Cute Girl at Supermarket

[Flubber]

I sometimes wonder if I am the odd one.

JM

Not on this-- I don't think it is unusual at all for a person to make a personal decision to only have sexual relations with someone with whom they feel a certain bond (and the level of bond or intimacy required is a personal decision). I don't see that as odd at all. But many other people will have lower to no standards.

[Flubber]

QFT



That and of all places asking poly for help with girls

While I am sure there are better places, poly is suited in that there are a number of people on here that were Civ or Alpha Centaui geeks and who have managed to find solid long lasting relationships etc etc.

IN my dateless times in my teens I was never successful as I NEVER TRIED. I was literally 0 for 0. I found though that if you have normal conversations and ask girls out, most are willing to give you a chance

IN other places you can find methods or lines or whatnot but much of it, I wager, would be around exhibiting confidence, whether or not you feel it. I just got to a mindset where I didn't really care that much if given girl A said yes or no. So because I didn't seem desperate and approached women as an equal to whom I was proposing something fun to do (instead of a supplicant praying she will grace me with a yes) most said yes.

I haven't dated in 14 years but I bet that a straightforward and honest approach still works .

[-Jrabbit]

Wow. Cool. Bonne chance, mon ami.

[b etor]

say something simple and straight to the point. don't make it possible to be confused with friendship, but don't make it cheesey either.
"hey, what are you doing after work? I'd like to take you out if you're not busy." add a wink and smile if it won't make your face look awkward.

advice from a girl.

[Zoetstofzoetje]

so did you snog her yet?

[Al B. Sure!]

say something simple and straight to the point. don't make it possible to be confused with friendship, but don't make it cheesey either.
"hey, what are you doing after work? I'd like to take you out if you're not busy." add a wink and smile if it won't make your face look awkward.

advice from a girl.

And then 2 days later when you call to set it up, she's all like, "I can't this weekend... I have plans". Then next weekend, the same deal. Then the next, she's no longer answering your calls, has unfriended you from facebook, and wants nothing to do with you.

Of course, when you run into her randomly weeks later, she's giggly and keeps staring at you.

Women

[Hauldren Collider]

[Al B. Sure!]

What gets me is when the women initiate it and then run away a week later. Makes no sense.

Why they go along with it, giving the number and everything, then running away also makes no sense.

Why they send you pictures of them in lingerie and then run away makes negative sense it makes so much non-sense!


Now that I've slimmed down to 175lbs to improve my run times, I no longer attract women, though. It's fascinating how 190lbs at 6'1" is the magic threshold above which women stare at you, etc. Otherwise, you're too skinny to attract attention.

So I'm in 'do me-mode' now by necessity since I'm scrawny. I don't like it, though. While it never made a difference in getting a relationship, there's a certain cool feeling about walking into a room and noticing all the women looking. You don't get that at my current size.

[C0ckney]

yet there's plenty of skiny guys out there getting laid...maybe it's something else you're missing...

[Cort Haus]

It's almost as if we need a how-can-we-get-Al-laid thread or something.

Oh.

[C0ckney]

well we haven't had one, or at least a thread with him bleating about his lack of success with women for at least, what, a week now.

[Dinner]

And then 2 days later when you call to set it up, she's all like, "I can't this weekend... I have plans". Then next weekend, the same deal. Then the next, she's no longer answering your calls, has unfriended you from facebook, and wants nothing to do with you.

Of course, when you run into her randomly weeks later, she's giggly and keeps staring at you.

Women

She's giggling because she's laughing at you, Al. You did something so weird or stupid she decided to kick you to the curb.

[Zevico]

And then 2 days later when you call to set it up, she's all like, "I can't this weekend... I have plans". Then next weekend, the same deal. Then the next, she's no longer answering your calls, has unfriended you from facebook, and wants nothing to do with you.

Of course, when you run into her randomly weeks later, she's giggly and keeps staring at you.

Women

Someone needs to dig up that FEMALES! photo again.

[MikeH]

You did something so weird or stupid she decided to kick you to the curb.

This.

[Pekka]

Well, in my opinion the best thing to do is to look into her eyes comfortably and smile with confidence (not arrogance, just be yourself) and introduce yourself. Say something nice about her. You like something about her, right? So unless it's just sex you're after, say what you're thinking. Filter it a little though.

Just be open and honest, look her in the eyes and smile, let your face do the talking. Girls like that. You know why? Because they've heard all kinds of crap pick up lines for their whole lives, and seen some creepy weirdos staring at them. Or some testosterone filled teenagers coming up with the biggest pile of BS ever. And lots of drunken pick up attempts.

Just like in most areas of life, look it in the eyes, smile, and be open and honest. It's nice, because it's something fresh and new. If it works, it'll really work. If not, then hey, at least you went for it and that's all YOU can do. You can only blame yourself for the things you didn't try, not so much the outcome, if you give it your best. You know what makes a person really thrive? When they get out of their comfort zone. Usually people just stay within that comfort zone, they might flirt a bit with the idea of pushing the limits but it rarely happens.