Should I send my boys to an all boy school?

[drake]

No girl trouble. Bliss

You want your boys to be socially in-adequate around girls? Thats not doing them a favor, thats just downright cruel!

[Skanky Burns]

Originally posted by Alexander's Horse


That's exactly what I want

No girl trouble. Bliss

Wrong. == Girl trouble their entire lives.
At least, much more trouble than those who actually grew up in contact with females.

[Ecthy]

I've been in mixed schools for all my life and I don't know how to talk to girls.

So all the naysayers' logic is crumbled.

Send 'em there, it won't make a difference

[Simon Darkshade]

The most rampant, flaming heterosexuals I know are all the products of single-sex schooling. Of course, one is trying to help them unlearn such vexing addiction to breeding and copulation, but it is hard to undo the work of so many years.
There are plenty of opportunities to mix with and see females at an all male school, provided it is not a boarding school inside the Arctic Circle or the like - outside of school hours, socials, sporting events, etc, etc. Ye just don't have them sitting in class distracting, nor around the schoolyard.
If this minor deprivation (and it is big stretch to call it even that) causes major psychological damage, then there was quite possibly something broken in the first place.
Many examples can be thrown back and forth about how they were good for some people, and not for others, and this is quite true - they are not for every boy. But neither are they bad for every boy. It comes down to the individual children, and those who know them best.

And for the ultimate lack of girl trouble, ye could always have them spayed now, in order to save bother later. Ye could get a lower rate due to their youth (even a group price if ye can get them all fixed at once); they'd have more years to forget the agonizing pain, callous betrayal and utter humiliation by those they trusted most; and best of all, ye would get a government medal for services to the gene pool.

[blackice]

I would I think they will get involved with girls soon enough, boys will be boys.

The best advantage being the all boys schools treat boys as boys. Mixed schools more often then not tend to ignore what boys are all about. IE they are becoming more feminized and show no tollerance to boys.

Medications are increasing in boys to help them be calm just like the girls. The vase changes to the education systems have created a drop off of boys doing well.

While the current studies indecate it is because of the lack of understanding of what boys are all about. We have vast studies to show what girls are all about and a lot of those have dictated the changes to the mixed school systems.

I could go on, surfice to say being a boy and being taught in an environment that understands what it is to be one can only be an advantage to your kids.

I see in the future separte schools for both sexes as they continue to study the vast differences in teaching both.

In some schools in the States even recess has been stopped. Boys need this time to be, well boys.

As more and more studies come out I think you will have a good feeling about your choice if you send them to an all boys school.

Lots of good reading on the subject. You could start here:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=Tailoring+schools+to+encourage+males+may+cause+backlash&btnG=Google+Search

A lot of that information will lead you to studies and research done on that subject.

[Boris Godunov]

One thing I can say from my perspective is that, should a boy be homosexual, attending an all-boys school could end up being a nightmare of abuse for him. Considering that male homosexuals tend to find their earliest and closest friendships with girls, it might make them feel isolated and alone, and should the other boys suspect his proclivities, it could set him up for a really horrible time, perhaps even a dangerous one. Especially at a religiously-oriented school.

Otherwise, I think the arguments against all-boys schools are a little specious. I don't see any evidence they are any more harmful than co-ed education.

[Dinner]

Hmmm, Prince Charles is the product of an all boys school. I admite that inbreeding explains some of his actions but do you really want your sons turning out like him? Shudder...

[Boris Godunov]

We can all come up with bad products of either education. It's all specious reasoning, as there is no way of telling whether or not it was the education's fault or if it would have happened anyway.

Charles's problems came from being a royal twit.

[Simon Darkshade]

Originally posted by Boris Godunov
One thing I can say from my perspective is that, should a boy be homosexual, attending an all-boys school could end up being a nightmare of abuse for him. Considering that male homosexuals tend to find their earliest and closest friendships with girls, it might make them feel isolated and alone, and should the other boys suspect his proclivities, it could set him up for a really horrible time, perhaps even a dangerous one. Especially at a religiously-oriented school.

Otherwise, I think the arguments against all-boys schools are a little specious. I don't see any evidence they are any more harmful than co-ed education.

1.) That is quite true in some circumstances, and one has read many accounts of such. There is definitely a climate of extreme homophobia, as well as general bigotry and right wing sentiment (which makes excellent working material for some ). But it is not impossible - look at the British public school system that produced so many notable men of such a persuasion over the years. Stephen Fry has written some quite good stuff about it
But it is true that terms such as '******' get bandied about as every second word as insults, but that is not a phenomenon limited to all-male schools from what one has observed.
Quite true that it can get horrible and even dangerous, as well. One can recall many fifth hand tales of old.
Haven't heard that bit about 'earliest and closest relationships with girls' before. Interesting notion, though by no means the rule.

[SuperSneak]

Well, this will probably let the air out of your balloon, but old Sneaky went to an all boys Catholic school and loved it.
We had plenty of interaction with the two all girl's schools and yes, the girls at local co-ed public schools favored our attentions more than their classmates', as we were "mysterious".
Contrary to Asher's paranoid generalizations, being in a traditionally paternal environment helped to teach those of us with half a brain some of the more classic concepts of being gentlemen. Plus, an environment without as much peer pressure greatly aided in teaching young men to be more open and honest about their feelings in class and on retreats, as there was no worry about feeling stupid in front of girls.
It may lead to slightly paternalistic worldviews, but it certainly didn't hurt my ability to interact with girls at all...I got more tail than a toilet seat and still had positive interactions with girls all the way through college. In fact, I'm a couple of credits away from a Women's Studies degree, but that is due more to the fact that it is a great place to meet girls than any intrinsic desire to immerse myself in their issues.
Bottom line, I think a parochial education is far better than the majority of public education, and the added boon of less distraction while hormones are running rampant is a major plus.
Sadly, my alma mater is now co-educational, so there is no all male option left in Portland.
I think certain kids might do better elsewhere--and if that is the case, you should send that kid elsewhere, but I do remember the family legacies at my school (multiple brothers) and it certainly gave those guys a slight additional leg up on the rest of us.
Send them!
Asher's violent complaints should be all the evidence you need...

[Imran Siddiqui]

growing up in an all male household

You mean the mother was a MAN?!

working in an all male office

All male offices generally tend to be more mysogenist.

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Anyway, I agree with drake, segregation is soooo 20th century .

[SuperSneak]

Imran...go make your damn pick! We've been waiting all weekend!

[drake]

Send them! They need to develop a healthy elitist view of the world

[Imran Siddiqui]

Oops... am I up.... waiting all weekend? I checked yesterday, and it wasn't my turn yet!

[SuperSneak]

That's right...the cold hard facts of this world is that networking pays.
The rich do get richer indeed...and if I have a choice between my kid rubbing elbows with future captains of industry vs. future food stamp cashers, I'm picking the former.
Not that it matches my idealistic fantasy worldview, but the older I get, the more I realize it isn't nearly so much what you know as who you know.
Sad, but true.