So I met this guy . . . . . .

[MrFun]

Oh, and Ben -- you can't just walk out of the interrogation room scot free.

[Jaguar]

Originally posted by MrFun
Well, Ken and I had dinner earlier this evening, then we went to his house (nice country home), and watched the movie, Dogma -- funny movie -- I liked it.

After the movie, I opened up the conversation about what I was thinking and feeling about him and I. Honest communication is hard, but I couldn't let him go too far out on the limb, so on this second time together, I told him my thoughts.

I basically told him that all I had for him were plutonic friendship feelings. Then he told me what his feelings/thoughts were, which was that he was hoping we would start dating, and establish some kind of relationship beyond friendship. So he said that he felt somewhat disappointed, but not really hurt.

I then told him that because he and I have several common areas in terms of interests, as well as life experiences, I want to see if we can be good plutonic friends. He said that would be real good -- of course, we'll see if we actually do become good friends.


I'm somewhat disappointed myself -- I want to find someone for something beyond plutonic friendship. Oh well, another time, with someone else, I suppose.

It's platonic. .

[MrFun]

plutonic, platonic -- whatever

[Boris Godunov]

Originally posted by MrFun
plutonic friendship.

BOOM!

[DeathByTheSword]

maybe stupid question....but why not anuthing else then friends...in your first post you really liked the guy....

[SpencerH]

..............but weren't attracted ? then went on a date ?

[MrFun]

Like I told Ken at the end of our first evening -- I did not know for sure at that point.

After our second evening together yesterday, I realized that I was not attracted to him to be more intimate with him.

[Japher]

I think MrFun

a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons)
b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos
c) Is very, very, very picky
d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual



So, which is it MrFun? A 2 year dry spell is not because you haven't been trying.

Edit: Crush from "cruch", is that even a word!

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Japher
I think MrFun

a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons)
b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos
c) Is very, very, very picky
d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual



So, which is it MrFun? A 2 year dry spell is not because you haven't been trying.

Edit: Crush from "cruch", is that even a word!

Yeah -- I wanted to deliberately hurt Ken -- that is why I wait soooooooo long and I never told him what I thought until we went all the way up to our SECOND date!

[Jaguar]

Originally posted by Japher
I think MrFun

a) Doesn't want to be in a real relationship (for any number of reasons)
b) Just likes to lead people on than crush their egos
c) Is very, very, very picky
d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Japher
I think MrFun

c) Is very, very, very picky

Actually, a couple of my friends have outright told me in the past, once or twice, that I might be a little too picky. But you exaggerate it much more than they did, and I'm not sure I agree with those two friends of mine.

Originally posted by Japher
d) Is not really gay, but likes the image so that he can get away with saying things like non-heterosexual

It's true -- I have been considering recently, about coming out as a straight guy who digs chicks.

[DeathByTheSword]

oh no you just stay gay now....more girls for me

[Japher]

Like it would matter. He'd date them all, but would end up just being friends... Metrosexual

[MrFun]

Originally posted by Japher
Like it would matter. He'd date them all, but would end up just being friends... Metrosexual

Anyway, there are a couple of other local, new guys that I have already met and I'm going to see what happens -- I could use a couple of platonic friends down here in the middle of nowhere.

[Spiffor]

Does "platonic friends" mean "friends, but we are gay, so there is something exceptional in not having sexual relationships together" ?