I have trouble reaching an orgasm

[Dis]

Have you thought of giving up sex? It sounds as if your body appears to be bored of it.

I realize that in our society the expectation is that everyone is supposed to be gasping for it all the time, but we all know that isn't true.

Take up a new hobby. Some people like building miniature railways, but whatever floats your boat.

give up sex

I don't even get any, and no way would I give it up.

[Dis]

I have trouble reaching orgasm with a woman too. But that's because the woman usually gets herself untied and escapes to the nearest police station before I can get off.

. I know, I shouldn't quit my day job (night job now )

[Agathon]

give up sex

I don't even get any, and no way would I give it up.

Maybe you should listen to what your body is telling you. Unless there is some medical condition preventing you from getting off, the problem is probably that the man upstairs isn't listening to the man downstairs.

You really don't want to end up as one of those sad people who needs to dress up or be flogged to get off, do you?

[David Floyd]

While Aggie's solution may be extreme, is diagnosis is probably pretty spot on - it's a mental issue, not a physical one. Figure out what's going on mentally/psychologically, correct it, and I bet the physical problem goes away.

[Dis]

and no one as stated the obvious yet? he's gay.

only kidding of course, but there always is that slight possibility. but then again even gay men have kids (which boggles my mind). somehow they are able to ejaculate. Which leads me to question how they are really gay. but I digress.

[David Floyd]

You think that the ejaculatory process for gay men is somehow different than that for straight men?

[Dis]

not sure, as I'm not gay. But at least in my case, I have to be mentally "into it" as well as physically "into it" in order to ejaculate. physical stimulation alone is not enough. Although... I've never actually put this to the test. I've never been in a gay relationship or been raped by a woman, so I'm not sure if I could come. I'm just going by masturabatory (sp) habits.

[Lorizael]

Actually having to be "mentally into it" is more a female thing than a male thing. Maybe you're gay, Dis.

[Dis]

just means I'm a lesbian woman trapped in a man's body

[Q Classic]

I didn't know you were a fan of Ani DiFranco, k.d. lang, Tegan and Sara, and Melissa Etheridge too!

But this worries me, Dis. Do you already have the U-Haul rented for move-in right after you hook up with the next girl?

[Alinestra Covelia]

I have to be mentally "into it" as well as physically "into it" in order to ejaculate. physical stimulation alone is not enough.

^ This was exactly the case with the boyfriend I mentioned. He had to get in the mood too. For him, it was best when there was a lot of foreplay involved and when I was really into it and noisy.

Sometimes he could respond very quickly though if I took the sexual initiative and made the first moves. He said that just knowing I was really enthusiastic was enough for him.

Maybe your lady can be persuaded to just act on impulse and ravish you?

[Blaupanzer]

Hera, if you are past 35, another dim possibility is problems with your prostate. Also, if you are taking meds for the head or for diabetes, these can affect this function. The antidepressants and stuff can affect hardness and/or ejaculation. Diabetes itself affects all those little vessles in your penis, so its major affect is bye bye hardons. Otherwise it is "thinking too much," something you often exhibit on this site; OR too much masterbation. In cruel fact, all this will arise more and more as you grow older. Good enough reason right there to not want to live forever. "This is as good as it gets? Augh!"

[Kidlicious]

There's always Viagra when the time comes.

[Whaleboy]

[Elok]

arise

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