Are you a whore?

[Provost Harrison]

About that mean partners for both sexes being the same...you are forgetting to factor in homosexuality

[Provost Harrison]

But Albert, sex is something you should enjoy, if you are not sleeping around and you use adequate protection, I really don't see your problem. You're just being silly, and denying yourself a major part of your life.

[Jon Miller]

if he is religious I don't see him as being silly

if he wants to be careful I don't see him as being silly

casual sex is not what everyone is doing, I know many (in fact, by far the majority) who just have sex with SO/GF/BFs (with whom they are at least somewhere on the path from initial attraction to love)

Jon Miller

[Provost Harrison]

Religion is silly full stop. If two people are attracted to each other 'like that', they should bonk, simple as that.

[Spiffor]

One.

Currently, the plan to diversify experiences is unclear. my gf and I both share the opinion we don't want to have known only one partner by the time of our death, but we haven't figured out how to organize the experiment time.

[Jon Miller]

no

sex combines physical attraction and romantic love

many people go to sex for the one, and come out with the other

a female freind of mine, for example, had numerous BFs who she knew were dicks, but she was attracted to them and so dated and had sex with them

she than started to have feelings for them and she was hurt when they turned out to be the dicks she had known them to be

also, it is more the possible (in fact, I belive that it happens to everyone all the time) to feel physical attraction for others even if you love who you are with, but if you act on it generally the Relationship has problems

Jon Miller

[Jon Miller]

Originally posted by Spiffor
One.

Currently, the plan to diversify experiences is unclear. my gf and I both share the opinion we don't want to have known only one partner by the time of our death, but we haven't figured out how to organize the experiment time.

that is very silly

I think it is very romantic to only know one partner

Jon Miller
(any experiment time could hurt your relationship, it would probably be best if you do do such a time to do it when you guys are appart, you know, take a vacation to different parts of the world and than don't question eachother when you both return)

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
(any experiment time could hurt your relationship, it would probably be best if you do do such a time to do it when you guys are appart, you know, take a vacation to different parts of the world and than don't question eachother when you both return)

This is the most pragmatic option, and the one we tend to favor. But we have no idea about the timing, and despite accepting the idea on principle, she clearly doesn't want to act on it.

[JohnT]

Originally posted by St Leo

Originally posted by JohnT
I'm one of the 11 people (so far) who has voted "1".

Loser.

My wife and I have been together for 17 years. Please regale us with stories of your long-term relationship successes.

[NeOmega]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
I actually think your responses are stupid (when I reread what you were responding to)

what is the whole priesthood response about, I said I wanted sex

and your response that for love to occur, you have to be having sex with a girl is all ****ed up

I don't beleive in pressuring people, and I do beleive in respecting whoever I am with

Jon Miller

I really don't give a rat's ass if you have sex or not. If you want to wait, I am not going to stop you. Wait as long as you want.

Puppy love is not a crush BTW. Puppy love is being in love because you know you are eventually going to get laid. The longer you wait, the more "in love" you feel.... until marriage... then.... well... then you find out if that person really was the right person.

And pressuring, I didn't say pressure, I said don't be shy. Pressuring is not the same thing as not being shy. It means be honest about what you want, and viola, you'll find her starting to be honest. Hell of a lot more fun than talking about children and why you whould wait until you are married.

@Spiffor
Strange you and your GF agree you don't want to be with the same person your whole life. There really is no way out, as love and sex do actually go hand in hand.

Allthough it is good to be honest about your feelings, realistically any action on them would be devestating.... unless you became swingers, which could be so uncomfortable, but not knowing what happened on a vacation would be so, so much mre uncomfortable.

Also, I don't know how long you two have been together, but have you forgotten how hard sex can be with a stranger... awkward, and such? It could also be very unsatisfying, knowing or thinking about her on her vacation.

if he is religious I don't see him as being silly

no, but this is silly, sounds like he was castrated with a Bible:

**** sex, it's wrong

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by NeOmega
@Spiffor
Strange you and your GF agree you don't want to be with the same person your whole life. There really is no way out, as love and sex do actually go hand in hand.

Allthough it is good to be honest about your feelings, realistically any action on them would be devestating.... unless you became swingers, which could be so uncomfortable, but not knowing what happened on a vacation would be so, so much mre uncomfortable.

Also, I don't know how long you two have been together, but have you forgotten how hard sex can be with a stranger... awkward, and such? It could also be very unsatisfying, knowing or thinking about her on her vacation.

This is indeed the problem. We both lost our virginity together, a year and a half ago. And we talked about it (on my initiative, given that I'm very open minded wrt sex) quite quickly.
While we both agree on the principle, we also both know it is risky for our relationship, and we don't want to waste it like that.

However, I believe the popular wisdom that says the more serious one is while young, the more womanizer while old. And should my gf and I become a happy family, I don't want to waste everything for some sexual curiosity (from my part, or from hers).

I don't think I'd be too disturbed by her having sex with somebody else (just to try), but she'd definitely feel utterly betrayed if I cheated on her - hence my not cheating on her.

[NeOmega]

Originally posted by Spiffor
I don't think I'd be too disturbed by her having sex with somebody else (just to try), but she'd definitely feel utterly betrayed if I cheated on her - hence my not cheating on her.

Has she ever gone out at night and stayed out longer than she said she would?

I ask this because, you know as every hour passes, no matter how stable the relationship, strange thoughts get in your head.

I don't know man... if you got a good thing going, messing it up with experiments could be, really, really dangerous.

I guess I don't get why people want to have sex with more than one person, unless they are not fully being satisfied.

[Ted Striker]

Spiffor, I'd say drop the experiment

What you have works

Don't break it with silly thoughts

Both of you are happy and neither one of you believe that theory that you should be with a bunch of people before settling down. You just want to THINK that you should follow the theory so that you are "doing it right."

Follow your heart, it is always right. To hell with "popular wisdom."

[Spiffor]

Don't worry Ted, I certainly don't intend at doing something stupid.

Everything wrt other sexual partners will require the agreement of my gf anyway, and she is less than willing to grant it

[Firelad]

7.
I lost my virginity some 8 months ago; 4 of them were during my 2-month foray into Tel Aviv. Now I sorta got a girlfriend, with whom I have not yet had sex, seeing as we've been together something like a week and a half, me being away on rehearsal marathon for half a week and on top of it all her being a virgin.
I have never successfully managed to penetrate a virgin or the above count would be higher. I am nervous, but also in love.
What the heck.

~Marc