The case for polygamy

[notyoueither]

Were the links to escort sites enough, or did it post a tubgirl?

[notyoueither]

Answer the other question. It is more interesting.

[Jon Miller]

I don't know what he linked to.

I guess I assumed it was very bad links, and so I removed all posts.

JM

[Aeson]

I thought it was to Ford cars... which is why I didn't click. *shudders*

[Al B. Sure!]

Irrelevant to my statement. If Josiah is shacked up on the compound with Mary, Marie and their 3 sisters what difference does it make if they have a legal marriage licence or not? (Hint: the only good answer to that is that in the second case Mary, Marie, and their 3 sisters still qualify for welfare.)

I'm not following how this is a response to what I said. I'm making the point that, for the parties involved, polygamy is probably a better option than clandestine adultery since polygamy is agreed to by all parties involved (unfortunately, that does not preclude the possibility of coercion). I'm no fan of polygamy but if we were to be consistent, polygamy would be permitted and adultery would be a criminal offense.

[Pax]

In an adulterous relationship their is the potential for a child to be born that one parent will have trouble claiming and bring a lot of stress into the primary relationship. In a polygamous relationship the birth would be an accepted and expected outcome.
Even though there are polygamy groups that practice forced marriage of children, and etc.. This is not the core of polygamy it would simply be that that group also practices forced marriage of children in addition polygamy. Some of the arguments presented made the jump that polygamy automatically leads to 20 kids. Well, that's like saying the octomom or jon and kate plus eight are the expected outcomes of the accepted parental systems we use today. Also, I there have been many points in my life where I have had romantic feelings for more than one woman. The only times it would be difficult is if they both wanted sex at the same time but not together. Otherwise a family with three adults would generally share the same goals and would possibly be in a better position to accomplish them. For example, food costs. For most food products the more you buy, the less it costs per person. Also, a certain amount of foods that are usually wasted would be less likely too.

[MikeH]

As long as it's not exploitative and all parties are consenting (which goes for all forms of marriage) I have no problem with polygamy.

[Aeson]

I'm not following how this is a response to what I said. I'm making the point that, for the parties involved, polygamy is probably a better option than clandestine adultery since polygamy is agreed to by all parties involved (unfortunately, that does not preclude the possibility of coercion). I'm no fan of polygamy but if we were to be consistent, polygamy would be permitted and adultery would be a criminal offense.

Because you're ignoring the fact that the polygamous "marriages" (that aren't legally marriages) already occur... the adultery already occurs too. Allowing polygamous marriages isn't going to change either of those things.

[Jon Miller]

The issue is 'what do we as a society want to support'.

JM

[MikeH]

I think the issue should be "society should only not support a lifestyle choice if there's a really good reason not to"

[Jon Miller]

And there is.

The damage is huge.

The damage from adultery is also huge, but it is easy for society to not support polygamy, which isn't true of many other extremely harmful choices.

People don't have the right for society to support their choices.

JM

[MikeH]

What damage? If we stipulate my consensual, non-exploitative arguments I'm not sure what there is... and the "not natural" argument is just the same as the argument against gay marriage, not really an argument at all.

[MikeH]

I have never studied it, just wondering whether the 'damage' is based on certain polygamous cultures rather than polygamy as a whole.

[Jon Miller]

I use to be a fan of group marriages. During my rebellious phase (16-18). Then I studied different groups that had people practice them of various sorts. I saw the results, and it doesn't take much reading to see the results of polygamous non-marriages now...

It isn't just a cultural thing.

JM

[Ming]

MikeH speaks the truth...

I don't really see the problem when CONSENTING ADULTS are involved. Who are we to cram our views of what an acceptable marriage is on others... or to tell somebody who they can or can not love and marry. Some argue "tradition"... and I say BS to that. Tradition is just a way of justifying outdated crap... I notice the bible thumpers aren't saying it's tradition to kill adulterers so it's ok.

As long as there is consent between adults... I have no problem with multiple wives, multiple husbands, same sex... WHO CARES. It doesn't change the relationship I have with my wife.
I'm not going to cram some silly outdated beliefs down other people's throats. I'll let them decide what they believe in... Just like I decide what I believe in when it comes to love and relationships.