Floyd's D&D thread got me thinking...

[Dinner]

How many of you guys or gals changed your teenage habits in the hopes of attracting the opposite sex (or if a flamer like Asher the same sex)? I know I did. For all my friends and I getting laid or having a relationship became an all encompassing obsession. I actually liked D&D but the peer pressure was too much for a 15-16 year old plus I had just gotten my first car so a whole new world of social opportunities opened up which was strongly appealing in its own right. It was largely seen among my peers as a transition from childishness to semi-adulthood and it was fun though part of me misses the Saturdays spent slaying dragons and thinking up my ultimate castle.

[Asher]

I'm not sure you know what a flamer is.

[David Floyd]

Actually, that's true. I went through my life up through 21 not getting laid or meeting girls at all. Much of that had to do with my lifestyle of doing nothing other than playing computer games and reading. It was fun, and I still do both

However, I also made some friends in Austin who helped teach me how to meet and sleep with women, so I definitely made some changes

Basically, I went from "dork douchebag" to "out for sex douchebag"

[rah]

I was geeky in High School so when I went away to College I figured it was a clean start and was more discreet about my geekiness. As David mentioned in the other thread, women are into men and geekiness isn't a deal breaker once they get to know you. So I learned not to be so geeking when meeting women and didn't really worry about it afterwards.

[loinburger]

The chick who was the manager for the track team was pretty hot, so one day I stuffed my sweatshirt down the front of my sweatpants, went up to her, shook my hips, and chanted "light my fire, light my fire." It worked like a charm, but alas the relationship only lasted til the end of track season. So my answer to the OP's question is "maybe?"

[Lorizael]

If I look back at my teenage years, the period of time in which I was playing the most D&D (15-17), I was also having the most sex. Hm.

[David Floyd]

I was geeky in High School so when I went away to College I figured it was a clean start and was more discreet about my geekiness. As David mentioned in the other thread, women are into men and geekiness isn't a deal breaker once they get to know you. So I learned not to be so geeking when meeting women and didn't really worry about it afterwards.

Wow. An acknowledged adult who is actually backing me up on something women related

[Fve Crathva]

"It's not gay if it's an elf."

SP

[Asher]

I've not changed. I don't know what you mean by geeky.

I've never been a nasal-voiced, glasses-wearing D&D type. I've always been very interested in and good with computers and into video gaming. I've always been a huge computer geek but that's never been apparent to people I was meeting, and it certainly never stopped me from meeting people and hooking up. In fact, I met my SO online originally and he's always known about my geekiness and it doesn't bother him because he's geeky too, in different ways.

In a lot of ways, geeky just means intelligent and passionate about certain things.

[David Floyd]

Asher, that's sort of my point. Geekiness isn't the problem, it's your expectations that hold you back. If you expect NOT to meet people, NOT to hook up, then you won't. Reality will typically mirror your expectations.

[rah]

Yeah, the only really negative aspect of geekiness is lack of confidence. If you're confident and act like it, you're not the stereotypical geek. And that's what the women notice.

[MOBIUS]

Asher, that's sort of my point. Geekiness isn't the problem, it's your expectations that hold you back. If you expect NOT to meet people, NOT to hook up, then you won't. Reality will typically mirror your expectations.

Duh, talk about self-fulfilling prophecy...

What rah said, basically. Though it helps to hide any 'hobbies' like D&D etc.

Poor Ms MOBIUS, now she's stuck with me, I can geek out to my heart's content!

[rah]

DUH, is right but think about all the people that NEVER figure it out.

[David Floyd]

Right. It seems obvious, but many people are stuck in the mindset of "she would never like me so why bother?". It's sort of like the old adage of "Any club that I won't to join won't accept me, and any club that would accept me I don't want to join". It's just basic self confidence.

[Asher]

Yeah, the only really negative aspect of geekiness is lack of confidence. If you're confident and act like it, you're not the stereotypical geek. And that's what the women notice.

Confidence is no issue for me.