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I'd do something like that with my hair, but alas, I work in a hospital and I don't think it would go down too well 
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Speaking of Erith:
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Good luck to you guys, mild depression can be beaten with a large amount of effort and a little bit of risk.www.my-piano.blogspotComment
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MacTBone:
If you think a social life or a love life or doing exciting things or even having fun is essential to life, then you have already let them influence you too much. Learn to take pride in being an outwardly Dull Person (like I do (I tried a purity test on the internet recently and scored 98.6%, and I'm damn proud of it)), and if you have a different mind than others learn to take pride in that and make good use of it. If you call not participating in the aimless concerns that most people have "dying", then dying is a great thing.
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Conversing with the opposite sex is easier than you think. Or the same sex for that matter. It's simple. TALK ABOUT THEM. Ask them a few questions about themselves and let them do most of the talking. Almost everyone likes talking about themselves. Let them. The side benifit is that you will learn about their interests and determine if you even want to be friends or more with them.
A couple of interactive comments, like "now that is interesting" and a few smiles (yes, a smile does more for you than anything else possibly can) can sustain a one sided conversation for a considerable long time. And there's less chance of saying something stupid. As long as you don't have a "laugh from hell" even the most socially inept person can handle it.
Once a person thinks the've impressed you with the "wit" (sometimes real, sometimes imagined) they'll feel much more comfortable with you.
Eventually the discussion will come around to you, but by then, you shouldn't feel as awkward.
A little self confidence works wonders too. If you think everyone is going to think you're a loser, your body language will send that message. If you have a little self confidence your body language will reflect that. If you can't bring yourself to convince yourself that you're self confident, try don't giving a Sh**. It's easier and the body language is very similar.
RAH
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Rejection is a fact of life, don't let it get you down, just keep trying. Eventually the odds will be in your favor.It's almost as if all his overconfident, absolutist assertions were spoonfed to him by a trusted website or subreddit. Sheeple
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I bet RAH was one of the True Playerz in his day.
In fact, I bet he still could be!
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Just like you then Stew
All you can be is be yourself. But women have proven to be harder for me. Not for being friends of course, but anything else. It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks.Speaking of Erith:
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As a follow up to Rah's point it's good to get people to talk about themselves but have to actually listen to what people say. No good getting them to talk about themselves if you aren't really going to listen. And don't be afraid to talk about yourself, that's harder in someways but the more you give the more you'll get back in return.Jon Miller: MikeH speaks the truth
Jon Miller: MikeH is a shockingly revolting dolt and a masturbatory urine-reeking sideshow freak whose word is as valuable as an aging cow paddy.
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Well said Rah
Oh how I wish I was 18 again and would know what I know now. Women are just as insecure as guys, and are looking for approval just as much. Just giving a compliment about cloathing or their hair in a conversation does wonders.
One thing I never understand though, are those guys that NEVER have girlfriends but turn down perfectly nice girls for some stupid excuse because they think the girl would be commented on by friends. SO what? When I was 19 I would hump every girl I could (some would require a few beers in advance, but still).
Just remember this little piece of knowledge that I picked up once from the Oprah Winfrey show
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'Men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love'
Before you know it you're contemplating living together.
Well, lets just imagine my question is not hypothetical then...
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Yeah, MikeH is right. You also need to talk about yourself, but when you do that, as much as possible you need to make "me too" statements - but not overtly of course.
For example, try and find holiday destinations you've both been to and liked - talk about those. See what she liked about the places, listen to her and then a little bit later repeat to her what she said to you but in a different wording. Works a charm
Alternatively, find sports you're both into, interests you have, etc - and try to keep the conversation in areas where you both have similar experiences.www.my-piano.blogspotComment
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You may find you are both into watersportsOriginally posted by Boddington's
Alternatively, find sports you're both into, interests you have, etc - and try to keep the conversation in areas where you both have similar experiences.
Well I dunno, it is hard to just strike up a conversation with a complete stranger. I need some kind of inlet, some way to start a conversation, ie, an introduction, otherwise I just can't do it.Speaking of Erith:
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And very important...BE POSITIVE!
Don't be moaning about how TV ****, how you hate your town, how crime is so high...
People associate feelings with people - if you talk about negative things with a girl, she'll associate negative connotations with you.www.my-piano.blogspotComment
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It's also hard to get a degree and attempt a PhD but you can do that. It's a challenge...RISE TO IT!Originally posted by Provost Harrison
You may find you are both into watersports
Well I dunno, it is hard to just strike up a conversation with a complete stranger. I need some kind of inlet, some way to start a conversation, ie, an introduction, otherwise I just can't do it.www.my-piano.blogspotComment
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Well: 'Hi, are you into watersports?' woud be a VERY nice start!Originally posted by Provost Harrison
You may find you are both into watersports
Well I dunno, it is hard to just strike up a conversation with a complete stranger. I need some kind of inlet, some way to start a conversation, ie, an introduction, otherwise I just can't do it.
Well, lets just imagine my question is not hypothetical then...
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Yes, well, different horses for different courses eh. This one causes me greater problems than any other.Speaking of Erith:
"It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda SmithComment
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Nothing could be farther from the truth. I was always paralyzed by fear of rejection, and a couple of rejections would just hammer the point down. I wish I could go back to when I was 15 and explain this simple concept to myself. Women would have been a lot easier to deal with.Originally posted by Boddington's
I bet RAH was one of the True Playerz in his day.
In fact, I bet he still could be!
The real smart men learn this early in live. Others learn it in their late twenties because they just don't give a crap. The rest of us learn it after getting married, when there is no longer any pressure, and we see how easy it could have been. I've learned to be a True Player but alas, can't take advantage of it.
RAHIt's almost as if all his overconfident, absolutist assertions were spoonfed to him by a trusted website or subreddit. Sheeple
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