People who say 'another woman wouldn't hurt' can't be serious. Might keep you on your toes, out of your own mind if you will, feel good, maybe even bring love, but... not hurt?
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Well the alternative is I'm alone for the rest of my life...Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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Yes, that's the alternative. Tried it for 4 years, pretty much just gave up, which ended over 20 years ago. Been married since, working out great. Your results may vary, its all in the person you choose and whether the changes you will both go through can work together well through the decades, perhaps whether you both have the will to adapt. There's the trick, and telling the future of a person, even yourself...
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I'm fine at keeping relationships going. Not so great at starting them.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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I agree that after 30 there are a lot of lonely women out there in that age group that have lowered their standards to the point that any non-kid type male who could love them back could be a winner.
You would be surprised. Especially for someone with your sense of humor.It's almost as if all his overconfident, absolutist assertions were spoonfed to him by a trusted website or subreddit. Sheeple
RIP Tony Bogey & Baron O
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As a refresher...
Girlfriend 1: followed me home and nearly forced herself on me
Girlfriend 2: was delivered to me in a box
Girlfriend 3: was supremely patient and waited around long enough for me to make a move
Since then...
Linguistics TA: struck out
Other writing buddy: struck out
Classmate: Short-lived, disastrous friends with benefits thing
Fellow TA: struck out
OkCupid Girl (new!!!!!!): Went on two dates, mutually ghosted each other
This dating crap is frustrating and not fun and I don't want to do it. I just want to fall into a relationship, but despite me being lucky enough to actually have that happen a couple times, that's not how the real world works.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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By my count that's 3 for 8. Most men would kill for a success ratio like that.
Just get yourself out there. They can't follow you home if they don't know you.It's almost as if all his overconfident, absolutist assertions were spoonfed to him by a trusted website or subreddit. Sheeple
RIP Tony Bogey & Baron O
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Okay, what age are you, Lori? Early thirties?
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Originally posted by Lorizael View PostAs a refresher...
Girlfriend 1: followed me home and nearly forced herself on me
Girlfriend 2: was delivered to me in a box
Girlfriend 3: was supremely patient and waited around long enough for me to make a move
Since then...
Linguistics TA: struck out
Other writing buddy: struck out
Classmate: Short-lived, disastrous friends with benefits thing
Fellow TA: struck out
OkCupid Girl (new!!!!!!): Went on two dates, mutually ghosted each other
This dating crap is frustrating and not fun and I don't want to do it. I just want to fall into a relationship, but despite me being lucky enough to actually have that happen a couple times, that's not how the real world works.Try http://wordforge.net/index.php for discussion and debate.
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It sounds like you're looking in the wrong places. Wife suggests that you become absolutely, positively crystal-clear about the kids thing before even trying for a relationship at your age, no matter what you decide about it. And make that clear from the get-go. She also notes that she is becoming ludicrously over-involved in the love life of a person she doesn't know, because she considers it a public service to marriage/LTR-minded women to put a decent catch in the pool. Other suggestions include looking at older dating sites that are more LTR oriented, whatever that means. And a cautionary note that women looking to settle down for reals tend to be more religious.
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Okay, she says Eharmony was the not-looking-for-hookups dating site ten years ago when she last had any reason to care about dating, or had friends who did. It also skewed religious, because that was and is the primary non-hookup demographic. But you can sort, or something. May want to look into whether it's still that way.
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I did eharmony about ten years so and it was more serious (and more religious) but it would also recommend matches to me in places like Florida and Michigan... When I lived in California which wasn't exactly very useful.
That was a decade ago so maybe it is better now.Try http://wordforge.net/index.php for discussion and debate.
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Originally posted by Elok View PostWife suggests that you become absolutely, positively crystal-clear about the kids thing before even trying for a relationship at your age, no matter what you decide about it. And make that clear from the get-go.
And a cautionary note that women looking to settle down for reals tend to be more religious.
But really, I'm not convinced I'm looking in the wrong places.
Linguistics TA: Yes, ethically problematic, but only a couple years younger than me.
Writing Buddy: My age, didn't want children.
Classmate: Older than me, had a kid but was just looking for sex, kinda.
Fellow TA: Only a couple years younger than me.
OkCupid Girl: My age, didn't want children.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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