General purpose advice thread for all matters female.

[C0ckney]

So. Will I bang this chick? Or is she just leading me along for the attention?

based on what you've said, i don't fancy your chances much. however, no one here knows this girl (or you, really, for that matter) or how you are with each other, so it's hard to say what will happen.

you should see how it goes with this girl, but don't pin all your hopes on it.

[Lorizael]

...do what comes naturally.

I'm not sure people understand how bad a piece of advice this is.

[Patroklos]

It just mean don't try so hard. If you go out every night with the intent of finding a chick to date instead of just to have fun you are never going to find a quality woman. Chances are you won't find anything, or if you do it will be a psycho.

In your case you already had your chance to be assertive and you let it pass. The way you brought up the topic last time put all the power squarely in her hands.

[Lorizael]

As I said, I'm not sure people understand how bad a piece of advice that is. Part of what makes it such a bad piece of advice is the implicit assumption that what I'm doing right now is not what comes naturally, which contains a further assumption that you guys do know what I'm doing right now.

I'm not going to argue specific points because it'll just sound like I don't want to admit that I'm not going to **** this chick, but I hate hearing that I should "act natural" or "just have fun." I'm an asocial ******; what comes naturally to me is wrong.

[Alinestra Covelia]

You can play X-Wing Alliance with me any day.

Okay, Snoopy. I've got it installed and I have a working flight yoke. Drop me a line at amazonian_mage@yahoo.com and we'll go forth and light the stars up!

[Lorizael]

Well, at least one person's girl problems have been solved.

[Alinestra Covelia]

Well, at least one girl's person problems have been solved.

Fixed

[Jon Miller]

I'm not sure people understand how bad a piece of advice this is.

True that, I never have had a girlfriend and I always am myself.

JM

[Lorizael]

WILL I BANG THIS CHICK? ROUND TWO.

So I've been spending more and more time with the same chick I talked about earlier. I got her hooked on BSG and she watched the whole series in a month and has been coming over to my house every Friday to watch it live now that she's caught up.

Last night she left around midnight and I kept thinking about how much I enjoyed spending time with this chick. And then I remembered that one of my biggest problems as far as personal relations is that I never openly express to people how I feel.

So at about the time I thought she would be getting back home, I sent her a text message saying, "I really like you. I'm pretty bad at expressing that sort of sentiment, especially out loud, which this isn't because it's a text message, but yeah."

And a little while later she responded with, "I like you too, Lorizael. I'm not sure yet what to do with that feeling but it's there and I think, no matter how uncomfortable, we should talk about it soon."

And I agreed, and we decided we needed to arrange some alone time so we could talk about it.

So. Will I bang this chick? Or is she going to tell me she likes me but just wants to be friends?

[Kuciwalker]

The two aren't mutually exclusive.

[Traianvs]

I would kiss a girl sooner than saying I like you to her face. Maybe it doesn't sound as ridiculous in English as it does in Dutch, so my comment may be a bit irrelevant here.

That said I think you should take matters in your own hands as quickly as possible and act vigorously. The fact that she's not sure yet is imo not a good sign. After all when a women totally digs you she wants to be with you all the time.

[Winston]

[Provost Harrison]

Actually going from this thread it is interesting just how common the hatred of communicating via phone is. I have no problem with written correspondence or meeting in person...but there's something about phonecalls I hate.

Screw that, invite her over for hot sex. You always know where you stand with a girl after asking that question.

You can always spot the man who has been married for aeons and hasn't dated in ages

[Az]

So, I've been ****ing this chick the last couple of weeks - thing is, she's been dating this guy for 8 years, and he's now pressuring her into getting married, and she doesn't want to. We've been doing it everywhere, outside, on the beach, their place, and she's always left barely standing up on her feet due to the fact that I am making her come like crazy, which leads her to getting real freaky, 'cause she wants to keep me around and satisfied. from the very start she's always messaging me and wants to get together. So far, so good, but the last time we ****ed, we also spent some time talking about stuff, nothing serious, just some small talk about her job - problem is, she later called and and said that she really enjoyed talking to me, for change, and told me that she thinks I am a great guy and very educated. This worries me greatly, since I am not interested in her in that way, and I don't want to ruin their relationship. Help me, 'poly, I don't know what to do, how do I prevent her from falling for me?

[duke o' york]

A post-coital fart in her bed should do the trick nicely.