Sometimes people can be cruel.

[SlowwHand]

Does it look like that's what I said?
English is your primary language, so where did I say that?

[Thorn]

You think people should just prey on weak minded people... perhaps someone should prey on you.

[Lorizael]

EvC, really, what good are you doing in this thread? Who are you benefiting? He's already gone through the pain you're trying to force on him, so there's no need for him to go through it again.

[ajbera]

Thorn, take a Xanax... you're reading things into simple comments that just aren't there.

Sloww didn't say anything about weak-minded people a) deserving to die or b) deserving to be preyed upon.

[Thorn]

IF you really want to know:

I absorb other peoples suffering so his pain and the pain he caused his BF becomes mine (I'm glad I didn't know you two in real life, or it would be even worse)... so anger is the only response I can give that doesn't depress me... its ****ed up I consider it a curse...

Everytime I read in the paper or watch the news and someone hurts someone else it hurts me... I take in so much hurt that I have to vent some out and I try to do it at people that cause other people suffering instead of innocent people...

[Q Classic]

i've found that people who don't understand the sheer nastiness of depression and how it wreaks havoc on the mental state of its victims often think that it's a good idea to inform said victims of how they could have done things differently or better so as to avoid the hellish situation that the poor guy is in.

[ajbera]

Originally posted by Thorn
IF you really want to know:

I absorb other peoples suffering so his pain and the pain he caused his BF becomes mine (I'm glad I didn't know you two in real life, or it would be even worse)... so anger is the only response I can give that doesn't depress me... its ****ed up I consider it a curse...

Everytime I read in the paper or watch the news and someone hurts someone else it hurts me... I take in so much hurt that I have to vent some out and I try to do it at people that cause other people suffering instead of innocent people...

Be prepared for a miserable existence filled minute by minute with agonizing pain and sorrow.

Or, take a Xanax...

[Thorn]

Depression is very bad (I know I have it)... but a person losing their life b/c they are hurt by someone else is so much worse...

[FrustratedPoet]

Originally posted by ajbera
Or, take a Xanax...

Better yet: take 50.

[Thorn]

Well meds don't do **** for me... I'm on the maxiumum dose of Prozac that is proven to do anything at all.... and I'm on Wellbutran... and another anti-depressent....

[Japher]

I'm sorry MrFun that you are in a bad way right now. I know nothing of your situation, but I will say that I don't think that you haven't found anyone in the pass year because of rumors. I think it something with you. Maybe you really don't want someone right now because you still feel the need to grieve, or blame, or be angry?

I find that even the most outlandish rumors have a degree of truth behind them.

IMO, you broke up with your ex in a rather undignified way. You, however, were not responsible for his mental state. Also, how are to be sure that if you broke up with him in front of his face that things would be any better. You didn't do anything wrong, it seems to be taking time for you to admit this, but one day you will realize this, and then the world will be different.

Once again I find myself agreeing with Sloww...

Q: I don't think one should dwell on how they should of done things differently, and I don't understand depression... I do think that MrFun should dwell on the matter for sometime (2 years is a little long for me, but for him?) but then forget about it. I think the experience itself is enough to change him into a more sensative man, but then, who knows, maybe one day he will find himself in a bad relationship that he is afraid to get out of... No one can weigh the outcomes of uncertainty, thus, one must weigh the certainties of their outcomes. What?

If I want out of a relationship, I end it... That's it. I can't be held responsible for things that might happen to someone else for me doing so. If such a thing is inevitable, then I may redirect my approach. Yet, the only inevitability I can be certain of in my approach is that the relationship will end.

[Thorn]

Mr. Fun I wouldn't be mad at you if you had caused suffering to him but not caused him to leap over the edge...

You see the suffering of living person can get resolved... but a dead person never gets resolved. So it stays with me and them forever... so you added to his pain, your pain, and even my pain... I don't hate you... but I am really upset with you...

[Lorizael]

Dudes, he didn't break up with his boyfriend on the phone because he was a coward. He did it because he was thousands of miles away, and that was the most personal contact they could have. It wasn't a poor way of breaking up. It was, in fact, the best possible way considering the cirumstances.

It's not like he should have waited until he got home, greeted his boyfriend, and then said, "It's over." That would have been much more callous and rude.

[Q Classic]

what i meant with my last post is that often times, people in depression don't need to be reminded what it is they messed up because of their depression; they're quite aware of it and they know it happened because of the depression, and they don't need a third party telling them they made a bad decision, or that they made it worse with their bad decision, etc., etc., etc.

often times, when the depressed person is trying to get better, and trying to heal him/herself, he's even more acutely aware of the self-made disaster, and wants help fixing it--not another person, in addition to their worst critic (themselves), carping on how their failures could have been averted had they just done this or that.

[Thorn]

If someone hadn't died I wouldn't give any hurt on this thread.