Have some money to spend - what shall I get?

[Nikolai]

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship didn't work Imran. Praying you'll find a better mate soon.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Nexus 7 16 GB sounds like an excellent mate .

More seriously, thank you, Nikolai!

[regexcellent]

Find him a nice Wiccan girl. That would be amusing.

There aren't nice Wiccan girls. There are bat**** crazy Wiccan girls, and "**** you dad I'm a pagan" Wiccan girls.

[Guynemer]

Imran: no real advice as to what to do with the money, but you may remember, many many moons ago (8 years, holy ****!), I went through something similar just before I moved to Columbus, re: splitting up just before the wedding. If you want to talk about that at all, just let me know.

Apropos of nothing, I will say that I got crazy laid in the year after that before I met Galnemer...

[Al B. Sure!]

Let's just say we both came to the same conclusion at the same time. Love was there, but there were no movement on her part to move towards my interests. Cause issues in things to discuss (if you can't talk about news or politics or theology or something deeper than other people than I can't really go that far in conversation). Also as Alby said, the age things became an issue. What I and my 30ish friends thought was reasonable, her and her 20ish friends thought was oppressive.

Now I'm understanding this:



But yeah born in 1990... I know quite a few girls her age and I'm always struck by a generation gap even with only 5 years difference, and you're older.

[Kidlicious]

It is when its important to you and your mate couldn't care less . Though that was just one thing - the lack of common interests caused friction. Better to end it now than when already married, no?

Being divorced, I'll say, for myself, that if the only problems were lack of common interest I would like to still be married. But that's just me. But I had worse problems than that.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Imran: no real advice as to what to do with the money, but you may remember, many many moons ago (8 years, holy ****!), I went through something similar just before I moved to Columbus, re: splitting up just before the wedding. If you want to talk about that at all, just let me know.

Interestingly I do remember that. Not sure the exact circumstances of your split up, however, so I wasn't sure if it was mutual or one party or the other decided it to be over. Thanks for your offer. I'm just glad that the biggest expense I had really was the engagement ring - though I do have to see if I can get part of the $500 deposit for the location back (and I'm the co-signer on her apt as I mentioned for 6 more ****ing months, c'est la vie).

Now I'm understanding this:



But yeah born in 1990... I know quite a few girls her age and I'm always struck by a generation gap even with only 5 years difference, and you're older.

Yeah, there were... ahem a handful of pictures I put up that was subtle tweaks (the Disney princess one being the other).

It is amazing the generation gap that exists (though it tends to disappear a lot after the younger person gets around 30), but her sheltered upbringing probably made her mental age closer to 18 than 22 (I am being generous & I'm not being overly mean - others have made this point to me... of course mostly AFTER we broke up).

[Aeson]

I was somewhat shocked when I saw it had happened on your wall, given that you seemed so happy together for quite a while.

I would be wary of buying any durable goods with the money I viewed as "saved" from the breakup. It would have the potential to serve as a reminder every time you used it perhaps. Kinda like if you carried the engagement ring around with you or something like that. (Though maybe this is a good thing. Next time a 20 yo gives you her number you will remember the potential problems there while entering it into your contacts lists?)

Net and I have a ton of differences. The biggest is religion, but for me it's not an issue at all and for her doesn't seem to be a deal breaker. The maturity level definitely is in her favor though in our case...

[Lonestar]

Something to be aware of Imran;

The Verizon GNex does NOT have JB. Verizon holds up deployment of all OSs, even for Nexus devices, so while it's likely to get it before the Galaxy S3, it doens't have it currently.

By the By, I think the voice for Google Now sounds much better than Siri. Less stilted and robot-y.

[KrazyHorse]

Well, not exactly have some money to spend, but money that was allocated for something else just came open. For those who aren't my Facebook friends, me and my fiance mutually broke up a week and half ago (having to do with lack of just about any common interests, and the fact she has a ton of growing up to do [though I'd imagine she'd have a different point of view, but she's just wrong]).

So, because her parents weren't on board (and have no money) and mine weren't on board (because I converted to Christianity), I was going to burden much of the cost on credit cards - including $1,300 for the place, $1000(ish) for the food, and $3,000(ish) for the Honeymoon.

Thankfully that money, which would have to had been paid within 3 months, is freed up, so I had some ideas (blowing the money on myself for a change - another contention on my part - seems like a great way to go).

- An out of contract Samsung Galaxy S III (I have an HTC Thunderbolt which is trying its best not to hold a signal) - $550 to $600
- Nexus 7 tablet (I have a Samsung Galaxy Tab 10.1, but its old in tooth already) - $200
- A new laptop, preferably a Samsung Series 9 (I know its a lot of Samsungs here) - $1400

Though I don't want to spend all of what I'd be blowing on a potential wedding (due to still being a co-signer on her apartment - yeah, I'm screwed on that for 6 months more), some of it being spent on myself would be quite nice I think.

Aren't you a lawyer with 5+ years of experience? Why are you so poor?

[Lonestar]

most lawyers are poor unless they know people.

I mean Christ.


The US has more lawyers per capita than any other country. It's a saturated market.

[KrazyHorse]

Entry level lawyering tends to suck (not for those who are at the top of their class of course) but my impression was that after a few years most lawyers were doing relatively well.

[Lonestar]

"Relatively well" might mean making $50k in rural Georgia.

[KrazyHorse]

I would not consider that to be relatively well. As an fyi, everybody I know with a Jd is making 160+ (living in nyc). That is relatively well, though not spectacular.

[Lonestar]

Imran doesn't live in NYC.