This is just the first time in my life I'm drinking without company... at home, alone

[Ecthy]

probably... but that won't happen in this place, at least not that easily... BTW, before you get a wrong idea, I'm not being elitist or anything... it just doesn't work out well with everyone

[Kropotkin]

No, it's not about being an elitist. Although I myself get that feeling from time to time I rather like to think of it like being different not better. As for the real subject. There might be a people out there that's worth meeting but your missing out on because of your melancholy.* They don't have to be exacly like you, they might be very different, but they might be worth it.

* a interesting note here is that serious and long lasting melancholy in the past was thought to lead to lykantrophy (as from latin for wolf and man). Thus Hesse's Steppenwolf

[Ecthy]

I know, and I know such people... but then they'r enot the kind to go out regularly either... besides, there's not a lot to do as in "going out and socialising", but pubbing or clubbing in the evenings... and that cost money

[Monk]

they realize I'm there, then look away. As in "go away, perv!". every single one.

Because you expect them to do so and you're probably wearing sneakers, jeans and a t-shirt and giving a general image of sexual insecurity. They're shallow as hell, so the real question is - why even bother approaching them - why is this reaction relevant? What do you want from them? It's the wrong enviroment for one-night-stands and they sure aren't competent to discuss Hesse either.

Join a party, a grassroot organization, get involved in some cause, use the Internet to seek out people in your local area. The trick is that you move around social circles of people with common interests so there's never any ackward silence.

[Ecthy]

now that's odd... BTW, I tend to wear light trousers and a sweatshirt, which should be just fine enough

[Kropotkin]

Oh well the money issue. Time to rob a bank I'd say

[Provost Harrison]

Originally posted by David Floyd


Yeah - I actually went to a club by myself last night, nothing wrong with that at all, and I actually prefer it that way now considering you don't have to feel bad when you're dancing with girls and your friends are standing around like losers

Well I have started going out to clubs on my own, I find it can be quite helpful in certain situations where you feel more compelled to talk to other people rather than stick in your group.

All I can say is Andy is to relax, but often, none of the advice is any good when you don't know how to implement it or act upon it. It takes a lot of courage and determination, and I feel things are improving slowly, but no amount of people telling you what to do is going to help unless you can do things yourself. You need a change of scenery, like I need a change of scenery. But sometimes you doubt whether even this will help. So just keep going, there is nothing wrong with a pint now and again, damn I seem to drink enough lately.

So just hope for the best, you are only young yet, look at the mistakes and misjudgements I have made through my life and try and learn what has taken me almost a decade to figure out, and then I still have some way to go.

[Ecthy]

Originally posted by Monk
Join a party, a grassroot organization, get involved in some cause, use the Internet to seek out people in your local area. The trick is that you move around social circles of people with common interests so there's never any ackward silence.

And that's the problem... I haven't been to a party yet that was only halfway fun like that.. parties in this area (or at least those of friends of mine) tend to be boring parties in small circles... and if there are several of those small circles, they stay separated... so by that, I'd need a big party of something very common... I just don't have any interests like that,

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Hormones.

You have loads of them swimming around your head and love spuds at the moment.

They affect your emotions.

When they get out of whack, you get depressed and angsty and whimper on forums. Or write crap poetry.

It'll pass.

[Ecthy]

but what about the rational facts? do they go away as well?

[Zylka]

The first step is to stop wearing f*cking sweatshirts

[Provost Harrison]

And quite how is the wearing of such a garment relevent Zylka? Should he be wearing a pastel shirt instead and looking like a right townie twat?

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

Originally posted by Ecthelion
but what about the rational facts? do they go away as well?

Nope. You just stop caring about them.

[TCO]

Re: Asher = Herman is true regarding my ignore list *evil*

Originally posted by Ecthelion
My skin is clean, I get sun, I wear... normal clothes (cool clothes are silly, I'd rather be a virgin than preppy ), my hair is short, 17-year-olds can't be found on ICQ for the minimum age for searching is 18, and as for the rest...:

It's true I'm not doing a lot to change my situation. The first to guess the reason wins a prize.

Aids, Herpes, mono, bad breath?

do I win the prize?

[Ecthy]

all of them, GP, all of them

BFB - to be quite honest, I've made such observations before. you might have a point there