Re: Why do some people flaunt their sexuality?

Originally posted by orange
You know who I'm talking about...the guy who constantly talks about how many girls he's banged, or the girl who points out that every other guy that passes is 'hot', or even the homosexual guy who constantly states things like "I'm such a queer" or "that was so gay of me" etc.

Is there a reason for this? Gay or straight...both groups have people that do it. I guess I just don't understand it

errrr.....because they can? I mean, Orange, let's face it, some of us have it and some of us don't.

[Provost Harrison]

Flaunt sexuality? I am trying to coax mine out by being nice to it

[orange]

Boris - not really...

Mr Fun sorta...

StarChild...hehe...

[LaurenX2C]

Like the person who sits next to you on the bus telling you he's a high paid, big **** pimp kinda guy and insists I give him my number so we can 'hang' sometime?
Right I laugh at the type. If your soo well of why do you ride the bus. If your so freckin pimpin why am I not interested? And yes I know I wear to much make up yes I know my contacts look good. but plz die or go away asap im not interested. i flaunt myself sometimes. i know guys are paying attention. when i want somthing its very easy to get it at no cost . . just walk up and talk to the ugly kid. ask for him 5 dollars or somthing he is danglin on the line and never says no

[Asher]

Originally posted by LaurenX2C
Like the person who sits next to you on the bus telling you he's a high paid, big **** pimp kinda guy and insists I give him my number so we can 'hang' sometime?
Right I laugh at the type. If your soo well of why do you ride the bus.

Many well off people ride the bus, at least here. And in most major cities as well.

[LaurenX2C]

not here. its mainly us who cant afford cars or have had our license torn in half by a cop.