Women changing their names when married?

[OliverFA]

If she wants to change her surname it's ok. But is she changes it by some sort of obligation then it is not ok.

There is no need to change it, but saying that the tradition followed at some countries goes against the woman's right and all that is just plain stupid. It is just a tradition and nothing else.

Spanish women don't change their surname when married and it has always worked well. The children get the first surname of the father and the first surname of the mother (Yes, we have two surnames).

[General Ludd]

Originally posted by Oerdin
I would be pissed to the point of calling off the marriage if she didn't want my last name. In my mind it is part of getting married and a symbol of our new life together. If she digs in on something so simple and fundimental then it's clear that hard times are ahead.

Nice double standard. You'd ditch her at the alter for making a "big deal" out of something so simple... right.

[Japher]

My wife took my name, god bless her... Her name went from an easily pronouncible 6 letter name to a tounge twister of an evil name with 13 letters and two words!

I wasn't going to change my name, and we had no discussion about it. One day, about a week before we were married, she came home with all the paper work to change her name on everything. I told her she's nuts, and she said it's how it's done.

Personally, I could care less, but I think it really keeps things simple to have the same last name and to have kids with the same last name. Ever try to go to a school and pick up a random kid? If you don't have the same name as the kid they won't believe anything you say. Passport forms and medical insurance would get really weird... It just seems that a lot of things rely on the two of you being married, and when people see two last names they will assume there is no relation and you may have issues.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Nice double standard. You'd ditch her at the alter for making a "big deal" out of something so simple... right.

[FrustratedPoet]

Originally posted by Dissident
but I would insist the children have my last name.

Why?

[Harry Seldon]

I didn't think it would matter whether my wife took my last name or not but when she took her time getting her name officially changed (about 8 months) it kind of hurt my feelings. What a wuss, right?

[Dinner]

It's just something I feel very stongly about and if she wasn't traditional enough to want to do so then it is obvious our values wouldn't match. How can you be married to someone who you don't share basic family values with?

[Saras]

Couldn't help it:


Homer: "While I was at the court house I had them change your name!"
Marge: "To what?!?!?!?"
HomeR: "Chesty Laroux"
Marge: "Chesty Laroux!?!?!?!"
Homer: "Just try it for two weeks and if you're not completely satisfied, you can be Busty St. Claire"
Marge: "I don't want to be Chesty Laroux or Busty Saint Claire!"
Homer: "Fine, Hootie McBoob it is"
Marge: "Goodnight Homer!!!"
Homer: "Sleep tight Hootie"
Marge: "Let go of those!"

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by SlowwHand
So, it's LTEC-Great?

Why YES! doesn't it sound pretty damn good?

[SlowwHand]

Oh, good. I didn't think you were going to see.

[ixnay]

My fiancee is going to take my last name.

Man, that still sounds strange, even a month later.

[Hot Mustard]

My wife took my name. I wouldn't have had a problem if she kept her own, but I have to admit it made me happy.

I found out a few years ago that wives aren't allowed to change their names in Quebec. They changed the law there awhile back, and made it retroactive. Most women ignore it and use what they want, but for all legal uses they must use their maiden name. I found this out when visiting my aunt in the hospital out there - she was admitted under her maiden name.

[Ishtar]

Well, when I got married, I changed my name.
When I got divorced, I chose to keep my married name as it had been my name for 10 years. Now that I've been divorced longer than I was married, I'm often tempted to change it back to my maiden name...but...if I do, who would know me? It's been my name since 1982. So.....................

[SlowwHand]

My mother kept my father's name after their divorce.
That was...33 years ago.

[Dinner]

My aunt still has her ex-husband's last name and they've been divorced for 12 years. The problem was they were married for like 15 years and EVRYONE know her as Mrs. so-and-so thus she would have had a hard time going back to her old name.