Life, what a sick joke

[*End Is Forever*]

If Spink is a player then I'm ****ing Santa Claus.

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by *End Is Forever*
If Spink is a player then I'm ****ing Santa Claus.

Brought any presents? Hehe at least he's trying.. Or he says he does

[faded glory]

Dude Im serouis

I look at single people and think "How the hell can you be Single". There are sooo many fish out in the sea. Besides, what the hell can go wrong on a date. I mean really? And I find it hard to believe (Unless your a complete Ogre) there are no women out there for you. You have to go looking.....if your waiting for 2 bi-Sexual blonde women to break into your house one night and give you an awesome time. It wont happen.


My point: Go out and look. Ask.....dont sweat it. If you make a mistake, you dont ever have to talk them again.

[Zealot]

Mac, this might not be much of a help, but here goes my advises:

-Try to stay fit
Physical attraction always helps when you say something you shouldn't. Swimming might be a good idea to achieve this. And since there's always other people who also go to the same pool, you might make some new friendships in the locker room or something (I did, and my friendship already lasts some incredible 8 years!)

-Read general-culture magazines
Making a good conversation is usually pretty hard, so knowing some topics of what to talk about is a good idea. The kind of Reader's Digest magazines. Or even Time Magazine. I think you get what I mean.

-Know people in IRC
One good thing about Internet is that you can meet new people easier. And one thing I found out is that the people who go IRC chats are of every age! And since usually there's a channel with a person's local town, you can meet new nearby people when meetings and dinners are arranged between the users of that channel.

-Don't smoke
It's bad for everyone's health.

-Smile!
You're on Candid Camera!
Everyone enjoys a tender, genuine smile. I believe you can reflect how nice you are/want to be with a person.

-Find people with same interests than you
If you "live" for the PC, you're certainly not going to get along with someone who hates computers, and don't want to even have an e-mail!
But you should also try to show you have interests in common things, despite some that you know they're not "compatible". Don't search for the perfect partner, search for a nice and trustworthy friend. If you can get something more than a friendship, well, you scored!

Any questions?

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by *End Is Forever*
If Spink is a player then I'm ****ing Santa Claus.

Whatever. Infatplayeration has got the sword, he's got the strut, and most importantly, the skillz.

paiktis is already training him to be next Onassis. Aren't you, paiktis?

"Ãáé"

See. Ted ain't no fool.

[ranskaldan]

well mactbone.... you've just offered a pretty good description of the phase i'm going thru.

i use 'phase' because i try to think of it as a 'passing' thing. Call it wishful thinking if you want, but i am really, really trying to expand my social circle and so on, so that this 'phase' will pass. I, like anyone else in this situation, certainly don't want to stuck friendless forever.

Well, a couple of days ago I was actually very very depressed, but now i've taken up a new way of thinking about it, which not only makes me happier but also gives me hope of ending this hellish life, so to speak.

1) don't think about girls right from the start.
That's right. Don't. If you can't get them, work on something else. Don't depress yourself with something that you can't do right now. Make friends. Join activities. Develop your interests, practice talking with people without offending them. Develop your charm, charisma, and general well-likedness.
If you can get all of these right, well then girls won't be that great a problem anymore.

2) make friends.
This is so incredibly important... Without friends your self-esteem and therefore happiness drops. With friends, you have more fun. You are less lonely. You are more well-known. You get more practice at dealing with other people.
It doesn't matter if you come out of all this with quite a few *enemies*. Everyone has enemies. Just mix around. You will end up with more friends than enemies, so the net result is still good.

3) interests
Find out about movies, music, sports, games, current affairs, etc. Any one will do, but the more the better. It's fun to find out about these... and you will have more to talk about when you are talking to a potential friend.

[*End Is Forever*]

Skillz my arse.

[faded glory]

When you go to school and date, there always people to talk about...things to talk about. When you are out of all of it alone. Finding a topic most difficult..thats why you skip around on subjects and when you find somthing she's interested in.Lash onto it like leech and suck her dry. But I think your problem is actually getting a date? no? If that is the problem there is a really simple solution.

The pool was a great one, or wieght lifting... I met my current girlfriend at a milwaukee bucks game, she and her friends had seats next to me and my room-mate at the time. And we talked about the game...got to know her, then found out she lived in Racine! Great...what part? Do you know this guy? OR her? Where do you work? And then the best part, Walking out of the bradley center together I asked "You Hungry". She said ya, so I told her to meet me at the Sbarro pizza At thats when it began.

Of course I dont "Consider myself a Player"(using the Rap Music Definition )...I cant say that I just hop around women looking to get down there pants. Im in my late 20's, I could never get away with that.

Besides, too prove im pretty lame, Ive never scored within 3 weeks of meeting a women. I would have known them longer...

[Bereta_Eder]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
paiktis is already training him to be next Onassis. Aren't you, paiktis?

"Ãáé"

See. Ted ain't no fool.

LOL

Don't know about Onassis though, Infat running an oil - tanker empire? The results would be... unforsenable

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by *End Is Forever*
Skillz my arse.

Those are good lists Zealot and ranskaldan.

[mactbone]

Good ideas all, guys, I just get this feeling that I'm never quite fitting in. As if I'm butting into other people's lives. I don't really have any enemies, just acquaintances.
Yes, I am a little bigger than your average guy, and I try to control that. I also have a hard time getting the courage to ask girls out, and I always take the rejection pretty good when they give an excuse, but it's really hard to find out about people when you see them for maybe 3 hours a week, and that's all class time.

[ranskaldan]

Originally posted by MacTBone
Good ideas all, guys, I just get this feeling that I'm never quite fitting in. As if I'm butting into other people's lives. I don't really have any enemies, just acquaintances.

Don't feel that way then. Think of it as, you're interested in other peoples lives and are willing to partipicate. If you enjoy being with people and finding out about them, this will show in your behavior. Others in turn will also feel more comfortable...

[Az]

heh , believe me, I know how you feel . Can't give you a real good advse though . say , do you have any female friends ?

[SlowwHand]

JEEzus. Can you guys be more morose?

Let me hazard a guess. You try too hard. Worry too much.
People sense that and are put off by it.
Lighten up some.
Go out with one of the band b1tches, Mac.
I bet they're hot.

[C0ckney]

It's always the quiet ones

I bet they'd go like a train too