I have trouble reaching an orgasm

[David Floyd]

Yes. I've occasionally had this issue myself to some extent.

If there's a condom involved, getting off can be difficult for me. However, even without one, I've occasionally had trouble. For context, if I'm regularly ****ing someone, I don't really jerk off. If I'm not regularly ****ing someone, I do more often.

In any case, I've found that different things help with different people. Sometimes, a different position is key. Try ****ing her "doggie style", for example. Or, let her get on top. The point is, change it around.

Sometimes, I've found that turning the lights on helps - for some reason, sometimes making eye contact during sex really turns me on. Sometimes, it's a matter of both of us talking dirty to each other.

The point is, though, there's no definitive answer, and your problem isn't that uncommon. I think you'll find that the answer will vary from woman to woman, although I would strongly encourage you to try changing positions a couple of times and see if that helps. In my experience, it makes a difference.

[Theben]

But latley (and today was no exception) she stuck around an extra 20 min just to try and "help me out" and it was easy to tell she was not really enjoying it much. I HATE THAT. There is no worse feeling than seeing someone do what they clearly aren't enjoying.

qft. Does she try to get you aroused beforehand (no pun intended)?

[Jon Miller]

A few years ago I could easily masturbate several times a day. Currently, I just am not interested to and I am pretty sure that if I were to do so that the second time would take me much longer to ejaculate.

If you are masturbating every day, try cutting back on that first, before you do anything more important.

Maybe if it is something you can't do every other day or something, go see a doctor.

JM

[ColdPhoenix]

Same thing used to happen me. Could be that you're thinking too much and trying too hard to be good for her. This might sound selfish but next time, don't worry too much about her pleasure and just go for it yourself. And think about the enjoyment of sex and sensations you're feeling rather than hoping you're not going to not be able to *** again.

Also, cut back on the w@nking.

[Kuciwalker]

I'm dumbfounded that no one has posted 'that's what she said' yet.

[ricketyclik]

Try trying not to come. A technique actors use to cry is to try not to. The human psyche is perverse that way.

[ColdPhoenix]

Try trying not to come. A technique actors use to cry is to try not to. The human psyche is perverse that way.

I was almost going to suggest that but didn't for two reasons. First because I'd though it was maybe just my perverse mind that worked that way.... Second because I think it's too cerebral and the answer is just pure animal sex at the basic level. Not worrying too much about the partner but just giving her a good f'cking.

[Alinestra Covelia]

Wiglaf wants you to donate your balls to science because his are already useless and he did that last year.

Wiglaf did that after starting his thread about his balls becoming useless after 30.

[Gibsie]

Two suggestions:
1) Imagine your dad. Then it stops being a problem of "I can't come damn it!" and becomes "Damnit, don't come, that'd be sick!" *splort*
2) Get her to massage your prostrate. You know what I mean.

NB I have never tried these, but, in case of a rainy day...

[Imran Siddiqui]

WTF I try really hard to make her feel good and then I get blamed because *I* don't get off.

Try to think a woman said that about pleasing a man (replacing the "her" with a "him", of course) and then realize it isn't a ridiculous position to take.

[Alinestra Covelia]

Have you tried using a stepladder?

(Sorry, bad joke.)

[Barnabas]

I didnt read the whole thread, this would be the opposite of premature ejaculation, right?

Do you have a problem remaining hard?


edit:

Delayed ejaculation is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man achieves orgasm within 2-4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or has orgasms after prolonged intercourse which might last 30-45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_ejaculation

[DaShi]

Bloody hell. No one's stated the obvious yet!

[duke o' york]

AC did, and no, he hasn't tried a stepladder yet.

[DaShi]

Ah, well. AC has me on ignore.