Reasons to be single

[Richelieu]

Originally posted by Frogger
No, and you can't have her.

Think i'm off to Montreal this week end... If there is such a creature i'll find her!

[Q Classic]

if you get the right one to complement you, she --and you-- will know which boundaries are acceptable to all.

as in, my gf doesn't want me to do anything stupidly dangerous -- hence, no xgames for me. then again, i was never interested.

or, if i need time off to do something alone, not involving mad sex0ring with others or what not, she let's me go off and do it. likewise for her-- i don't pretend to have any control.

so really, being in a good relationship isn't much of a hassle, when it works.

which is the key to it all, now, isn't it ?

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Asher

Definitely. When you want time alone, you have time alone. When you want to be social, you invite people over or go out.

Why can't you have alone time in a relationship ? All I need to say is that I need some time alone and I have it. Good relationships are not about control. If I want to go out with friends or whatever, I do it. Generally though, two conflicting schedules mean we are searching for additional time together, not apart.

Qcubed-- I agree-- the key is a good relationship

More generally:

Being single just works for some people --some for a period of time and others for their whole life-- I'm not knocking singlehood, its the best choice for some people based on what they value and need.

But a lot of the benefits of singlehood put forth in this thread are really only the disadvantages of a "bad " relationship. ten years ago I might have echoed some of them. But, after several bad relationships, I now know the benefits of a good relationship and can tell you that a lot of the " benefits of singlehood" listed, still apply to married folk.

[Asher]

A lot of people just aren't willing to go through so many years (if not all of their years) to find a "good" relationship through so many bad ones.

I would think that having a lot of "alone time" defeats the purpose of marriage.

[Aeson]

29. A restraining order

[connorkimbro]

29 Nobody is having better sex than the imaginary sex I can have in my mind while single :-o

Nobody is imagining having better sex than the sex that i'm imagining in my mind that i'm going to have later with my SO.

HA! Yeah right. I'm really actually quite single, and am getting no sex from anyone, good or bad. But I just thought of this witty response and desperatly needed to share. lol.

[Q Classic]

again, see, the key is a good relationship, and balance.

i mean, who wants to be around their honey when she's very very very very irate because of her cycle? especially when she's told you, flat out, she doesn't want you around, because she wants you to be around for the other 20-odd days when she's normal... and not in pieces?

but it doesn't defeat the purpose of a marriage, alone time. although i wouldn't know. but in a good, solid, serious relationship, it doesn't detract. if anything, it helps you appreciate the individuality of the other, and the gift she/he gives in being with you, together, as a whole.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Asher
A lot of people just aren't willing to go through so many years (if not all of their years) to find a "good" relationship through so many bad ones.

It can be quite a process, I agree. In fact, I had a couple of relationships that seemed very good but only upon achieving something so much better do you realize how bad they were in comparison.

Originally posted by Asher
I would think that having a lot of "alone time" defeats the purpose of marriage.

Not really. Marriage can be whatever the two people want to make of it. I do not seek a lot of "alone time" but if I want it, it would be no problem.

[The Mad Monk]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger


Perhaps I misread your earlier post, I still am not sure what those empty pairs of double quotes are for.

Those are ditto marks -- they indicate you should read them as the line above.

[Fidel]

if you saw my gf you'd understand why i gave up the right to be pig when and where i want it.
i used to be a ladies man

[Kassiopeia]

Originally posted by LightEning
28. More time to reach Supreme Enlightenment

There are more ways then yours to reach Supreme Enlightenment, and for one of them an SO is vital.

[DaShi]

SO! Tee hee!

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by Q Cubed
again, see, the key is a good relationship, and balance.

i mean, who wants to be around their honey when she's very very very very irate because of her cycle? especially when she's told you, flat out, she doesn't want you around, because she wants you to be around for the other 20-odd days when she's normal... and not in pieces?

but it doesn't defeat the purpose of a marriage, alone time. although i wouldn't know. but in a good, solid, serious relationship, it doesn't detract. if anything, it helps you appreciate the individuality of the other, and the gift she/he gives in being with you, together, as a whole.

BINGO!!! Give that man a cookie! By George I think he's got it!

[The Pioneer]

Re: Reasons to be single

Originally posted by MasterBob The Elder
Good points about not having a significant other:

1. You won't get bossed around
2. You can do what you want
3. You don't have to worry about hurting the other person's feelings.
4. No nagging arguments
5. You only have to care and look out for yourself
6.Your free and independant


Thats what I come up with, I'm sure you all can think of more.

You know that you found the perfect partner when you do not have to worry about the above. Believe me it is possible, the actual problem is when people "care" to much! You would have to be indifferent/neutral and give your significant other enough space to breathe as she/he was before you met. Of course the other side will have to perceive this as the very important Lebensraum every one needs for himself and not as lack of interest/love.

So long...

[Dry]

30. No "Because you love me" blackmail.