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  • #1

    I have trouble reaching an orgasm

    Does anyone have any advice? Could it be due to a medical condition?


    I have little trouble reaching one when alone (need about 20 min). When I'm in company it can take hours.

    Example of why this is a big problem for me:

    I spent three hours having sex with my GF. Out of that little H was directly involved for two. My gf has no trouble reaching an orgasm. And I really enjoyed most of the encounter precisley because I have feelings for her. But latley (and today was no exception) she stuck around an extra 20 min just to try and "help me out" and it was easy to tell she was not really enjoying it much. I HATE THAT. There is no worse feeling than seeing someone do what they clearly aren't enjoying. When I try to explain that its no big deal and that I can take care of it myself, that all I really want to do is spend time with her, she flat out refuses to listen. She's obsessing with it and its really starting to be annoying.



    PS I hope this dosen't violate forum rules.
    PPS I'm cut if that's relavant.
    PPPS Could I fake it? I mean with no condom and inside her... I just make a silly face and sound and then lie belly down next her so she dosen't notice the standing banana.
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    You need to give more information to diagnose medically. For example, do you have trouble sustaining your erection? Does your penis become flaccid and then rise up again? Do you feel as if you are close to ejaculation but simply cannot quite get there?

    As far as non-physical things, thinking about it too much will likely make it worse. Additionally, if you masturbate a lot and do it the same way every time then it's not unusual to have trouble achieving orgasm while performing other sex acts. You can try to vary your masturbation habits (or eliminate them completely) or have your partner attempt to mimic what you do to achieve orgasm.
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    • #3
      Try not masterbating?

      But yeah, I think, emotionally, sex should be to bond with your partner rather than your own orgasm (although you should orgasm sometimes or something is wrong).

      JM
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      • #4
        Chemically, orgasm helps with bonding. Addiction.
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        • #5
          [QUOTE=Lorizael;5533688] For example, do you have trouble sustaining your erection? [QUOTE]

          I did when I first started having sex, but that was long ago.


          [QUOTE=Lorizael;5533688] Do you feel as if you are close to ejaculation but simply cannot quite get there?
          [QUOTE]

          Yes.
          Modern man calls walking more quickly in the same direction down the same road “change.”
          The world, in the last three hundred years, has not changed except in that sense.
          The simple suggestion of a true change scandalizes and terrifies modern man. -Nicolás Gómez Dávila

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Lorizael View Post
            As far as non-physical things, thinking about it too much will likely make it worse. Additionally, if you masturbate a lot and do it the same way every time than it's not unusual to have trouble achieving orgasm while performing other sex acts. You can try to vary your masturbation habits (or eliminate them completely) or have your partner attempt to mimic what you do to achieve orgasm.
            Sounds like good advice. I've tought of this and have been trying this for the past two weeks. Got some results (came once last week) and hope it will continue improving. Its really hard not mastrubating once a day though. I started this thread because today was really discouraging for me.
            Modern man calls walking more quickly in the same direction down the same road “change.”
            The world, in the last three hundred years, has not changed except in that sense.
            The simple suggestion of a true change scandalizes and terrifies modern man. -Nicolás Gómez Dávila

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Jon Miller View Post
              Try not masterbating?

              But yeah, I think, emotionally, sex should be to bond with your partner rather than your own orgasm (although you should orgasm sometimes or something is wrong).

              JM

              Yes I agree. But the problem is my GF, she's started obsessing with it. I've told her its not her fault but that didn't help, I think she is starting to resent me for it. WTF I try really hard to make her feel good and then I get blamed because *I* don't get off.
              Modern man calls walking more quickly in the same direction down the same road “change.”
              The world, in the last three hundred years, has not changed except in that sense.
              The simple suggestion of a true change scandalizes and terrifies modern man. -Nicolás Gómez Dávila

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Lorizael View Post
                Chemically, orgasm helps with bonding. Addiction.
                I agree.

                It is the primary (non-religious) reason I am in favor of exclusivity.

                JM
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                • #9
                  It's the masturbation. You are accustomed to the feeling and the rhythm of your hand. Try doing it slow and with your other hand.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Heraclitus View Post
                    I have trouble reaching an orgasm
                    Perhaps your name holds a key to the solution.

                    edit: oh nevermind, you're the dude
                    Unbelievable!

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                    • #11
                      Donate your balls to science

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                      • #12
                        Wiglaf is faking all his orgasms
                        Blah

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                        • #13
                          And donated his balls to science

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                          • #14
                            i lol'd
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                            • #15
                              Does your gf look like this

                              or rather like this?
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