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  • Right forget that TCO macho posing, it was for fun.

    Maybe you seem "distant" to (some) people? And they take this as you being snob? Where it evidently isn't the case? Just making light conversation.

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    • Originally posted by Provost Harrison
      I have been accused of being arrogant in the past until the person actually talks to me.
      Okay, so they think that your aloof when they don't talk to you (i.e. they are beneath your notice), and when they do it only confirms their suspicions (his arrogance proves he thinks me inferior).

      Possible?
      I'm consitently stupid- Japher
      I think that opinion in the United States is decidedly different from the rest of the world because we have a free press -- by free, I mean a virgorously presented right wing point of view on the air and available to all.- Ned

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      • No, you're right paiktis, but all it requires is time for people to get used to me. Even my manager said this. And as Theben said, it is the job of a manager to get the team to fit together. And to this end, she completely failed, singling me out and eliminating me, even though it was a change in equilibrium that was being restored. You see, I am cursed with having this thing they call 'a personality'. I am not a corporate clone.
        Speaking of Erith:

        "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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        • Originally posted by Theben


          Okay, so they think that your aloof when they don't talk to you (i.e. they are beneath your notice), and when they do it only confirms their suspicions (his arrogance proves he thinks me inferior).

          Possible?
          No, the other way around. People get to realise who I am, that I am not arrogant, but actually quite soft. I was just starting to achieve a breakthrough with people, same with what happened at my previous employment. It does take time to get used to a new environment and a new group of people. Once that breakthrough is achieved and I feel more comfortable and others feel comfortable with me (remember, it is a two-way process - relationships take time to develop), there is never a problem. People from my previous workplaces will vouch for that. Do you think I would have been offered my previous job back on a platter if I was a difficult person?
          Speaking of Erith:

          "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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          • Originally posted by Provost Harrison
            Do you think I would have been offered my previous job back on a platter if I was a difficult person?
            No. I'm just trying to figure out what their possible reasoning could be, which involves grilling you, since they aren't available at this time. Also to check what level of introspection you've performed. AND because some things you've said remind me of a job I had way back when; the people didn't talk to me much (I was brand new), and one day the manager came up to me and said that the others thought I felt superior to them because I didn't talk to them. The truth was I was just shy, and when that became known everyone opened up to me.

            But in my case the manger DID explain the situation to me, and fixed it. Quite honestly if their position is that your personality was impairing the workplace and they did nothing prior to your dismissal to address the issue, they're admitting they fired you b/c they didn't do their job.
            I'm consitently stupid- Japher
            I think that opinion in the United States is decidedly different from the rest of the world because we have a free press -- by free, I mean a virgorously presented right wing point of view on the air and available to all.- Ned

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            • Exactly...I was making breakthroughs with people. I was talking with my colleagues that morning about their kids and their Christmas plays and having a joke with two of the girls down in the lab ("Have you brought me chocolate", "No, I've brought you something far better than chocolate! PAPERWORK! , etc, etc). Actually I was becoming the first point of contact for many people who wanted something sorting out - the raw mats manager would always come to me to sort out document distribution and dig something out of archives for him, saying "You're a star, Rich". Does this sound like the kind of person who is having difficulty with people? There is something deeper going on which they haven't levelled with me about.
              Speaking of Erith:

              "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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              • It may not have been your co-workers, it may have been the managers who felt threatened.
                We need seperate human-only games for MP/PBEM that dont include the over-simplifications required to have a good AI
                If any man be thirsty, let him come unto me and drink. Vampire 7:37
                Just one old soldiers opinion. E Tenebris Lux. Pax quaeritur bello.

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                • I have come to that conclusion too SpencerH which is why I am not afraid to go further with this, because I reckon they have no backup for their actions. I will call their bluff.
                  Speaking of Erith:

                  "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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                  • Ever taken an emotional intelligence questionnaire, or something like Firo B?
                    The genesis of the "evil Finn" concept- Evil, evil Finland

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                    • A what?
                      Speaking of Erith:

                      "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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                      • What's your emotional intelligence quotient? Originally published as "EQ" with a copy of the EQ test in the November-December 1995 issue of Utne Reader....


                        The genesis of the "evil Finn" concept- Evil, evil Finland

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                        • Another good one on Firo B.

                          The genesis of the "evil Finn" concept- Evil, evil Finland

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                          • Looks like more new-wave managerial bullsh*t to me, but I'll have a look...
                            Speaking of Erith:

                            "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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                            • See it scares me. I don't want this to happen again but there is always that worry that I am going to be treated like that again. I just want to get on with my life without these arseholes trying to f**k everything up and judging me on things which are just insignificant...
                              Speaking of Erith:

                              "It's not twinned with anywhere, but it does have a suicide pact with Dagenham" - Linda Smith

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                              • Maybe try to see that the things that are relevant to us are irrelevant to others, and vice versa...? No-one is the ultimate judge
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