Where are the people of my age group?

[Ecthy]

True Eli, such as those of your age group.

[Dauphin]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
Yeah, but what do they do when not in 'work' such as 'evenings' and 'weekends'

At home making babies. The only friends I see these days are the singles, cos the couples are doing there own private little thing, whatever that be.

[Provost Harrison]

I have made a jump like that in finishing my PhD paiktis, unfortunately it is a bit like a jump from the frying pan straight into the fire. I suppose I get a bit curious what people in my position are going. I have always hyped up to be so much, and when you feel that you have fallen flat on your face, you have a bit of a morbid fascination with how other people are progressing in the same situation, even meeting them and seeing what they say.

[Provost Harrison]

Yes, that sounds about right SD. It's depressing isn't it...

[Provost Harrison]

See this is the problem, I don't feel like I have anything in common with people of my own age, my experiences and my life have been different to theirs. I suppose mine has brought it's experiences and advantages, but at the end of the day, I dunno where I stand...it's quite strange when people tell you what you are capable of and what you should do, but you don't really feel like you are as capable as that. People generally seem to have more confidence in my abilities than I do.

[Ecthy]

You can make it!

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
I have made a jump like that in finishing my PhD paiktis, unfortunately it is a bit like a jump from the frying pan straight into the fire. I suppose I get a bit curious what people in my position are going. I have always hyped up to be so much, and when you feel that you have fallen flat on your face, you have a bit of a morbid fascination with how other people are progressing in the same situation, even meeting them and seeing what they say.

welcome to the club

it was "easy" to be "amongst the first and the best", the joy and pride of mommy etc etc when you were younger (academically wise etc)

now with whom to compare and by what!???

I had been in a phase where i had chosen money as my way of "measuring up" how I am doing in comparison with others of my age group. But that is just stupid and immature.

sometimes maybe it is better to stop being so demanding of ourselves (not to the point of inactivety though)

I too have a small feeling of having let my life "adrift" and be a bit unsure as to where to go next - as maybe you are feeling.

maybe we are people who are not happy to take thigs for granted?
maybe we are in the phase of "finding our own way"? (corny!) who knows.

feck it!

in any case, one thing that I have learned about my little self so far is to tone down a bit that "antagonistic" spirit I maybe had and this will to measure up and compare myself with others. It is just immaturity and feeling unsure of yourself... although it sometimes serves as a kind of compass.

oh well

[Rogan Josh]

PH: Why not try and find a job in another country (mainland Europe perhap) ? It would be a great experience, great fun and you would get to learn a new language. Then when you came back to the UK everyone would be clamouring to employ you because you have 'international experience'.

[OldWarrior_42]

Provost... people our age are still around. I'm right here . I'm there for you , bud.
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By the way, you are 45, right?

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[Provost Harrison]

I wouldn't know where to start. Besides, from what I have seen they are after people who have PhDs. Although I have done a considerable proportion of a PhD, I do not actually possess one. I dunno, it's a difficult one...one I wouldn't know where to start.

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by Provost Harrison
I wouldn't know where to start. Besides, from what I have seen they are after people who have PhDs. Although I have done a considerable proportion of a PhD, I do not actually possess one. I dunno, it's a difficult one...one I wouldn't know where to start.

you can start at the Comenius program of the EU.

Just visit your european commission offices (hmm maybe they are in the capital?) and ask for the paper forms.

It is a program for yound graduates that have just finished their studies.


One of my friends used it and he is now working in Ultrecht(sp?) in the Netherlands for 3 years, earning tons of money and he is travelling a lot (with all that spare money).

Go to the EC offices ask for info and for the forms, complete them and see what can happen.


The Comenius program finances the (foreign) enterprise to employ you as a trainee. Still you can have another solution.

For example the guy I'm talking about didn't even pass through training they offered him a full working contract for 2 years (renewable).

if you want to work somewhere abraod this program is the easiest way to do it.

[Mercator]

You could try the university (if you don't completely hate it yet), or doesn't the uni have a special employment service or something?
Or just search the web for all sorts of companies, perhaps British companies who are also abroad etc. and e-mail them.

[Bereta_Eder]

they find the companies for you
(they match your skills with what the companies are looking for)

[Mercator]

And I agree with SD about where all the other are. After their studies everyone gets a lame office job, gets married and gets sucked into the rat race called "real life".
I hope and intend to do this a little different.

[Mercator]

Yes... your idea was a little better, paiktis, I cross-posted.

(and it's Utrecht without the "l")