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  • How about I move into a monastery?

    So I've been unemployed since the end of June, and I'm trying to find a place to live, even though I have no income right now. And once I've applied for my unemployment benefits, I know that won't be enough. I just can't take the risk of signing into a lease with an apartment on the chance that I'd find my next job within a month or two.

    The options I've thought of are these:

    1. moving into my mother's in a rural town of 300 close-minded and narrow minded people, and living 90 minutes away from most of my good, long-time friends

    2. moving into a monastery, preferably the less traditional kind of monastic community where celibacy is not required for lay residency

    3. moving into a homeless shelter (this is just a crazy idea that came to mind)

    There is no friend of mine that is able to, or would be willing to take me in temporarily (as far as I know anyway).

    For some crazy reason, I'm thinking of considering moving into a monastic community before I would think of moving in with my mother. My immediate family is fully accepting of me as a gay man, but my concern is how safe I will be in the town's environment outside my home. And of course, my social life will be much more limited; I'd have to do quite a bit of traveling to spend time with my friends.

    One of my sisters, when she found out about my most recent thoughts of suicide, recently mailed me a check of six thousand dollars. I put 95 percent of it into my savings, and the rest into my checking account. I plan to use it wisely, and only transfer money out, as I need it.

    I think I will have to scratch my plans to pursue a Library Science degree. I found out I'm not getting the library assistantship, which would have waived most of my tuition. I don't like the idea of almost doubling my current student loan debt, by taking more student loans out to cover the remaining year and half I have left in the program.

    If any of you have personal experience or insight in living in a less traditional monastic community, I'd be interested in hearing what you have to say.

    I also need to find some community service (wherever I move to) where I can have access to continued counseling after July, and to see a psychiatrist as I have no insurance now. It's important that I continue my counseling, and keep getting refills for my two prescriptions.
    A lot of Republicans are not racist, but a lot of racists are Republican.

  • #2
    A monastery? I didn't even know that was a realistic option.

    You've got a BA & MA (Right?), you should be able to find something...anything...that bridge the gap between jobs. Starbucks? Tutoring? (Even Ben finds people to pay him to do this?)

    If you move to your mother's it'll make finding a job more difficult.
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    • #3
      "Unemployed since the end of June"? This is enough to throw you into a well of despair?
      Yes, move into a monastery. Steady employment. Meals. A cot. Hell, it's the military without anyone shooting at you.
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      • #4
        SlowwHand, I can't pay for an apartment after the end of July (my lease though, is on month-by-month basis so I can move out).

        So yes, there is a sense of urgency in my situation right now.
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        • #5
          Originally posted by Asher View Post
          A monastery? I didn't even know that was a realistic option.

          You've got a BA & MA (Right?), you should be able to find something...anything...that bridge the gap between jobs. Starbucks? Tutoring? (Even Ben finds people to pay him to do this?)

          If you move to your mother's it'll make finding a job more difficult.
          A minimum wage job will not be enough for me to live independently. I need time to find a job/career where I will make at least $30,000 a year and hopefully in something that I'm truly interested in doing.
          A lot of Republicans are not racist, but a lot of racists are Republican.

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          • #6
            You're going to have to move home.
            Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.
            "Hating America is something best left to Mobius. He is an expert Yank hater.
            He also hates Texans and Australians, he does diversify." ~ Braindead

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            • #7
              dp
              Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away.
              "Hating America is something best left to Mobius. He is an expert Yank hater.
              He also hates Texans and Australians, he does diversify." ~ Braindead

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              • #8
                A minimum wage job will not be enough for me to live independently. I need time to find a job/career where I will make at least $30,000 a year and hopefully in something that I'm truly interested in doing.
                So get two jobs. Yeah, they'll suck - retail and food industry, right? Neither one will probably be full time, at first, either, but that's something to work towards. Lot's of people our age do it. If money's still a problem, get a roommate. Look online - in order to save money a couple of years back I rented a room from someone I found on Craig's List for less than half what my current apartment costs.

                Trust me, it can be done, you just have to be willing to do it.

                Or, you could take a giant step backwards and move home, or even worse, a monastery.
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                • #9
                  I forgot to mention something else. During my last appointment with my counselor, he said that as a very last resort, he could get me hospitalized for mental health reasons if I choose go that route. I'm not going to consider that though.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by David Floyd View Post
                    So get two jobs. Yeah, they'll suck - retail and food industry, right? Neither one will probably be full time, at first, either, but that's something to work towards. Lot's of people our age do it. If money's still a problem, get a roommate. Look online - in order to save money a couple of years back I rented a room from someone I found on Craig's List for less than half what my current apartment costs.

                    Trust me, it can be done, you just have to be willing to do it.

                    Or, you could take a giant step backwards and move home, or even worse, a monastery.
                    Roommates are bad for you, okay?
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by MrFun View Post
                      I forgot to mention something else. During my last appointment with my counselor, he said that as a very last resort, he could get me hospitalized for mental health reasons if I choose go that route. I'm not going to consider that though.
                      Wouldn't this be expensive?
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                      • #12
                        Roommates are bad for you, okay?
                        Umm, why?
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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Asher View Post
                          Wouldn't this be expensive?
                          One of the reasons why I would not consider that option.
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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by David Floyd View Post
                            Umm, why?
                            I'm not going to get into reasons why I don't want to share a small living space with a complete stranger.

                            Let's just say I'd rather move in with my mother or move into a less traditional monastic community than live with a roommate.
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                            • #15
                              OK.

                              My initial point remains, though - if one job won't cut it financially, then get two.
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