Life, what a sick joke

[CB2034]

bump, by accident

[Solly]

So who was the Truest Player, Rah? You or Ming?

[rah]

All depends who you talk to

We were both a little geekie in HS.

College gave us an opportunity to start with a clean slate, and things were much easier.

RAH

[Solly]

Well Ming told me it was a different girl each night for him. It'd be impressive if you beat that...

[rah]

ROTFLMAO


Sure thing.

I had a quantity discount at the hourly rate hotel in town.

RAH

[mactbone]

Rah, great points, but I don't seem to have to much of a problem talking to people (after I've had to talk to them from class or some other contrived excuse ). It's the whole, how do I find other things to talk about, and how do I get them to WANT to talk to me. I'm always the one initiating conversations which makes me a little uncomfortable because I feel like a sycophant. Although I did get two chicks' AIM names last semester

Today felt pretty good, some chick in my German class (who I thought would abhor being around me) ended up getting partnered up with me for some stuff in class and she actually looked like she liked talking to me, but then class was over and she booked out of there.

[C0ckney]

Dude I just noticed your sig, Blue Monday is by New Order

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Also, look for body language. I can (fairly accurately) tell if people like me or not, if girls are attracted to me within a few minutes of talking.
It seems as though the main responses are about getting the girl, so I'll stick with that. Now for some of us this might be old hat, but it might time to pass on the secrets to the next generation .

Persistent eye contact=good
If you find that they are still looking at you if you avert your gaze for a bit=better
If she keeps looking behind you, don't bother spending anymore time with her, as she's bored
If you smile/wink and they smile/wink back=good
If you smile, and they glare back at you=bad
Hair flicking/touching=good unless she seems totally focused on it, in which case she's bored
Leaning towards you=good
And once she starts accentuating parts of her body she thinks you might be interested in (stroking down her top, or running her hands over thighs), you're basically in there .

Still to get that far, you'll have to a bit of talking as well. For complete strangers, go up to them, say Hi, I am..., make a witty remark or two, and as was said before ask them about themselves. Answer any questions they ask you relatively truthfully, but try and turn the conversation back to them as fast as politely possible. Smile at anything remotely funny they might say. Obviously try and maintain eye contact (it is okay to run your eyes over the girl when you approach her, but don't do it while you're talking to her). Use your eyes to communicate (raised eyebrows, quick glances etc.) to maintain eye contact.

This seems to work in the UK, so I don't know if it'll work in the States, but I have a pretty good success rate with American exchange students, so...

Hope this helps.

[Ted Striker]

Well said rah and Infatplayeration.

That trick about just listening and throwing in affirmation is really good. Often you'll have girls coming away from conversations saying, "what a GREAT guy!" And they don't know one damn thing about you!

Also Boddington's thing about being positive, you can take that to the bank. If you're positive around her, she'll remember you in a positive light.

Personally when a woman is feeling like crap, I back off, and lay low, there's not much you can do to get her out of her mood. Just say something positive to her about how she can handle the situation and get lost as fast as you can. (Unless you are in a very close relationship where it's a requirement to listen to the "end of the day" whining, and respond with, "yeah, uh-huh, wow, okay that sucks, you did the right thing honey, really?, I bet you are frustratred huh?, oh neat, awesome!, so what are you going to do next?, etc., etc.)

Don't be that guy that gets stuck listening to the girl for hours on end when she is feeling frustrated and "needs someone to talk to." If you are interested in a girl, that's one of the sure fire ways to end up stuck in the friends zone.

[mactbone]

I shoulda done this a long time ago, the knowledge of decades of experience!

Oh, and maybe New Order wrote the song, but I heard the Orgy version. Very cool, "How does it feel! How should I feel! Those who came before me, lived to their vocations..."

[rah]

Originally posted by MacTBone
Rah, great points, but I don't seem to have to much of a problem talking to people (after I've had to talk to them from class or some other contrived excuse ). It's the whole, how do I find other things to talk about, and how do I get them to WANT to talk to me. I'm always the one initiating conversations which makes me a little uncomfortable because I feel like a sycophant. Although I did get two chicks' AIM names last semester

Today felt pretty good, some chick in my German class (who I thought would abhor being around me) ended up getting partnered up with me for some stuff in class and she actually looked like she liked talking to me, but then class was over and she booked out of there.

1. The main thing is don't set your sites on just one or just those that are probably socially unattainable.

Quantity, not necessarily quality. Granted there are extremes you want to avoid but they're all pink on the inside. Don't be shallow, there are a lot of great girls out there that aren't perfect.
And the perfect girls always seem to be looking to upgrade.

I've seen even the worst pickup lines work when used enough. (most anyway )

2. Who cares if you're always the initiator. That's been a man's role for centuries and women have just recently taken to it.

CONFIDENCE, don't make a big deal out of it, just do it.

3. Nothing attacts women more than when you already have one.
I don't mean being a chaneyhead and just using a girl to get others, but when you're young, you're not committing for life when you date someone. Go out and practice. Take note who now appears interested, and follow up after a few months. And who know, you may end up with your practice.
And practice breeds confidence, but don't let it go to your head.

4. Good one TED, watch out for the friend zone. BUT if enough opportunities happen, even friends get closer. Vodka can work wonders.

RAH


RAH

[Ted Striker]

"vodka"



good point

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Originally posted by rah


1. The main thing is don't set your sites on just one or just those that are probably socially unattainable.

Quantity, not necessarily quality. Granted there are extremes you want to avoid but they're all pink on the inside. Don't be shallow, there are a lot of great girls out there that aren't perfect.
And the perfect girls always seem to be looking to upgrade.

I've seen even the worst pickup lines work when used enough. (most anyway )

2. Who cares if you're always the initiator. That's been a man's role for centuries and women have just recently taken to it.

CONFIDENCE, don't make a big deal out of it, just do it.

3. Nothing attacts women more than when you already have one.
I don't mean being a chaneyhead and just using a girl to get others, but when you're young, you're not committing for life when you date someone. Go out and practice. Take note who now appears interested, and follow up after a few months. And who know, you may end up with your practice.
And practice breeds confidence, but don't let it go to your head.

4. Good one TED, watch out for the friend zone. BUT if enough opportunities happen, even friends get closer. Vodka can work wonders.

RAH


RAH

Can't agree more. You don't start driving in Porsche, so don't try and start dating one (so to speak). As your confidence grows, so will your appeal. Though I am not a big fan of the quantity not quality approach; it might get you a certain reputation that you don't want. A healthy balance between quality and quantity is essential. Don't aim too high, don't aim too low.

[Saint Marcus]

And very important...BE POSITIVE!

Oh yeah, good one.

Doesn't work at all sadly. Tried it for a while, but it backfired quite a bit. Every setback resulted in a huge blow to my confidence, and it took some time to become positive again. Plus, it made me far more nervous. Now on the other hand, I have no expectations, or only negative ones. That makes it so much easier to, say, talk to girls. I feel no presure, and so I'm far less nervous than I used to be, and people sense that. Cause of that I made 3 new male friends and 2 new female friends in just 6 months.

[faded glory]

Ok I has taken fromm readers digest the 5 main things women will do without realizing it, that they will do subconcouisly.

1)mess with there hair(thumbs up)
2)look at you while you are not looking at them
3)crossing legs Tighter than usual.
4)circulates one or both feet like they are stretching.


And teh biggest

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if they look better on the second date than the first
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ps. i has broken wrist's in right hand and bad left. apogilize for crap spelling