Trolling Ben

[TCO]

I've never trolled Ben.

[Naked Gents Rut]

In what way is it so different that it requires a different word?

Seriously, it kind of is. If you tell me you're "married" right now and you're a man, I know that you have a wife. In a few years, I'm going to have to ask you if you're married first and then whether you have a wife or a husband. Not a huge deal, but it's kind of annoying (and potentially awkward) and could be avoided if gay marriage was differentiated from traditional marriage by using different terminology. Maybe gay couples should say they're "gay married"?

Perhaps we should have a different word for a man having a male "boyfriend" than we do for a woman having a male boyfriend.

Why? It's clear from context whether they're gay or not. "Partner" and "significant other" are more confusing, although they seem to be used more by gay couples than straight ones.

[KrazyHorse]

Seriously, it kind of is. If you tell me you're "married" right now and you're a man, I know that you have a wife. In a few years, I'm going to have to ask you if you're married first and then whether you have a wife or a husband.

How is that different from asking if somebody's single (or "in a relationship") and then having to determine orientation?

If they want you to know they're gay they'll say something about their husband (if a dude). Just like somebody would say something about his boyfriend for the relationship question.

[Naked Gents Rut]

How is that different from asking if somebody's single (or "in a relationship") and then having to determine orientation?

I find single people are much more likely to respond with a clear "I have a boyfriend/girlfriend" answer to a question about whether they're single than married people are to respond with "I have a husband/wife" to a question about whether they're married. Maybe that will change in the future; people don't specify husband/wife now because there's no need for it.

[SlowwHand]

NGR, that sig is funny.

[TCO]

Break...break all the social conventions. Break marriage. Who cares about it. HAve kids. Don't pay child support. Rape.

We are all just atoms anyhow.

[Nugog]

It is used all the time in corporate situations. It is a politically correct word to refer to anyone's spouse, regardless of gender.

Again - maybe in your part of the world - but not in others.

The term used for the above situation here is Partner, not significant other - as SO is percieved as refering to a male homosexual partner.

Partner (here at least) is the PC term.

[TCO]

Asher: why don't you just convert to hetero.

[Imran Siddiqui]

It isn't an equal rights thing. There is no right to be married/etc in the constitution.

According to Loving v. Virginia, it is.

And all of the state challenges are, IIRC, based on State Constitutions and their guarantees of equal rights.

[KrazyHorse]

Break...break all the social conventions. Break marriage. Who cares about it. HAve kids. Don't pay child support. Rape.

We are all just atoms anyhow.

[KrazyHorse]

Break...break all the social conventions. Break marriage. Who cares about it. HAve kids. Don't pay child support. Rape.

We are all just atoms anyhow.

Coming from the 40(?) year-old single ogling the U Richmond coeds....

[TCO]

Since when have babe threads been allowed on Poly?

[TCO]

Vcu, vcu...

[TCO]

How can you up thumb and then head shake?

[TCO]

Wuantum duality?