I suck at flirting.

[Makeo]

heh heh. i suck at it. was just talking to a customer and was really trying hard but just couldn't pull it all together.

Funny how your good at some things naturally and have to work on others.

Who is good at it? Poor at it?

Its lucky i'm so incredibly handsome.

[Velociryx]

Mark me down as being at or near the other end of that spectrum....about the only distinguishing feature I have going for me is that I'm tall (6'6" and change). Aside from that, a totally average guy, so if I wanna get noticed, it means developing those conversational skills (and a good bit of winging it)

-=Vel=-

[alva]

heh heh. i suck at it.

I'm only making an assumption here, but you could very well be in the compagny of give or take 38.000 others who don't have much talent either.

[SlowwHand]

The big thing to remember is the difference in being witty and being crude.

[Alex]

I'm so good at flirting that it almost bothers me.

[Lorizael]

I prefer not to try. I inherit a pretty good natural wit from my family, and I use it in practically every conversation I have. If it happens that I have a chance to employ this wit while talking to an attractive person, all the better.

But if you attempt to force a conversation, in any way, odds are you'll end up screwing things up.

Then again, I'm an asocial git whose technically never had a girlfriend.

[TCO]

You're just very quiet. But when you make an effort to talk to people it seems that they are very interested in chatting with you.

Don't worry about that bird. Some people might look good, but you don't have much of a personality match. I think the key is to make sure that people who you do "click" with, are interested in discussion.

Those two girls from the Salt Creek like you...

[Spiffor]

I have trouble starting discussion with people who haven't been presented to me, because I have no idea of their center of interests, and I don't dare bothering them talking about Civ, 'Poly, Politics, or Princess Mononoke.

Of course, when I'm in a place where we share the same interests, starting a pleasant conversation / flirting would be much easier. I'm sure I'd seduce dozens of feminists if I was free to do so

[Makeo]

what two girls from salt creek?

[Urban Ranger]

I don't - I don't need to

I know how to listen to people, that makes me a good conversationalist.

[Makeo]

so wouldn't that mean that you do it naturally and so therefore do, do it.

[Urban Ranger]

Just about generic conversations though, because honestly I don't know much about flirting. Probably couldn't tell even if it hits me in the head

[MikeH]

I'm great at flirting, crap at asking girls out.

Interests have nothing to do with flirting, flirting is all about sex. Anyway, shared interests aren't necessary for starting conversations, find out what the person is interested in and if you don't know much about it then they can tell you.

Basically what people want is for other people to find them interesting and attractive. If you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and can respond reasonably intelligently and make it obvious that you find them physically attractive then they'll respond well to you.

[Ming]

Flirting is as easy as "working" a business reception.

You approach a group of people you don't know... and listen in for a few minutes while staying a slight distance away. Find out what they are talking about, and at the right time, enter the conversation by saying something like "I heard you talking about ________" and add your opinon on the subject. Works like a charm. If you are trying to get "one special" persons attention... just agree or support their point of view.

[Richelieu]

Originally posted by Ming
Flirting is as easy as "working" a business reception.

You approach a group of people you don't know... and listen in for a few minutes while staying a slight distance away. Find out what they are talking about, and at the right time, enter the conversation by saying something like "I heard you talking about ________" and add your opinon on the subject. Works like a charm. If you are trying to get "one special" persons attention... just agree or support their point of view.

And this is a good example of "working a thread", i agree witth you Ming.

(If Ming was a girl he would now be wondering who that handsome Richelieu guy is...)