General purpose advice thread for all matters female.

[Lorizael]

We need one.

So I asked a girl out to see a play last week and strangely enough she showed up and everything. We had a good time but we didn't do anything other than see the play. Afterward we drove back to my house, stood outside for a few minutes talking - during this time I may have missed some nonverbal cues for physical contact - and then she drove home.

Last night I called her up to see if she wanted to get some dinner but she didn't answer her phone. She called back about an hour later - she'd just gotten out of class. She didn't want to get dinner, though, because she was tired, had school-related things to do when she got home, and it's a bit of a drive between my house and hers.

Nevertheless we talked for a few minutes about unrelated matters and she giggled nervously the entire time. Now wtf is up with that? How am I supposed to interpret that? Am I supposed to interpret that? Is it nothing at all and I'm thinking way too much? Should I stop asking for dating advice on a forum full of nerds? Should I not insult the social intelligence of the people from whom I'm seeking advice?

[CrONoS]

The best for you would be to don't give a **** about that... you think too much about that.

Good luck

Edit: Not enough info to interpret anything

[Sirotnikov]

don't interpret that
tell her you would like to see her again and suggest a date further down the week. if she can't give her one opporunity to suggest a date, and if she doesn't know then say "that's cool, we'll keep in touch" and keep on with your life.

[rah]

HAHAHA, yeah, don't bother overthinking this one.

But if we're just going to outright speculate......
The nervous giggle is one of two things.
It's a tell that she's interested in you or
It's a tell that she's bat**** crazy.
Nothing says it can't be both.

Further observation will be required.

[Lorizael]

I have no problem with bat**** crazy.

[Lorizael]

Also, we see each other every week on Saturday for a writing group (where we met), so there's no need to make sure we "keep in touch." I'm just trying to interact with her outside of the group.

[Fake Boris]

Why didn't you invite her for a drink after the play?

[rah]

Screw that, invite her over for hot sex. You always know where you stand with a girl after asking that question.

[Jon Miller]

I would wait a couple days, than email her or call her. I actually think you should just do want you want to, and if she responds positively, good.

JM

[Lorizael]

Why didn't you invite her for a drink after the play?

Who cares? I can't do anything about that now. I want advice on what to do next. If I were one to dwell on what I have and have not done, I'd constantly ***** about how my ****ing former bestfriend stopped me from living my life for six ****ing years and I'm only now recovering and moving on.

[-Jrabbit]

Yes, you're overthinking.
Yes, Poly is full of nerds.

But you're one of them.

[Lorizael]

I like how your first and second sentences are exactly the same length.

[Kuciwalker]

IM is an easy way of talking to her outside of the group without setting up a date and such. (Using the phone for a casual conversation is weird and awkward IMO. That's probably a generational thing.) Ask her to dinner again.

[Jon Miller]

I also find the phone to be weird for casual conversation (unless I am already very close, and then I very much prefer other means). If younger people are getting away from it, that is great.

JM

[Patroklos]

I think you probably gave off "friend" vibes with that sitting in front of your house talking without contact or an invite for a drink or coffee.

Not unrecoverable.

Just ask her out again. I wouldn't take her not going to dinner with you the first time as a slight. I don't know about you, but many times I really am just busy and I bet she is too. Just like callbacks, if I don't get a positive response after three invites for a date over a couple weeks I just write them off. If someone can't find time over two weeks for a date then they obviously aren't interested.

BTW, you can always ask her when she is available for a movie or dinner as opposed to picking a specific day, that response is always more illuminationg.