disciplining children

[Dis]

What is the appropiate way to discipline a child if you are a parent? a teacher/school official? or just a caretaker?

Is spanking ever allowed? What about other forms of physical punishment?

We may have had a thread dealing with this many moons ago, but not recently.

I am not a parent, and there are those who say you cannot know what it is like unless you are a parent. So perhaps I should not comment on this. I really have no idea how to discipline children.

discuss.

[Cruddy]

Not on this side of the pond, matey = at least for non-parents. You are confusing coporal punishment (beating) with discipline (maintaining order). One is a method to achieve the other, but it's not the only or the best method. Next!

[MRT144]

I wouldnt spank my kids. i was never spanked and even though ive gone through a lot with my parents i dont believe physical punishment would have helped in anything.

[Ted Striker]

I bet you spank that ass though MRT.

[Dis]

this thread doesn't apply to spanking women in bed. I think we can all agree that is a good thing.

[The Mad Monk]

My parents used (or rather, tried) a number of different punishments on me -- spanking, sitting in the corner, going to my room, revocation of an assortment of priviledges, writing "I won't do..." several hundred times, and grounding, among others.

Spanking was the only one that really got and held my attention.

[orange]

I was only hit once as a child, when I was 12, and boy did I deserve it (I got waaaay too smart with my Mom)

My parents disciplined me with loss of things I wanted...TV, Food, Play Time, etc. I don't think it worked so much as it pissed me off...but then again, I don't think spanking would have either. Punishment really just puts it in the person's head for the time being...what you really need to do to 'discipline' your child is make sure that they learned a lesson. If they didn't, it can and will happen again. So what's the point?

[St Leo]

I was spanked and lectured at when I was a kid. I'd rather endure a thousand spankings than one lecture. Take that as you will.

[Dr Strangelove]

I was whipped for having the wrong look on my face or for making too much noise about having a teen-ager eight years my senior sitting on my chest or head.

For real punishment my Dad conceived of a real doozy: he made us tear up a section of the driveway and haul off the asphalt and gravel using nothing more than picks, shovels and wheelbarrows.

I find the threat of corporal punishment to be more effective than actually doing it.

[DanS]

I guess different people have different levers. The most effective punishment for me was shame (private, not public).

[SlowwHand]

A good thump on the noggin to get their attention.

[Sava]

I think manual labor and the threat of smacking is good. But not excessive.

[SlowwHand]

To paraphrase; beat them until they bruise, then beat them for bruising.

[Ming]

I believe in spankings (not beatings)... I've only had to spank my kids a few times... and the threat was good enough the rest of the times.

It does get their attention...

The rest of the time... removal of specific privledges for periods of time... sending them to their room... having them make restitution for something they've done... all usually work as well.

Each situation usually demands a different style of punishment.

[SlowwHand]

Like the rack ?